Hi, I used a book called, "On Becoming Potty Wise" to potty train my 22 month girl. She was potty trained in a day with perhaps one accident a day or none at all. First time on the toilet she went poop. I never had the poop problems that I had heard moms talk about. Well about 3 weeks later, we went to the hospital had our second daughter. We were 2.5 weeks early in delivering. My mom-in-law baby sat my older daughter while we were gone. All in all she had her about 3 whole days and 2 partial days. Well when we got her back my daughter wouldn't go to the bathroom in the toilet at all! My m-i-l said the potty training thing didn't work out for her so she just put her in diapers. Soooo... we retrained her, which was soo hard to do but our daughter is now 2 and she is once again potty trained. However she refuses to go poop in the toilet. We try giving her rewards and everything but nothing is working. Does anyone know what to do??? We've been trying to get her to go poop in the toilet for 2 or 3 weeks now. Thank you very much for reading this!!
It is so normal for a little person to regress in this area (and others) when a new baby comes. I would give it a rest for several weeks at least, then go back to it. She'll get tired of messy pants soon.
Yes, things like having a newborn baby will shake the feathers of any 2 year old. It is VERY common that they will fall back on old behaviors when things change. My daughter didn't FINALLY get the poop in the potty till about a month (or even a bit longer)into our training. I was frustrated, but I did solicit any insight from Mamasource members. Low and behold it is apparently very common for kiddos to have a number 2 issue with going to the potty and what I gathered from the members who responded, it seemed like it took and average of about a month and a half for them to "get it". I did reward her with a jelly bean when she did make it, that seemed to help. Good Luck and hang in there.
Wow! I'm surprised at the responses already submitted. I potty trained my daughter around her second birthday, on the advice of our pediatrician without any problem. I was excited when I saw this question posted because I'm having the same problem with my son, he will not have a bowel movement on the toilet. He'll be three next month. Some of the responses have been pretty critical, and not very helpful. As for the question, just stay consistent, and I'm not sure if it's helpful or not but I've been using underwear instead of pull-ups or diapers. This is how I taught my daughter and it worked very well.
2 is a bit young to be potty training anyway. She will go when she is ready - don't push her! I know the idea of 2 in diapers is hard to put up with, but rest assured! She will not mess in her pants forever! Be patient! They grow up too fast as it is.
Come on now - she is only barely two. No one is perfect in any process - and a two year old is less so. You have a new child - so that is a major impact to a 2 yr old - an explanation for regression. Also - children tend to take a few steps backward just before they take more steps forward to master a new skill.
So in other words, you are just going to have to "roll with it" for a while until she has a chance to get back to where she was. The main thing is - do not push it. She obviously knows what is expected - she just needs to be emotionally ready. When she is - she will do it on her own with little assistance from others. You are doing fine, and so is she.
congratulations on the new baby!
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I have a few ideas on your situation. First is that your daughter may be doing this for attention with the new baby. Often, many older siblings regress in their behavior when new babies come home. Sometimes it may be to imitate the new baby or they are just trying to get more attention.
One thing I notice with my 26 month old is that when she sees the poop in the diaper or toilet, she goes "EWWWWW!". I guess we used to say that, jokingly, when changing diapers. For the past several months, she will walk away in a corner or spot away from us to have bowel movements in her diaper, like she's embarrassed. Bottom line, I am thinking her and many other kids are embarrassed or see the whole process as gross so they avoid the attention drawn to it.
If your child is like clockwork with her bowel movements, just try to get her in that potty with a book or something that will distract/relax her and YOU do the same. I have had the potty available for months and she is just now catching on in the past couple days. She may just need more time, a few more months. Maybe her great start was a little experimentation phase but she's not fully ready to commit to it.
I had a similar situation with my son. He wanted to start potty training right after he turned 2. I never pushed him, just let him lead. After a couple of months, he was trained enough that I could leave the house for several hours without taking an extra pull-up because I knew he wouldn't soil the one he was wearing. When he was 2 and 7 months, his sister was born! No more potty. Any suggestions at attempting to go on the potty were automatically refused. It was very frustrating, especially because I knew he was capable. I let it go. I put him back in diapers until he turned 3 and had had a few months to adjust to his new sibling. The week he turned 3, we put him in underwear and he had maybe 2 accidents the first week and never anymore. You can handle this however your instinct tells you is best. I think the sibling thing causes the regression! Hang in there!
She was not potty trained as you thought if she had accidents even once a day. You were the one trained.
Wait till age 3, it will all come together.
I sure hope you do not get mad or purnish her for having accidents.
I'M HAVING THE SAME PROB. WITH MY 3 YR. OLD SON. I'VE BEEN TRYING TO POTTY TRAIN HIM SINCE 15 MOS. HE'S VERY STUBBORN.
hE'LL GO PEE BUT WILL NOT POO IN THE TOILET. I THINK THEY ARE JUST AFRAID TO FALL IN OR SOMETHING. I HAVE A POTTY SEAT THATS FITS ON TOP OF TOILET FOR KIDS, BUT I'M GONNA GET A REG POTTY CHAIR AND SEE IF THAT HELPS. GOOD LUCK, I KNOW WE'LL BOTH NEED IT!
You might want to provide something interesting that will keep her sitting down for a few minutes. Maybe one of her favorite books or family pictures that might interest her. We tried this for my daugher, it took a while for her to catch on but eventually it worked. She would always pretend to read and eventually after being there for a while ended up doing in the toilet.
good luck
