So I finally bit the bullet after like 3 months or sorta potty training my 2 year old (almost 3) we were doing the easy-ups and she was real lackadaisical about it, when she felt like it she used the potty, when she didn't feel like getting up she'd go in the easy up. I just put her in training panties and said "okay, if you pee in these it's going to be messy and you'll have to clean it up" She literally had one TINY accident (probably testing my theory) and sure enough, it made a mess and she hated it. We're on day 5 of big girl panties during the day and easy-ups at night. Now here's my question. She's still in a crib, she doesn't try to climb out and I can still put her in the crib if I need to do something and make sure she's staying in one spot (like sex with my husband if he gets a break from work and can come home ;) ) WELL, even though the potty training has been going good we put her in the easy-up for car rides and night time, she got upset when she had to go potty in the diaper in the car yesterday and last night after we put her to bed at 7 she woke up at 8:30 crying because she needed to pee, got her out of bed, she went and then went back to sleep.. then again at 5 am crying because she needed to pee, went to potty then straight back to bed no problems. We're moving March 30, at our new house we are going to change her crib to a toddler bed because our rooms are going to be a little farther apart. My husband thinks that this weekend while she's at my moms (she sleeps in a full size bed there all the time and doesn't really have issues with her getting up at night) I should change her bed so that if she needs to pee at night she can get up and go by herself or come get me and tell me if she's scared because it's dark. If we do that then we'll pepper the house with night lights so she's not hurting herself. While I think he's probably right I wanted to hold on to the crib for as long as I could :(. She's an amazing sleeper and I don't want to change her sleep habits but it might be easier for her to be able to get out of bed and make it to the potty in time than cry and wait for me to come get her then get her to the potty... Plus husband thinks the new house will be less of an adjustment if she's used to her "new" big girl bed... I'm torn because once I convert her bed it's not like I can switch it back. Once she gets that taste of freedom I won't be able to take it away easily. What do you mom's think? If we do the toddler bed then I'm going to order one of those clocks that lets them know when it's okay to get out of bed and wake us up.. She can reach her light in her room and we keep the house super clean so she won't be tripping over anything. I need some advice from mom's who are in my situation or have been.. what did you do? how did it work? any regrets? I'm thinking the plus is that if she can get out of bed on her own she can come get me versus her screaming and waking everyone up, the down side is that she can get out of bed on her own and wake me up. LOL.
Lucia first off you must have something up your @$$ today because NOWHERE in my question did it say ANYTHING about me not wanting to go get her to bring her potty, I'm pretty sure I said I got her up TWICE last night to do so. My question was about if she could get up on her own to get me if that would be better. I said I didn't want her waking the whole house up. And FYI she's going on FIVE days of potty training full time so yeah, she wears the easy-ups at night because she doesn't always wake up but glad you're the know-all authority on the subject. Sorry if me not wanting to deal with her being upset and cleaning up pee every night makes me a shitty parent. I'm selfish for restraining her in a crib? are you out of your mind? She's TWO, she LOVES her crib, if she didn't she would be trying to climb out and we would have transitioned a long time ago. Just because you're having a bad day doesn't mean you get to be rude, next time if you want to be rude find a post you can legitimately be rude about. Just saying. And the car thing.. once again we're going on FIVE days i'm not going to stop at a gas station a minute from the house with a 12 week old and her just because she hasn't learned how to hold it in yet. You're insane. And to answer your question, no I don't wear adult diapers, I'm potty trained and I can hold my bladder as I've had years and years of practice. Really?
Maybe a big girl bed, gate on the door and a potty in the room? I think it's kind of amazing that she is showing the desire to potty train at night!
Is she able to get to the potty and pull her pants/easyups down on her own without getting you first? If so, thne I would change to the bed but if not, I dont see why you have to get her out of hte crib. It'll take just as much time for you to go to her when she cries as it would for her to come to you when she has to go. The only time you would want to get her out of a crib esp. when shes such a fantastic sleeper would be if she was climbing out (for safety reasons).
As for using the easyups for car rides and such, I think you should stop that. You're sending her mixed signals by saying its OK to pee in your diaper. the easyups at night should be for backup only (in case she can't hold it). If you make sure she pees before you leave the house, she'll be able to hold it for short car rides. My husband and I were nervous when we first potty trained our son a few weeks ago but we just made sure he peed whenever we left and brought extra change of underwear and pants and we have yet to have an accident on the road (knock on wood). Good luck!
Time for her big girl bed for sure!
Next time you are in the car, take her potty before leaving the house, put on her big girl panties & take her to potty when she needs to go, there isn't many things in this world more frustrating than having to pee & someone NOT stopping so you can go!
I know this is going to sound harsh but you are being a bit selfish by restraining your daughter in a crib. You are using easy ups at night to make life easier for you not her. She obviously doesn't like using them and knows to use the potty. Now if she was having trouble staying dry through the night because she couldn't wake up to go that would be a completely different story. But she is waking to go (good for her!) and you are too lazy to get up and take her? Sorry Mommy but you are putting off the inevitable. She is ready, you need to be ready too. Is it easy? Heck no! But it is necessary. Trust me you will get through this. Oh, and not stopping the car for her to use a restroom? Do you wear adult diapers on the road too? Just curious. And no, I'm not trying to attack you, we all have parenting struggles (I have four kids and still new things come up) , just trying to put things into perspective is all.
EDIT: Okay, looks like whatever you accused me of having up my @$$ made its way to yours. Honestly though, in your defense I was a bit snarky in my comments, perhaps I needed my morning coffee. But you have to admit, I did warn you "this may seem harsh". That said, you need to remember to take what you need on this forum and leave what you don't behind. You will not agree with everyone on here. While I don't take back all of my thoughts on this matter, I do apologize for being harsh and I'm truly sorry I hurt your feelings.
