Potty Training - Union City, NJ

I was reading about this in the What to Expect the Toddler years and they said that if they prefer the toilet then get a toilet seat and let him train from there. I guess just go with where he feels comfortable. He sounds like a very smart boy and he just wants to be a big boy like everyone else. Enjoy!
N.

Buy a little stool and help him sit on the toilet with it. Lots of kids dont like a potty, they want to be big like mommy. He seems to be ready, but dont push him. He is still a little young to have control over himself and will have accidents.

Hi J.,

I would buy the potty seat that goes over the toilet. And this way he may see it as a real thing. You are very lucky, they say boys take longer then girls. Don't delay because when my son mention it during that age I did nothing because he really did not talk much yet. And now he is 23 months old and has no interest in it anymore. He does not even tell me anymore that he puppi. :( Good Luck! :)

No suggestions here. I'm going through the same with my 3 year old. She takes her diaper off when she goes and also thinks the potty is just for fun.

I had to post something so I could read what everyone else suggested...lol.

Nanc

There's no reason why you can't go straight to the big potty. Just use the seat for the big toilet, and get him a step stool. Make sure you are with him because he is still a bit too small to get on and off completely by himself. That's pretty awesome you have a boy wanting to learn so early. Boy's are usually slower at potty training.

I have 4 kids. Don't rush it. He'll get there. Just keep asking him, but don't push it. The last thing you want is to make it a power struggle. I found that sometimes, if the child is totally opposed to anything (like the potty chair), I just forget about it and don't mention it for a few weeks. The when you bring up the subject later, he has forgotten all about the fear and it did not become a power struggle.

My kids loved the video "Pocket Snails Potty Adventure." they use a potty chair and a regular tolet in the video. I would leave keep the potty chair, but not mention it for a few weeks. Then start showing him the video and he may decide to go on his own. The video includes a road map to the potty. Its' cute.

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Hi,
Here's what worked for my 4 year old...
I didn't actively train her until she hit 3...when she started to show interest in about 2 1/2 years old...he may still be a bit young, but you can start getting him interested but don't put any pressure on him...

We did the following:

-Elmo Potty DVD - it's AWESOME and the kids really get it...
-read books about potty training too...lots of them out there...
-when YOU or someone else goes to the bathroom, have him go with you and talk about it - show him pee pee in the potty and poo poo too...
-take him to the store and let him pick out his underwear! :) Make a HUGE deal about it - "see you have underpants like Daddy now!" To prevent accidents, I put the pullup OVER the underpants...that way, when he goes, he feels REALLY wet but not cause you to change his pants all the time...
-one thing I tried (but didn't work for us) was have him go outside with a long tshirt on with nothing on his bare bottom...when he has to go - he'll notice that there's no diaper on his butt and may try to tell you that he needs to potty. OR if you notice him peeing/pooping, GRAB him and put him on the potty (I used the potty and placed it outside on the deck). But be prepared to watch him ALL day. My daughter hated this, held it in until naptime/bedtime when I had put a pull up on her and she went all at once in the pullup! Ugh...
-some people do M&M's for rewards, but I didn't want to associate FOOD for rewards...so the FIRST FEW times my daughter went pee/poo in the potty, she got to watch whatever movie she wanted...after that, I tried to cut down and give her other sorts of rewards...even at 4 years old, she tells me that she went poo-poo in the potty all by herself and I make a big deal and give her a HUGE hug! :) She doesn't have accidents either, which is great! :)

-nighttime - if you notice that he pees overnight, he may not be ready and you'll still want to use diapers for overnights...until you notice he holds it...and reduce fluids before bedtime...

It may be frustrating BUT he will get it...eventually...no rush and definitely don't put any pressure on him...

I am a grandmother of almost 3 yr old little girl. I raised 2 children up. I am caring for my grandchild while my daughter works. We are potty training also. It takes time and patience. They will do it on their own time. Just keep trying. Don't pressure him. We give high fives when she goes. They also have a potty dance on tv. Maybe look for a video like blues clues potty training. Best of luck. M.

