I need some advise --- My son (he's 2 1/4) and is in the middle of potty training (we're about 4 days into it) and he's doing pretty well. We're having about 2 pee accidents a day and we are doing #1 & #2 in the potty just sometimes for #1 he forgets to tell me (I can usually catch #2 before it happens). He really isn't telling me yet for #1 it's just me being proactive & watching him when I see the signs taking him & sometimes we get lucky (he's very open to it & goes and tries w/o issue):)
My question is --what should I do about Mother's Day Out that he'll start in 2 weeks assuming we're not fully trained yet? I mean what's the etiquette?
I only do pull-ups at nap & night so he's in regular underwear during the day so I don't want to regress and go to pull-ups during the day. I'm realistic and I know with 6 other kids the teacher won't be able to fully concentrate on my son's potty training and take him to try all the time & always ask him, etc like I can do at home but I also don't want him dirtying their floors & the teachers having to clean it...:) What do other's do in the same situation? I'm sure I'm not the first person in this situation and neither or the teachers, they've taught the class/age the last 2 years. He'll be in the 2 year old class room so I'm sure there will be other kids going through the same things as well.
I'm hoping in the next 2 wks it won't be an issue but I'm realistic knowing that theres a good chance that we'll probably not be fully trained and I want to be prepared. By the time school starts we'll have been doing this for 3 weeks. I plan on talking w/the teacher when we do meet-the-teacher & see what she says but I wanted to get other mom's imput that have already been through it.
How long do you keep doing what your doing until you figure out their not going to "get it" or it's "not clicking" meaning their not telling you when they need to go. I can tell he "knows" what he should do. When I started using cartoons as his prize the accidents drastically decreased....:) I really do think he "gets it" as he has come and told me a few times in the last 4 days he needed to go. I'm just wondering what the normal time frame is for boys on telling you they need to go. When will it start being the norm? Thanks so much!!
Until he's consistently going on his own, do pull ups at MDO. I do childcare in my home and those kind of messes are better left for Mom to clean up. Trust me.
My son is also a young 2 and potty training. I'm only training him now b/c he likes going potty, and has most of the readiness signs, except for telling me when he needs to go. Sometimes he tells me, but like you, I'm being proactive and taking him frequently. I know it means this might be a longer process than I would like, but I also don't want to push him too hard, or he might regress. I also don't want to go backwards since he is doing so well. With going to MDO, I would suggest he wears pull ups while he's there unless he can tell the teachers when he needs to go. I've worked in daycare before, and it's very difficult to take just one child to the restroom so often unless they tell us they need to go. It's also difficult on the child if he's having a lot of accidents in school. He might do really well if he's around other kids who are going potty, though, and it could make things easier. But on the other hand, he might get so busy that he forgets he needs to go and have more accidents. I've seen it both ways and it really depends on each individual kid. I would say don't push it too much, he is still young, especially for a boy. I would love it if my son was completely potty trained by the time I have my baby in November, but I'm not too worried about it b/c I know it will happen whenever he's fully ready.
Ultimately, you have to do what you are comfortable with and what you think is best for him. I do work in childcare, and the teachers should realize that at this age potty training is something they have to work on. They should be taking the whole class at regular intervals to go potty (when I have this age, I take a group every 30mins-1 hour and insist that each child at least tries). If he is not in pull-ups during the day, then I would try to continue that while in MDO. However, childcare workers in any setting are not going to realisticly put as much attention into potty training as you would, especially if they have a lot of kids. I sometimes put panties(I have a girl) on and then put pull ups on over the underwear, when we were still working on potty training. That way, they still feel the yuck of wet underwear, but the mess stays in the pants. Whatever you decide, just be sure to talk to his teachers and let them know if he is in underwear/pullups and how ofter you think he should be taken to restroom. That way the workers/teachers know what your expectations and his needs are. As far as potty-training advice in general, just remain patient. Plan for accidents; they will happen. Children's brains don't reason like we do, so it's hard to tell if "they get it", and even when they fully understand, they are still children and will be childishly irresponsible (not in a negative way-just b/c they are kids, if that makes sens) and have accidents. Also, keep in mind, that he may be excited at MDO b/c of new toys/kids, so the likelyhood of an accident is increased.
We are in the exact same position with our daughter. We are three weeks into training with success after two false starts and MDO starts in two weeks. I asked at our church about it. They actually see assisting with the training as part of working with 2 year olds in the MDO Program. We only use pull ups for nap and bedtime and use cloth training pants at all other times. They were great about wanting her to continue with those. They specifically do not want the kids to wear pull ups. Bottom line, I would suggest asking. Good luck!
i think that at this age, any MDO will understand that it is still a work in progres. heck in preschool, age 3 or 4, they will work with you. i wouldn't worry about it and just keep at whatever pace works for him (not you, the school, just him).
