Potty Training - West Lafayette,IN

H.,
I've been meaning to make a posting similar to yours. My son will be 3 early December and hates to poop on the toilet. He cries for a diaper during the day when he knows he has to poop. Otherwise, he is completely potty pee trained - wears underwear all day long and pees on the toilet. I've tried bribing him with several things as rewards for pooping on the toilet - that only worked 3 times. Then he went back to pooping in his diaper.
He is my second son. My first son was early to potty pee train (by 2). Pooping on the toilet came later (2 1/2 months). He was nervous about it too. Eventually, the promise of a new toy got him to go on the toilet and then it was never a problem after that.
My family believes I need to tell me youngest son that "there are no more diapers". I'm not sure I want to do this for fear I will make him very nervous and very sick if he just won't go. My youngest son also has started a kids day out program which he is not taking to well. That's one reason I've been trying to just cope with the pooping in the diaper for awhile.
Good luck. I wasn't much help but at least you know there are others of us dealing with the same problem. I'll be checking back here to see if anyone else has advice that worked for them.

Reward him in some way when he does go poop on the potty, but let him pick it out and remind him when he goes to the bathroom that he can have it when he goes poop. You can do this also with underwear if he is only in a pullup. I have an almost-two-year-old who stands up to pee, but if he has to poop when he is done, will put the toilet seat down. So maybe you can initiate the difference in standing and sitting.

I was having the same problem with my son when we first potty trained earlier this year. Coincidentally, we visited the pediatrician for my daughter's 15 month visit at around the same time. I asked the pediatrician about this issue and she said that it is very common for kids to have issues with pooping on the potty. She suggested that I tell my son that if he wasn't ready to use the potty for pooping that he should ask me for a diaper when he needs to poop. It's best not to wait until nap/bedtime as this could lead to issues and disruption of these times. Plus the longer that they wait, they more difficult it is to make the poop (and therefore they begin to have a negative association with pooping). He should go into a bathroom to make the poop as this is where it should be done. If the issue didn't resolve itself as time went on, he should wear the diaper while sitting on the potty. Eventually, the idea would be to remove the diaper. My son is all about power struggles. So as soon as he realized I wasn't going to give him a problem about pooping on the potty, he decided that he would just use the potty rather than a diaper. Good luck to you!!!

My daugther is doing the same thing. I read an article in parent mag. and it said that what we should do is .... First... have them poop in the bathroom only.. then have them poop in the bathroom on the tolet with the diaper on. then put a hole in the diaper when they go poop. so far so good she is doing it. i figured i would give a week to each step.... i hope this helps... i have to say i am having the say problem... but if she has to poop she asks for a diaper during the day.... good luck
M.

My 3-year-old daughter is the same way. Her pediatrician also recommended just letting her use the pull-up but the "act" needed to be done in the bathroom. She did add that we should then put the poop in the potty. Eventually, she'll get tired of that extra step and just start going in the potty. So far we've gotten down doing the act in the bathroom! Good luck.

I, too, am having the same issue. So I can't offer great advice but I can tell you that my little girl is going through the same thing. I just encourage her but then tell her if she wants a pull up to poop, she can have it. I have heard of so many kids becoming severly constipated because of holding it in.
good luck, if you think of anything good, let me know ;)