Potty training a boy during the summer? Easy - teach him to pee on the tree! Just be sure to reenforce that it is only on a tree - mine started dropping his drawers and peeing in the middle of the yard. Yuck!

Good luck! And, 19 months is young, so just be encouraging and patient. He'll get it eventually!

That is one of the first signs of potty training and if he's doing his business in the diaper and gives the diapers to you then he's heading for it. Don't assume he's definitely ready and won't backfire, all potty trained have accidents and some don't want to take the time to go to the toilet and it can be very scary for them so here are my suggestions from experience with my boys and my third is dhowing he is getting ready and he's 19 months too. Every time you go potty, have him go with you and give him a book and you both go through the book if he'll do that. Every time especially after eating and drinking, and before he has a bath and make it a routine thing for him. If there is a daddy in the house, have him see daddy go and again if this whole thing is comfortable for you and daddy. If he goes in the potty praise him loudly. If he doesn't don't be discouraged and don't discourage him and so okay, next time. Good boyu for sitting there. It will happen, but in his time. That is wonderful and it takes time and patience, etc. Great mother!! Great little boy.

I honestly think 19 months it is still too young to train. Your son may have the proper "idea' but toilet training entails much more than the "idea'. I would suggest one of the excellent books on toilet training.
Rushing a child can be frustrating and sometimes backfire. I know (as a first time Mom) how much you want to expedite toilet training and how excited you are to accomplish this but toilet training (both bladder and bowel - night and day) is a long process that takes more than the child just knowing when they have gone.
This may be a good time to let him sit on the potty and have him look at a book (try not to rush him into doing the "deed" and let the idea develop so that he doesn't become nervous or too obsessed with it). It is natural at 19 months to think of the potty as a toy.
That alone shows that his "readiness" is not as great as you think. Giving you the diaper just shows that he is aware that he has gone and needs to be changed (he may not like having a soiled diaper - which is a sign that he may train easily when the time is right).
Usually children start to "train" around 2 and it will take a year before they become both bladder and bowel trained - night and day. This is the average age. Many children are not fully trained both night and day until they are past 3 years old. A few children may train earlier but it is not usually the case.
Good luck and remember that with patience and diligence, he will get trained.

I am a grandmother of a 42 yr. old son and a 32 year daughter and a 5 year old granddaughter.

Try to find your son "The Potty Train" book
(www.toysofdiscovery.com).

I highly recommend letting your son watch you and Dad use the toilet (in every detail) as long as you are confortable with it. Better yet, let him see other kids using the potty. Also, let him know that is something he will do one day. I would avoing using language like "big boys don't use diapers" and "only babies need diapers". There is a lot of shame behind those types of comments, and it is quite scarey to let go of diapers since it is a huge step towards independance. Also, teaching your child to do self care, like self dressing is important. This is tough at 19 months, make it age appropriate. it helps the child see toileting as empowering rather than something that is forced on them if they can be more in charge of it. Make sure pants are easy on easy off.

Good luck, be patient!

C.

How wonderful and early too! If he is going in the toilet, he is right there. I think this is the hardest concept for them to grasp at first. I would get him some training pants and see how he does. When you use them, do not expect him to tell you he has to go and just take him about every 20-30 min. (10 min after having a drink or meal). If he tells you every time great, but there is a chance he won't and have an accident, this could be discouraging at first, but cheer him on if he does anyway.

Neither of my kids ever made a deposit in a potty, they both trained directly on the regular toilet - but they were older, my daughter had just turned 3 and my son was alomst 3. I didn't make a game of it or take them sometimes - my own philsophy was to wait til they were fully ready to use the toilet all the time. I don't feel like taking a child to the toilet occasionally or asking if they want to/need to is getting them out of diapers soon.
Good luck.