Potty Training Issues - Ontario,CA

Hi T., you may want to try waiting for a while. Sounds to me like Kelsie is not ready. My son potty trained late, but once he was ready he learned in two days and never had accidents. My daughter was a little earlier than my son, but she still almost 3 when she was ready. Again, didn't take her long to learn once the time was right for her. I've found it's ok to let the time be right for the child and everyone's life is so much easier. Maybe not the opinion you were looking for...but just my perspective. One last thought, this phase won't last forever and you'll get through it!
J.
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Hi T.,
I have gone through and read all of the responses and I have to say that me a mom of five I agree with the moms that say just wait. Your daughter may not be ready for it, and all of her energy is on learning other things try focusing on that. all of my kids were different I had one potty trained at 19 months (from birth she could not stand to be wet or poopy) and one at 3 years old (very active and into sports) and the others at 24 to 33 months so each child is different and it does not make us as moms failures. so live without frustration and enjoy your baby girl! they are so precious when they are little and so rewarding when they grow up. J.

I just potty trained my 31 mth old little girl, but she was ready she had told me that she did not want to wear diapers anymore. But a few weeks prior to this happening I had taken her in for a check up to her Ped. and he had told me not to push it on her when she is ready we will know and that is in fact that is what happened. I did not like the pull ups I think that it confuses them, they are to much like a diaper if I put her in them now she will still pee in them instead of telling me. Now that the weather is nicer take her outside in panties and let her run in the backyard and bring the potty seat outside with you, I had mine in the front room for the longest time, but when she would see it she would use it I also had to ask her every 10 Min. and everytime I gave her something to drink or eat.

It sounds like your daughter is not ready. Some kids potty train early, and after eadinf a lot of the postings on here, I think to many moms are trying to start their kids potty training before they are ready. We got my daughter her first potty seat at around 2 1/2, like your daughter she was all for it at first then lost interest. She'd have accidents and it was more of a hastle than good. I finally just put her back in pull ups full time and a couple days after her 3rd birthday she decided she wanted she was a big girl and didn't need diapers. She turns 4 tomorrow and the only time she has had accidents is a couple time during naps if she forgot to go before. Give your daughter a little break and let her decide when is the right time. She might feel pressured. Our pediatrician said 3 is a good age to potty train. It's amazing what 5 months can do. Good luck and don't stress about it...your daughter can sense that!

Just save some money for a new carpet. She wont train in pull-ups - she cannot feel she's wet - - - You need to have more patience and accept you will probably have to replace the carpet when it's all over...

While it is running down her leg - don't say anything - just whisk her up in your arms and fly her to the bathroom - go ahead and sit her on the pot mid-stream - eventually she will start to learn to associate the two...

I have found if you don't force it, it may happen when she is ready. I had the same issue with my daughter. One day she woke up and decided she was ready. Although going "number 2" on the toilet is still a struggle, I am trying to use the same approach. I think with my daughter it is a control issue, as she is very strong willed.
Patience is always the hardest when you are ready for your child to get to the next level and they are not!
Good Luck,
S.

Dear T.,

Well, some two and one half year olds just are not interested in potty training yet. My 2 1/2 year old gr grandson isn't, I think that he is just too busy learning all sorts of other things to be concerned about potty business. She will be o.k., just let it go for a while. Sometimes when you stop pushing, they take it upon themselves to do it.
No kidding, it is true. Think about when your Mom or someone has wanted you to do something, and you resist. Then, suddenly you decide to do it yourself. It works, human beings are that way, they are very independent and do not like to be forced. So let it go, and keep the diapers on her to save the floors. Remember little kids don't know everything that we do. Think about something else for a while. C. N.

Take the potty to her and go cold turkey.
I put the toilet in our main living area and stripped her down. It worked like a charm and she only had a few accidents. The catch is to ONLY potty train for a a few days and let the rest of the world go by. I didn't have to nag or whine or beg her to go.I stayed out of it and it was her decision. At leasrt it felt like that to her. Once her pants were off and her potty wasn't in the bathroom (she resisted taking time to actually GO into the bathroom) she went on her own. Even #2!! Good luck.

My son is in the exact same boat (almost). He is 29 months and knows that he needs to go, tells me that he needs to/ is going, but WON'T use the potty. If I take off his diaper and leave him naked or in underwear he will hold it... FOR HOURS! Even if I take off his diaper mid-poop, he will hold the rest of it for 3+ hours until I finally put a diaper back on him. I have decided to put potty training on hold for the next month, then try again.

There is a lot of transition happening in our house right know, so I didn't want to create ANOTHER stress, for either of us! (My Brother-in-law and his two kids finally got their own place, so their moving out. They have lived here since I was only about 12 weeks pregnant, so my son doesn't understand why they're not in their rooms anymore. :-( Because I know he is worried about them and it stresses him to not be able to find them, I didn't want to force the potty issue right now.) As long as they are trained by age 3, they are about average, so don't worry to much for now.

Let me know if you find a "magic cure" for the "Anti-Potty-Trained Child". I could use the reassurance as well. ~J.