Potty Training - Pittston, PA

My son was 3 when he stopped diapers completly. However he did the same thing.I would ask and ask about going potty and he would say no. Then when he had to go at that second he would let me know. I think develomentaly they do not pay any attention to the early feeling of having to go and think that when its time to then let you know. Neesdless to say he had many accidents and was wet almost every night until he was 6. He is now 14 and we laugh when we talk about the "old days"Just be patient and dont make him crazy, otherwise you can end up with other problems.

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Do you live in town, or in the country ? My sister had 4 boys, the younger 3 being raised out in the country. She found that when the boys had training pants on, that they didn't seem to be able to tell them were going to pee. So she put them in tee shirts that down to their thighs and sent them outside to play --naked underneath. They figured it out very quickly. And they never peed in the house while running around half naked. Never.

M.,

I heard from a pediatrician one time that for boys it's a little more difficult to sense that they have to pee. She said that the nerve that helps them feel a full bladder does not develop as quickly as it does in girls. So maybe he does not realize he needs to go.

Maybe call your pediatrician to get more info. Good luck!

J. D.

Personally I would throw out the pullups, go naked for a while, put on real underwear. Make sure you have extra clothes in the car. They learn much easier when they have nothing on or can feel that they are getting wet. Don't just keep asking him put him on the potty. Sometimes they get too busy and would rather wet themselves then stop playing or whatever.

Hi M.,
My son turned 3 in April also. I potty trained him in March in a weekend. I never used pullups except for nap and bedtime...I always use underwear so that he knows what it feels liks to have an accident. Hope this helps.
E.

The reason he doesn't tell you when he has to pee is because pullups are the same as diapers. Stop using pullups!
Put him in real underwear... he'll make a 1/2 dozen messes and then get the picture. Potty training is MUCH faster when you go right to real underwear. There is no cause and effect if he is wearing pullups.
All kids are different, but no matter what, all of them can only stand pee running down their leg a certain number of times before they figure it out...

Good luck!

Plus - potty training is the # 1 test for parents and their ability to manage stress and control. Potty training should be focused entirely on the positives and not the negatives. When he has an accident, you should remind him of the rules - and make him clean up the mess - but never get upset or angry.
Then when he does go potty, or when he does tell you in advance, etc - have a party! They will love the attention!

I completely agree with Tara S. Skip the pullups and make him go every hour or so. My son was completely potty trained in two weeks this way. It's not easy and it's frustrating but it's so worth it.

Hi M..

First of all, youre def not alone in the being irritated part! My daughter, who will be 3 next month, just started potty training not long ago. We are still in the process of perfecting it. What I found helpful for me was instead of asking if they have to go potty, I would say "Ok, it's time to go potty. Let's go!" And she would say OK and was fine with it. I tried to do that about every 20 mins. It is time consuming, but worked well for us. I also found that if I asked her if she needed to go potty, her answer was always "No" lol.

HTH a little. Good Luck!!

When I was potty training children at school it helped to have a predictable schedule. I talked with the child before and let them know that because their learning a big skill that I was going to help remind them to go to the potty. For a 3 year old it is very easy to get involved in whatever their doing and they don't realize they need to go until it's too late. Try to be patient!
I never asked the child if they needed to go(too easy to say "no")...every 1/2 hour I would tell them, "ok, it's time to sit on the potty!" There were no exceptions...it was like clockwork. If they tell you they don't need to just inform them it's not a choice and they're just going to "try"...if nothing comes out that's ok. Then you try again in another 1/2 hour.
I've found with pull-ups that MANY children find it hard to differentiate them from a diaper...so they forget to use the potty. I am all for using regular underwear with a pair of plastic training pants over top (to help stop the leaks). It allows them to realize they're wet and may help facilitate the process.
Good luck!!

e.

I would get rid of the pull-ups and go right to big boy underwear. I started the first day with pull-ups and my son would just pee in them, they are basically just like diapers. I went out that afternoon to buy the big boy underwear and within 2-3 days he was completely trained, no accidents, no issues nothing. We trained him the weekend before we were on our way down to vacation so he even told me when he was at the beach and on the boardwalk. All I would say is that I can't give myself any credit for doing anything magical, I just think my son was ready and that made it very easy to transition. He also doesn't like to be messy, so that helped too. But I definitely am glad someone told me to switch right to the underwear, it made all the difference in the world. But I think them being ready for it is the MOST important thing.

M.,

Maybe he's not really ready. When my son turned 3, I took him to the store to buy underwear and he said "I don't need underwear...I wear diapers." I.E. He had ZERO interest. Until the child is ready, it is just going to frustrate both of you. My son is (now nearly 13) is highly intelligent and he knew at 3 what he was doing. I know society thinks children should be potty trained by 3, but some aren't ready yet. Each child is different. If I was you, I would back off for a few months and try again. (My second one was ready at 2...you just have to know the child.)

HTH.

P.

M.,
HOW DO WOMEN TRAIN LITTLE BOYS ????
pee 'urge' feels different for boys [ hence, the ''' grab '''
they self ]
little girls get an urge and 'know' they must eliminate .
we , as mommas get it ...
watch for 'hand action ... grabbing , pulling ,etc ... 'the GUY thing ...
than for poop [ make note of the TIME ... most children "GO" poop same time every day]give him a sports book at 'his' time ... chuckle ...
all little boys/ girls do go potty .... do not fret ...
a grammy and a mammy to many ...

M.,

With kids that are just started potty training it's more training the parents to get the child on the potty every couple hours rather than ASKING them if they have to go. Instead of asking if he has to go, just say mommy has to go potty let's go or make it a game, let's see who can get there first. Mini M & M's worked well for my boys. 1 for pee pee and 2 for poop. Good luck, K. R.

Hi M.,

My son also turned 3 in April. He has been completely potty trained since he was 2 1/2. First, I have to say he was interested in doing it. But, after I went through the first pack of pull ups and was completely frustrated that he did not seem to notice he was peeing or care I decided for a different approach. I went to the store and bought his favorite character underwear, at the time it was Transformers. I moved the potty to a location near where he played. That way he was not expected to hold it for long. When I gave him the Transformers underwear I told him that Optimus Prime would not like to be peed on! LOL! He agreed. I will tell you I only cleaned up one or two accidents before I understood that he was going to be wet. I also used Dibs, the ice cream bites as a reward. He loved them. I started potty training him around the age of 2 and he was done by 2 1/2. He now sleeps through the night without a diaper...that took a little longer but I had to cut back on his liquids in the evening and when we noticed he was dry in the morning we made a HUGE fuss over him. We have had maybe three accidents since but all are when he does not pee before falling asleep.

Good luck and I hope this helps a little. I understand the frustration...I am potty training twin girls now!!!

E.