Potty Training 2 Year Old Night Question

Updated on January 11, 2011
M.H. asks from Denver, CO
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Hi. We started potty training our son at 18 months. At the time he was very interested as he hated diapers - he hated being wet (cloth diapers) and hated poop since birth... so he took right to it. Then he got a little bored with it - he would always go if you opportunistically got him there on time. Just before he turned 2 (a few weeks ago) he seemed to turn the corner. I asked him if he had to go, and he actually said yes, and then went in a public restroom and held himself up on the potty, and went, like no big deal.
He still doens't usually tell us if he needs to potty (proactively on his own). However, he is much more likely to tell us when we ask, that he does when he has to go... and he doesn't when he doesn't have to go. Unless we are at home, where it's still more opportunistic than him telling us.

So here is the weird part. Over the last week, he wakes us at night and during nap when he has to go. He says "pee" or points to his (en suite to his room) bathroom. When we take him in there, he will pee or poop, and want to go back to sleep. Occasionally he will have already peed a tiny bit in his diaper when he wakes us. Here is my question - what does this mean? I think it means maybe he knows when he has to pee when sleeping... but he doesn't seem ready to hold it - he never has - of course we are not too thrilled with the waking a few times a night... But is this an opportunity to get him the rest of the way? If so, should I just ditch the diaper all the way, and go for it?

No, he hasn't ever woken up dry, which is what I was sort of waiting for. Also a few weeks ago we transitioned his crib to the toddler side, so he CAN get out on his own. He doesn't though. When he wakes he only sits there and calls for us to come get him. He does get in on his own though - he puts himself to bed, and we cover him with the blanket.

Any advice?
Thanks!

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M.S.

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He is ready for underwear all the way and if you are concerned about wetting the bed at night go and get some plastic pants that go over the underwear and have him were those at bedtime over his underwear.

Figure out when his schedule is for going to the bathroom. A few minutes before he normally wakes up go in and get him out of bed, walk him to the potty and have him go to the bathroom. This way you are training him to wake up and go to the bathroom himself. After a few nights of this he will be going on his own.

If you are worried about him holding it through the night then you need to cut his drinks off early enough that if he does have potty it is all done before he goes to bed.

Asking him if he has to go potty is a very normal thing to do for a good year or 2. Pretty soon he'll start going on his own, and then also there will be times that he will try to hold it as long as possible so he can play and you have to tell him to go potty.

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S.M.

answers from Denver on

I have been a daycare teacher for years and while it is true that most kids do not really fully train until they are closer to 3 I have seen a few kids mostly trained before 2, it can happen. He is doing well but just kind of take his lead until he is a little older.

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S.N.

answers from Minneapolis on

I don't have a boy so take this w/ a grain of salt!!

I have known people who teach their boys to sit on the toilet and just 'push it down' when they pee at night. Is he capable of doing that? Then he wouldn't have to wake you.

As I said I don't have a boy so I have no idea if this is even something you would want to teach a boy..... good luck!

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E.M.

answers from Denver on

The waking at night is not ideal, I know, but you can't really make him hold and if this is how he stays dry at night--but waking up to pee, you can't say no. :) I have a 5 year old and a 2.5 year old. The 5 year old did not stay dry or wake up to pee on her own until just before she turned 5. The 2.5 year old is now starting to wake up to pee in the night so we have two kids to help to the potty! It is not ideal but I guess it is all part of the process. Good luck! P.S. I wake up to pee just about every night and sometimes my husband does too so I think it is normal for the human body to have to go at night.

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P.K.

answers from New York on

Keep him in his diaper at night. I would be happy he wakes up to go potty.
When he is a bit older he will get up and go by himself. Right now just
go with it. He seems to be doing great.

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S.K.

answers from Denver on

This may sound silly, but have you given him permission to get out of bed by himself at night to go potty? Both my sons trained early like yours, but before training we had told them that they were not to get out of bed at night. So they didn't when they had to pee, they would call for us too. After I realized they were just following our directions to not get out of bed, I gave them permission to get up to go to the bathroom if they had to pee. Funny enough, we never had a problem since! Good luck!

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T.B.

answers from Dallas on

Sorry, but developmentally speaking they aren't usually ready utill they are closer to three years of age.
http://www.healthychildren.org/English/ages-stages/toddle...

hope that works.... www.healthychildren.org then look up ages and stages for toddler toilet training.
You could very well be setting up your child for failure. I've potty trained children for the past 28 years and very rarely do they train sooner and some of those actually regress later. Two year olds are called Terrible Twos for a reason. (^_^)
Be careful who is being potty trained. It's easy to get a child to the toilet "in time" but it's suppose to be up to the child to get there in time. That shows they understand and there is a connection between the bladder and the brain. The body needs to be able to be controlled. I've read where parents were actually attempting to potty train their child at 6 months of age... REALLY!
In order to work with children I think it would help parents to take classes in ages and stages of a child's development as well as Infant brain development.

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