You need to make it as easy as possible on her to get up and get you to go potty. Sounds like she is night training, and you need to encourage this.
Neither of my kids got out of their beds when we made the switch. They were tucked in and told to go to bed, and that was that.
if you don't own one, get yourself a portable potty. They come in really handy for when new trainers need to go and you aren't near a toilet. I just pull over to teh side of the road and let them go.
i believe once they are potty trained its time to switch because they need to be able to get up and down when they gotta go potty,
She is too old for a toddler bed. They are built for toddlers who are from 12 months to 24 months. They can be used a bit longer for smaller kids but by the age of 2 most kids are too heavy for a baby bed mattress and they don't sleep well on it anymore.
So skip the toddler bed all together.
I would keep her in the baby bed after the move.
1. she is used to it
2. she is going to be a little traumatized from not being at home anymore
3. why introduce even more changes while moving
4. it will offer her security, the layout of the new house will take time to learn
5. put a twin, full, or queen size bed in the room with her and let her start taking her nap on the big bed. She will get used to it and feel more secure quicker.
Good job with the potty training.
Personally, I would have kept my kids in their bed until they were four if I could have. My son slept happily in his until a little after he turned 3 and he was potty training at the time too. Unfortunately, my daughter was quite the escape artist and learned to crawl out around 2. At this age, most likely you will have to help her go potty at night either way. Whether it's because she's poking you and crying in your room or crying from her bed, the outcome is generally the same. And she may be like my nieces, even in their big girl beds, they won't leave. They simply bellow for mommy or daddy from their bed (and their oldest is 5!). The transition for my daughter to a big girl bed was tough. She refused to nap, so those were gone almost immediately. She got up all hours of the night , simply because she could. It did not make her potty train any faster. I say if it ain't broke don't fix it. Leave her in her crib.
My kids all did the potty day and night time at the same time. I never had to do diapers or anything in the night but I would only caution you on one thing as your daughter seems to be doing great. When you move it will be an adjustment to her and she may not do well having to adjust to a move PLUS a new bed. If it was me I'd do the crib for a bit simply because it's something she's used to and secure in until a month of so after you are settled in the new house. That's just my opinion and you know how well your own daughter takes change. She's used to the bed at her grandma's and to going to her house. This will be a new situation.
If she's almost three, I would certainly skip the toddler bed and move her straight into a real bed. Toddler beds are really worthless, in my opinion. We've already moved our 20 month old into a regular bed (from a toddler bed that I wish I had never purchased) and she sleeps much better. My oldest never had a crib or a toddler bed...she slept on a crib mattress on the floor with bedrails, and when she was about 16 months she moved to a regular bed with a bedrail and that was that.
To clarify, the reason I think toddler beds are worthless is that while they're adorable, they are the same size as a crib and easily outgrown...and then you have an extra transition to make when you move to a regular bed. I think it's easier just to transition to a regular bed.
Honestly, I can't even imagine what it's like to have a toddler in a crib. :) I've never been able to pen my children that way...must be nice, is all I can think. :)
Our daughter never slept in her crib. We went from co-sleeping to her being in a twin bed at 18 months and then to a queen size bed. We didn't want to waste money on a toddler bed....plus most cribs convert to a toddler bed, if you take off the front rail. We just put a rail on her bed and all was good.
Our 2 boys did the same thing, come to think of it. My kids were all potty trained at 2 years and 4 months-ish. They would get up and go pee. I told them to stay in bed until the sun comes up. They did.
Now, we homeschool, so the kids get up at 6am or earlier (on their own accord) and start their work, so by the time I get up at 6:30-8am, depending on the night I had with the baby, they are almost done with their work.
I think the transition will be easier than you think.
I went through a similar decision when we potty trained my son. We moved him to a twin bed about a month after potty training, but he was a good bit younger than your daughter. Our pediatrician recommended moving him at 18 months because the first time they try to climb out of the crib could result in serious injury and you have no idea when she might try. If you are moving soon I might just wait, but either way I'd make it a really big deal that she's a big girl now. Our son picked out new car sheets and helped us take down the crib he was so excited. A note on the potty training, he's been day trained for over a year and night trained for almost a year and even though he can easily get out of bed and put himself on the potty he won't. If he wakes up and has to go he calls us to come in, which in all honesty is sometimes better because he will yell potty in a half-sleeping state and after he pees he goes right back to sleep. I think he would have to wake up a bit more in order to think through the steps of getting out of bed and going to the bathroom. We keep his little potty seat in his room so that it's not a big deal to take him at night when he has to go.
In reference to the car I never used pull ups during the day because I didn't feel like it was consistent enough for him. I kept a little potty seat and a pack of wipes in the trunk and we pulled over whenever he said he had to go, so maybe you could try that if she's upset about having to pee in her easy up.
We had the same issue. We daytime trained DS at 25 months but left him in pull ups at night (he was fine with it) initially because he was still in a crib. We finally just bit the bullet and switched to underwear at about 28 months. Amazingly - he only called for us to come and take him to the bathroom a few times, otherwise he slept through the night dry. Taking him to the bathroom right before bed helped a lot. We switched to a toddler bed at a little over 3 years (he was perfectly happy in his crib). We had purchased the toddler bed conversion kit when we bought the crib, so why not use it. We switched to a twin bed when he was 4. He is 6 and still occasionally falls out. Of course my sister occasionally fell out of bed through high school :).
