My daughter will be 3 next month and is enrolled to start preschool this fall. She will go on the potty when you tell her to. However, she will not tell when she has to go. I have tried many different things to try and encourage her to tell or to go to the potty by herself, but so far she still mostly tells after she has already gone. Any ideas? I'm getting worried that she won't be potty trained before school starts.
I just viewed this.. Very interesting video. You may want to see it. "Potty training in one day". Was on the Today Show.
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/25057503/
Hope it helps!
I am certainly going to use this info with my 2 1/2 yr. old
Blessings, C.
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www.3daypottytraining.com
Trust me it works. It took me 3 days to potty train my 2 1/2 year old son. Good luck!
The best way is to catch her before she goes. There are a lot of books out there, we used "Potty training in less than a day". It encourages them to go without telling, it does take a committed day to do it. If your daughter is in panties full time, then take her to the potty 15 min or so after she wakes up and take her every hour after she goes. Keep her in panties, and keep giving her lots of fluids so that she can recognize the urge. But really, I was resistant to getting a book, and that is what finally helped us. I took the baby to a sitter, and spent 4 hours alone with her, and it was amazing, but a lot of work in that 4 hours. Good luck.
I'm with you....my SON will go when asked, ONLY if asked and is starting school in the fall and turned 3, this past April.
T., That old famous line, she will do it when she is ready!
BUT, Try this, Have a potty party, when you take her in to go, and she does, have a potty party! put on some music, (or not)
dance, sing, offer gifts! Try a small charm bracelet, add charms when she goes on her own, or stickers Or a happy chart, with smiles when she goes, a wild smiley if she tells you or goes on her own. If she wets (not in the potty) just have her change, don't make a big deal. Good luck, (mom of 5 grown.)
K.
Ours was a matter of vocabulary. She never "had to go potty" but one day something clicked and she "had potty waiting". Even still if you ask her, she will answer no to the first and yes to potty waiting. She didn't actually start until about the same age as your daughter, and 4 months later we are 100 % potty trained, even at night. Once they get the hang of it, it usually happens quick.
Keep asking!! My 3 1/2 yr old wouldn't tell us for the longest time (boy...) But then one day he ran himself into the bathroom and went!! It takes time and the right amount of maturity to accomplish it. I still ask him but if he has to go, he just goes in and takes care of business himself then calls me if he needs help.
It will happen eventually. Preschools are used to having to ask the kids and making emergency potty runs... Relax, it will happen on her time.
Good luck!
Maybe it's just too early. Im probably the pessimist here, but I feel (personally speaking) that we push our kids WAY too early. I had somebody ask me if my son was starting preschool at 3 and I was shocked! No way...Im going to get WAY too little time here at home with him anyway, Im not going to put him in preschool for two years in a row and then ship him off to K. As for socialization, he gets plenty of play with other kids on the 2 days that I work. My son was not potty trained until right about 3 because he wasn't ready and I had no intention of making it a battle! When it finally happened, (the day I returned from the hospital, post c-sec with another baby) it was a breeze. I know that's not the answer to your question, and I surely don't mean to lecture anybody...I just fear that we are raising a generation of kids who aren't given time to properly 'be kids'!
Wish I had magic answers for you...LOL!
~L.
I'm in the same situation as you, only my daughter won't turn three until October and she is starting pre-school this fall also. She will go to the potty when you tell her to. I know she knows that she has to go and I know that she knows what to do when she needs to go, but she won't go on her own. I have heard from a few different people that instead of using pull-ups, they took their child shopping and had them pick out their own underpants. Not the padded ones or the plastic that goes over the underpants either, just regular big kid underpants. The theroey behind it is that whith them picking out their own underpants, the potty training goes alot faster because the child doesn't want to ruin something that they picked out on their own. My sister did that and she said it took her son like two weeks before he didn't have any accidents. Yes, I know it's going to be a messy at first, but isn't it worth a try? If I can save a few bucks in the long run by only buying pull-ups for the night time and it will get her to realize that it's ok to use the potty without mom or dad asking her to then I'm willing to try it. As a matter of fact, I asked my daughter yesturday if we took her to the store and let her pick out her own underpants, if she would start using the potty without us asking and she said yes in a very excited voice. So we are going to start doing that this week. Good Luck, and I hope this helps both of us.
Each kid is different. I'll tell you about mine. My child was not potty trained until 3 1/2. He started kindegarten at 4 1/2 and he did attend preschool. I could not get him potty trained no matter what, but I also didn't push it too much. I guess many experts say they will do it when they are ready. Well he was finally ready at 3 1/2 and he never had even the slighest accident after. I guess when he was ready...he was fully ready. He was able to go to preschool and it all worked out. One tip I do have is NO PULL-UPS. When my son was ready to be potty trained he would pee in his pull-ups at night, but not underwear. The pull-ups feel like diapers to kids and I guess they think that gives them permission. Good luck to you...I'm sure it will work itself out.
Dear T. B.,
I am not sure how a little one figures out the bodily "feeling" when she has to actually go potty. But we started our granddaughter with M & M's for a reward and we praised her a lot and clapped our hands and said things like, "Yeah for Brena. What a big girl you are now that you are learning to potty in the potty chair like a big girl." She really liked the praise and clapping and after a couple of weeks we did not even need the candy any more. We also told her that we had some pretty "big girl" panties for her to wear when she quit peeing in her diaper/pull-up.
The praises seem to work the best but potty training is something you cannot rush if your child is not ready yet. I rushed my oldest and had nothing but problems. I waited for my youngest daughter to tell me she wanted to potty in the potty chair and be a big girl and never had any trouble potty training her. It was night and day difference.
L. C.
