Potty Training Help Asap

Not pooping on the toilet at this age is NOT a discipline issue at all. He may not be ready. Many kids do NOT poop during the day while at school. This is VERY normal.

The pull up situation - WHY would he be left in his pull up ALL DAY?? Do the teachers know that you are sending him off to school in one? Maybe he should wear underwear, you pack extra clothes and when he has an accident, they change him? He is more likely to stay dry this way, especially since preschools have the kids on a bathroom routine. I wouldn't worry about him not pooping at school. Give him ample time after breakfast to relax and try to go - or maybe it's an evening thing for him? My son goes almost everyday at night or shortly after school (he is very regular) but no way will he go at school or anywhere public - that is just his thing.

Also don't confuse night time potty training with day time. They are different.

Lastly - nothing to feel guilty about (except being OK with him being in a wet pull up all day) other than that, you didn't wait too long - it's always best to wait until they are ready. Some kids are ready at 2, some at 4! Each kid is different.

Pack the extra clothes/underwear, mention to the teacher that he is newly pottied trained and I'm sure things will be fine. Also, if you notice that he starts to stay dry at school but has accidents at home - try to keep the same routine at home that he has at school, regular trips to the bathroom, etc..

One more thing - try not to make any of this a big deal. Kids will respond to the stress and the last thing you want is him holding in his poop because he is afraid to go. This can lead to some serious issues down the road (speaking from firsthand experience here).

Best wishes!
M.

Wait. Let me get this straight. They let him sit in a wet pull-up ALL DAY???? This is not even my kid and I am seeing red! This is completely unacceptable and illegal. They need to have their licensing yanked! Poor kid! This is not a potty-training issue Mama, this is an issue of the preschool FAILING to provide adequate care for your child! If it were me, I'd yank my kid out of that school so fast their heads would spin. Then I'd file a complaint with the state licensing board. That is unbelievable!

HI S., At over 3, I really believe you need to start some discipline. You mentioned He can go to the potty for pee-pee but not pooping at all sweetie that's not physically possible, anybody can poop in a toilet, he may be refussing, but that is a choice he makes. You did wait to long, but can't change that, but you can change what you allow him to get away with. I started training mine between 19 and 20 months, so by age 2 they would be trained. At 3 sweetie he should be waking up dry on a regular bases. I think once you start a reward and discipline routine for his potty training. I have potty trained so many kids over the past 12 years running my daycare, not to mention my own 3, and I found it fairly easy for the most part. I'm surprised that being potty trained is not a requirement, for his pre school, In don't take children if they are over 2 and not potty trained. J.

The more you stress, the more he's going to feel it, and the less likely he will cooperate. You can make a kid sit on the potty all day, you cannot make the poop come out! Be careful with this one, my son would hold it for DAYS until he was miserable with a tummy ache - I stopped pushing the issue and when he was ready, closer to four years old, he started pooping on the potty. He would only go while we were at home, so going out on playdates, or visiting the zoo or grandma's were not issues for us. I had him home with me (no preschool) until he was four and a half - maybe this is a sign that your son is not emotionally ready for preschool yet (yes, he will do just fine in life if he doesn't start his school career at three!). Patience patience patience... and with the peeing, if he can do it and you know he can, hold him to that expectation - not in a mean way - just don't use the pullups (during the day), and take him to the potty regularly. And by the way, don't worry about the post saying he should be dry every morning by now - every child's body is different, and waking up dry is not something he can control. Children's sleep cycles and needs are different than our own, and we actually have a hormone in our body that causes our body to create less urine at night - MOST people's body starts creating this hormone between 3-6 years old, but some don't until age 10 or later! Don't stress and think this is all your fault! And please don't punish or belittle him for waking up wet, or not pooping on the potty. And talk to the preschool teachers, no, they shouldn't be expected to change "diapers" (which is essentially what a pullup is), BUT they also shouldn't let your son sit in a wet pullup all day - at potty time for the rest of the class, he should be directed to the bathroom as well to try to use it, and if he is wet, he should be given a new pullup and directions from a teacher on how to change it (take off your shoes first, then your pants, now put on clean pull up, pull up your pants, and I'll help you with your shoes) - you can practice this at home too! :) You can do this! It's just a matter of time when you'll be through it and onto the next challenge!

Hello, My youngest son had "accidents" when he started kindergarten. I packed pants for a while, then had to tell him that this was just not working and he needed to make it to the bathroom on time. That worked. Of course, he was much older than your son. I am more concerned with why they didn't change his pull ups. Also, when he is at home, can you put on the thin little boy underwear? When I trained each of our four kids, as well as several "daycare" kids, and grandsons, I used the thin ones. They hated have the urine go down their legs. End of problem, it took one day for training (except for the one who played too hard at school and had his accidents).
Good luck with your precious little boy.
K. K.

Hi S.,
We told our son "no more diapers" when he was 35 months old. We said he had to be trained for school (even though he didn't). We put him in underwear and he had a couple of pee accidents the first day or so then the 2nd day he pooped on the potty and said, "That wasn't scary!" and that was it.

Your is already half way there. Tell him he has to do it and hopefully he'll listen.