Potty Training; Can Pee in Potty but Not Poop!

Updated on March 08, 2011
K.C. asks from Boise, ID
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My daughter was interested in the potty very early-around 19 months. She is great with peeing in the potty (she is 25 months old now and talks in complete sentences and understands what I try to explain to her). She either tells me she has to go pee or just goes and uses the potty. We rarely have a peeing accident. But she cannot get the pooping in the potty down. If I can tell she needs to go we sit on it and go no problem. But if I don't catch it, she goes in her pants and then tells me she did it. I've tried stickers and even treats but she still won't tell me before she goes in her pants (she is wearing underwear during the day-a diaper at night). Any advice on how to get her to this next step?

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A.V.

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I find that pooping is often well after peeing. This has been many friends' experience with their kids. My DD is better about pee, too, and we keep trying to catch her so she'll poop IN the potty instead of just before we get there.

I think some of it is just that it's another function and harder for them to control. My DD can say, "Pee and poop go in the potty. I should poop in the potty and not in my diaper" but saying and doing are different things. I'd just keep working on it. She'll get there eventually.

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D.P.

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Could she be afraid that her poop is "part of her"? Kids get weird ideas like that!
Have you tried a book about pooping in the potty (Once Upon A Potty-Girl Version)?
Have you explained that poop is waste from food after her body gets the vitamins it needs and so it must come out?
Those concepts helped us.
It's normal, though, for #2 training to come after #1 training--she'll get it!

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L.T.

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Recently just had the same issue with my 3 year old son, but it's been a few weeks and he pooped on the toilet all by himself the other day! It was very exciting! I've heard it's a pretty normal thing for them to learn how to poop on the potty after they learn how to pee. With my son, he knew what he was suppose to do, but he was used to just squatting and going in his pants. It's been about 2 months since he started potty training. He pees in the toilet all day long and stays dry at night, but he is still learning how to poop on the toilet. Don't worry too much. Rewards don't work with my son either. Alot of moms suggested reading to my son while he was trying to poop on the potty, but that didn't work for us. I guess they idea is to get her to relax as much as possible. Goodluck! I'm sure she will get the hang of it soon:)

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L.P.

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My son went throughh the same thing. I think the sensation of the poop falling bothered him. Just be patient, she'll get there :)

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D.M.

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She's young, I think it will just take more time... hang in there!

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T.W.

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My oldest was just like this, he potty trained in one day super early and never an accident but didn't get the poopy thing. One day when we were camping my husband made a game out of it and had him go in the trees. He thought that was the coolest thing ever and we never had a problem again. Maybe it is just finding what makes it fun for her. Who knows.

I also trained my middle boy potty and poopy in one day through bribery. Not just stickers, I actually got a huge bowl full of dollar store toys and candy. When he used the toilet he got to rummage through and pick one toy. Before we even started I let him dig through the bowl so he could see what was in there first to give him some incentive. It worked like a charm.

Basically you just need to figure out what works for her. She is plenty ready, she just needs to connect the dots. Sometimes with poopy it is not that easy.

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K.D.

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Both my kids have been this way. There are two things that worked:
1. You have to find the thing that will motivate your child. If she won't do it for treats what reward will she do it for? My daughter (2 and a half) is reveling in being a "big girl" and so all her rewards are about being a big girl now.
2. Neither one really got it until I had them help me clean out the dirty underwear (with a good scrubbing of hands afterwards!). Once I did that they both understood how gross it was and tried really hard to make it to the potty. I basically told them both they were a big boy/big girl and that it was their responsibility now (and of course I helped them do it).
Rewards + natural consequences = results (for me)

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J.N.

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Just be patient. There are different muscles and nerve connections for going poop than pee. The good thing is she tells you, so you can get her changed right away.

We had this problem with my oldest. Part of the problem also was she was just to busy to sit long enough to go. When grandma sat in the bathroom and read to her as she sat on the potty (at a time we were pretty sure she had to go), she was willing to wait long enough. Then it took a few more times with me reading to her before she was really able to go on her own. It also helped when she looked at it afterwards (sounds gross, but she wanted to see).

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