Potty Training - Rocklin,CA

I second the naked time and the focus on her time. Dedicate a long weekend to staying home, having her be naked and talking a lot about potty-time. You may have to do some cleaning up, but this method worked really well for us.

I think, in a few months, she will surprise you...
she is not ready now. Stop trying....

For some kids, "they" have to be ready first and own it... it is their body.
And once they are ready, they will potty train like a rocket scientist.
My son is like that. Only recently, (he is 3.5 now).... has "he" been pottying. On his own (we use a potty chair). Not perfect yet, he still has accidents, and he can't hold it for a LONG time before reaching the potty... but he IS totally happy about it now. And proud.
We don't have to use tricks/rewards/treats with him. Just a high-five and praise.
He just sort of "trained" himself. It was really something. Just one day while playing... he just announced "I have to pee!" and he went on the potty. Totally unexpected on my part!

Prior to this... he was TOTALLY TOTALLY not into it.... and not getting it.
(my husband would try.... but I just wanted to wait until he was ready).

Now, my son is ready. Just one day out of the blue.

Don't worry.

All the best,
Susan

A year? A child that is truly ready will learn in about 2 weeks.. No kidding..

Your child is not ready. Most children do not even begin to be ready till they are 3. You will know when she is ready. Just stop and wait till she starts the process. Otherwise you are doing all of the work..

I agree that she is not ready. We started with my daughter around 18 months because she expressed interest in it. About a month ago she really started showing improvements (she's 2.5 now) and is just now (weeks into wearing underwear all day) going to the bathroom on her own and telling us when she had to go. For a few weeks, we would just take her every hour or so.

I would back off of anything potty related for a month or two. Then try again and see. She may not be ready physically or emotionally.

Hi Mama,

Sorry I haven't read the responses yet, so if this is a repeat...I apologize. My son wanted to be in charge. It was a control issue with him and that was the one thing he could control. At first I would get very frustrated because he would always tell me no when I would say it was time to go potty. One time he held his pee for over 24 hrs (how he did it...I don't know). Once I figured it out, it was a lot easier. The thing that really helped with my son was letting him be the "boss". I told him he was the boss of his poo-poo and pee-pee and his body would tell him when he needs to go. I let him decide when to go. I would still ask if it was time and remind him to 'listen' to his body and go when he needed to, but I didn't push him or make him sit down. He did not like me to keep telling him to go every so often, so I would just mention it as a reminder. I also went straight from the diaper into underwear. No middle ground, even at night. I told him that there were no more diapers, so he needed to be a big boy and wear undies.

Hopes this helps some. Good luck and God bless.

N.

Wait for her to do it on her own. She will when she's ready, I think she will resist if she thinks she's being forced. I say just drop it, don't talk about it or worry about it. She won't be in diapers when she's 4. My kids did it on their own "around" 3.

I know this may sound trite, but know that I am also going through the frustration of potty training with two daycare children. Patience! That's the only key I know. I saw a similar question on the Dr. Phil show the other night and he pointed out something I think we need to remember. Potty training is an area where our kids can exert their independence. We can put them on the potty, but we can't make them go. So much of what we try in the way of rewards or punishments just don't work. What Dr. Phil said was we need to find the child's "currency" and use that. Now I see that as a big task, because I can't tell you what the "currency" is for either of my daycare kids. The things I might think are so important to them that they'd do anything for them will suddenly become totally unimportant as soon as I try to use them as potty training tools. So I still am thinking just patience and gritting my teeth to keep from saying or doing the things that cause them to put on the brakes is the best policy I can use. I keep telling myself they won't be going to kindergarten in diapers, and I'm not the one who is having to pay for all those diapers, so I am trying to be patient with the inconvenience of having to change the wet and dirty ones until those boys get the idea that they prefer the potty to the diapers.

my son and I used a book called potty training in one day. It took longer then a day for ummm. #2 but it had some great ideas that helped him urinate in the potty every time. The first idea was to set a day to train him with no phone calls, no computer, tv basically no distractions just him and I. Then give him lots of fun drinks that he enjoys so he wants lots of them, also salty snacks so he is more thirsty. Easy on and off clothes. We moved the potty to our linoleum kitchen and talked about how great it is and the freedom of using the toilet. Then we used a potty doll and he taught her to potty in the toilet, including pulling down dolls undies. Then when he wasnt looking doll had an accident, he helped her change and explained to he it was easier to use the potty. He had to potty so bad that he told me when he had to go. I think the no distraction rule was so that him and I would not have anything more important to do then potty.

Keep her home all day for a few days without a diaper or panties, she will get tired of dribbling all over herself. Good luck!