Potty Trained Son Suddenly "Holding It" at Daycare/public

hello,
I have a 5yr old daughter. 2 yrs ago she was in the hosp. with phnamonia. and she did/does the same thing...then and still does now. They had a hard time getting pee samples from her.... they called her a "holder". She goes maybe 3 times a day.. though It worries me, with kidney infect. and such.. the doctors said this is realy common with tots, and they will grow out of it. They said only worrie if the dont go at all or strains, with pain.

I operate an in-home child care business with six children age 5 and under. I recently had a little girl (age 4) in my daycare that regressed and started having accidents after being trained for over a year. The system I came up with was a chart with five boxes (for every day of daycare each week) and at the end of the day if she didn't have an accident then she would color in a the box for that day. After five boxes in a row she was given a treat or an inexpensive toy. This lasted for three weeks and now she's been back on track and accident free for over 2 months. The chart is something you could do at home. Good luck with the process and enjoy the blessing of him and the new one on the way.

Hi its S. F, just read your question!

That is alot going on in your life as the other Mom stated, so it would be best to give him more attention now to calm his nerves.

With this being said, many kids have problems going potty in public restrooms. It is scarey, smells different than home and not as nurturing as being home with mom. Do you go places throughout the day with him? I suggest giving him lots of practice. Every time you are out visit the restroom and at least have him "try". Also, when you drop him off and pick him up take him to the restroom of the daycare. Be there for him and to reassure him everything is ok.

Congratulations on the baby and Law School!! GL:)

I'm certainly no expert... and I only have one child...but you really do have a lot going on in your life. Children are very perceptive. You are finishing law school... daddy is away 3 days a week...and you're about ready to give birth to another baby. My gut feeling says your little guy is sensing something big is about to happen.

At home... he's got your undivided attention. He may just be having a little anxiety about all that is going on... and this is how it is acting out.

Maybe try to carve out some more 'special' time with him where you aren't distracted by other things. Also reassure him that when the baby comes you will still have time for him.

He may not fully understand all the implications of a new baby...but I think all too often we think children are much less aware then they really are.