My 4 1/2 year old son is finally using the potty very well with little to no accidents during the day however we stll cannot make it through the night. It's been a while since my oldest has been through this stage so I can't quite remember at what age she made it through the night. I encourage him all the time to try and wake up without being pushy about it. We stop the intake of drinks after meal time and always go one last time before bedtime. Is it still too soon? Am I expecting too much? I feel like I am doing everything right with no results. My husband thinks that because he is wearing a pull-up to bed that we are making it easier for him to keep going in his sleep. I always encourage my son to wake up dry for a treat of some kind...still can't do it. I have tried in the past at my husbands request to stop putting a pull-up on him. I believe I washed bedding everyday for two weeks and than gave up. My husband still insists that I shouln't be putting one on him.....easy for him to say he is not doing the laundry. Is there anybody out there that can relate?
Thanks Everyone. Sometime I need a little confermation on issues. Usually it's my husband but we don't see eye to eye on this subject. Just because my husbands a Camel when it comes to going to the bathroom doesn't meen the rest of the world is or a child for that matter! Thanks again!
I don't know about everyone else, but i have 3 sons, and NONE ever made it thru the night at that early age,
the only way would be if i woke thru the night and put them on the potty,
And honestly , it simply didn't mean that much to me as a mile stone LOL,
Use a pull up and try putting him on the potty before you go to bed,
M
As always, every child is different, and you never know what might work for you. My son did okay for several months overnight, and then had accidents every other day for a few weeks. I took away the sippy cup all together, and that seems to be the difference. I had already stopped the cup before dinner and that wasn't enough, so he is only allowed a regular cup. Knock on wood... that helps!
I know that two of my nephews, in different families, had much trouble way past your son's age. The pediatrician's didn't help much, just time.
I wish you luck and lots of patience with your little guy!
D.: Tell your hubby it's not about the Pull-Ups b/c we have the opposite effect in my house with my 5 1/2 yr daughter. She has been potty trained since a few weeks before her 3rd B-day but nite time is still a struggle. We go through phases, 4 to 8 weeks of dry Pull Ups, I get tired of buying them plus they're expensive! I go without the Pull Ups and then she wets again, but in my house we all bed hop, so last week alone I changed the sheets and mattress covers 3 times on 3 different beds! UGH! That is not fun on top of all the other laundry I have!
We've tried limiting drinks before bed, having her go potty before bed, again when we go to bed, it just doesn't matter sometimes. She is a heavy sleeper, and when she's out she's out! My MIL told me just this weekend that my hubby wet the bed until he was about 8- he's a deep sleeper as well.
My almost 4 yr old has been potty trained since before she was 3 as well, but did not wet at nite for many months before that. She continues to stay dry at nite, no Pull Ups needed for her.
Bottom line, every kid is different and goes at their own pace. Your son probably won't be wetting the bed on his wedding day,-but there are pills for that! I feel your frustration. Your son is still young and the Pull-Ups can save you alot of headache. If your hubby insists, have him changing the sheets and running the laundry loads, I bet he'll change his tune real quick! Good luck!
I have an "almost 3 yr old" who has not wet at night since about 18 months. He did on the other hand pee during the day up until a few months ago. I have heard that boys take longer than girls, but I think it is the child themself. When they are ready, they will do it. I have a niece who is 6 1/2 that wets just about every night. She even had her bladder checked to see if it's "too small". NOPE- She just wets at night. Apparently, she is not ready to be trained at night. Her parents will not give her a drink past 6pm- they make her pee 3 times before bed, and wake her up once during the night to pee- but she STILL has accidents almost evey night. My son on the other hand will have a full cup of milk right before bed- and, like I said, has been night trained before he was day trained. I am very lucky with that one- and can only hope my 2nd son will get it that early too- but if he doesn't, I know it will be because he is not ready. I hope this helps....
I am in the same situation. My son is 4 years, 3 months and has been "day" trained since 3 but still needs pull ups at night. I too, tried not using them, changing the type etc with no luck (other than lots of extra laundry). I have been told my MANY other moms as well as my doctor that this is TOTALLY NORMAL for children under 6 to still wet at night. It does not become a bedwetting issue until after age 6. My nephew is 5 and still wears a diaper because he has so much urine at night. They say that many children sleep so soundly that they just are not triggered to wake up. At this point I would not make a big deal of it. We stopped trying to use reinforcements to get him to not wet because we realized that it was beyond his ability right now. They are not doing it because they are lazy, they just can not. You can do a google search on this issue and show your hubby how this is totally normal and some reasons why some stay dry and some do not. I know it is frustrating, believe me - I have a 3 year old who has slept through the night with nothing since age 2 1/2. But I keep telling myself that my oldest is still a baby - 4 years is hardly grown and this to shall pass. Hope this helps!
I was very lucky with my oldest, she isn't three yet and is potty trained, day and night. I just make sure that she doesn't get any liquids after dinner time and that she goes potty at least 2 times before bed. She has had very few accidents since starting training. Good luck, all will work out in dew time.
I hope you can talk your husband out of wanting to keep the pull up off of your son. My boy/girl twins are five years old and my son still wets his pull up every night. I don't worry about it at all because I've read that boys take longer to develop the hormone needed to slow down the need to urinate at night. My son is also a very hard sleeper so he's unable to wake himself. I never say anything to him about it because I know when he's ready and able, he'll use the potty. Please don't worry about your son. It's a very common thing and bringing it to his attention will only hurt him.
Hello D.,
my name is B. and my advice to you is this...I had a lil one that did the same thing for 7 years. I took him to doctors and no luck. I was told that he is a deep sleeper, and that in time he would stop urinating. He did, 7 years later. I dont believe in drugs and I certainly dont believe in punishing him for something he has no control with, it only deepens the problem.You sound like a gentle mom and my advice is to not pressure him with treats, and any incintives, and he will stop in time. too much pressure on the lil guy can make him continue to have this problem. I hope this helps.The fact your reaching out for outside help, shows your a caring mom, so never give up. He will be a shining star one day...like my son. Good luck!
2 things. 1 is that some children do not get control over the night time for a long time...11 years old. So, 4 1/2 is not so old right? 2nd is that you could put underwear underneath his pull-up so he can feel very wet. I would suggest not making a big deal out of it. If it really bothers you, or your husband, make an appointment for a consultation with his primary doctor and discuss this issue in depth with both parents and doctor. Good luck, you are doing great!
My son is 4 1/2 too and I have the same situation. It is getting better each day now I'm happy to report.. I put a pull up on him before bedtime, he uses the toilet and then I wake him up once during the night and have him use the toilet. He is still basically asleep but he walks in ther with me, urinates then goes right beck to sleep. In the moring, he is dry. It left me feeling tired for a few days but the results were positive. Now, he gets up on his own if he has to go in the mddle fo the night. We've had dry nights 75% of the time. Not quite confident yet, but I feel we're on the righ track! Good luck!
