I have a 3 & 1/2 year old daughter who has been potty trained for quite some time. It used to be quite rare that she had accidents. She has had 4 within a month, 3 of them being this week. I am back at work after having the summer off (I'm a teacher), I don't know if that has something to do with it. My mom watches her a couple days a week and a friend watches her the others. She had 1 accident at my mom's the first week I started back & was fine until this week. Twice this week, she wet her pants at our friend's house. Our daughter was playing this evening in the basement (it's finished & my husband was down there too). She came up & said, "Mommy, I pooped in my pants" ~ which she has NEVER had an accident since she's been potty trained with that! Any suggestions as to how to fix this?
Thanks!
Thanks for the responses! Our daughter was very excited today that she did not have an accident at our friend's house while I was at work ~ I made sure to show my excitment too. (o: It could be her just getting back into the routine of me being back at work mixed with her age. We'll wait and see . . . .
Yes, the change has something to do with it. She has lost your consistency and grandma is not really re-inforcing it. Ask your M. to keep reminding or training her so she doesn't have accidents.
Kids...will....have.... accidents.
It is childhood.
I do not know of any kid, who has 'never' had an accident, no matter how long they have been potty trained no matter what age.
It may just be, also, that her routines has changed. And this does affect children.
Also, at this age, they also tend to think that they can 'hold' their bladder much longer than they actually can.
Some kids even 'regress'... per anything happening in their lives.
Just as a tip: When my daughter was in Preschool (your daughter's age) and then Kindergarten and then 1st grade... my daughter would have the occasional accident.
ALL of her Teachers.... for each grade level, said this is NORMAL.
It happens at these ages.
No biggie.
And at night time...as well, night-time dryness and control is not attained until even 7 years old. And is normal.
It is all a biological attainment and organ development and maturity.
You cannot 'fix' it per say... and scolding/punishing may even make it worse.
talk with her... that is what I did with my daughter.
Her routines have changed...
all the best,
Susan
I think it has something to do with you going back to school. Maybe do a sticker chart and after she gets so many stickers, you all do a family activity together like going to the zoo or park and let her pick.
This happened to my friend when she started back to work.
It may just be something she is going through. Some kids don't want to stop playing and take the time out to go to the potty.
If it continues, you could talk to your Peds. about it. My daughter just started 1st grade and still wears pull-ups to bed (they say it takes some longer for their muscles to get strong to hold it all night) I know some girls that have been in 5th grade and still have accidents at night.
However, we found out my daughter had chronic constipation. They took an x-ray and she was packed full of poopy. (when they are so constipated it can put pressure on their bladder and even not allow their bladder to fully expand or cause leakage) which has caused several UTI's for my daughter.
She had to go to a GI doctor and they put her on Miralax 1x per day and we also increased her fiber. She is doing much better with accidents and has not had one at school (knock on wood)! :)
Maybe, you could try to remind her to go to the bathroom. We taught my daughter that everyone has a potty button (ex: Mommy's potty button is her belly button...everytime I needed to go potty I would push my belly button in front of her we called it our PAUSE button and I would stop what I was doing and go potty...Daddy's potty button was his elbow and he would push it when he needed to go potty...my daughter's pause button was her forehead and she would push it to go potty) Something so simple got her back in a routine of trying to go potty on her own.
I know they also make some watches you can order online that beep and remind the kids to go potty (I think you can set the timer for different times since every child is different).
I hope this helps. If it continues, ask her doctor about her possibly being constipated.
Chances are, it's just that she doesn't want to stop playing. Every child goes through this (atleast both of mine have)! :D
Good luck!!!!
My daughter did the same thing a few months back --first poop accident since she was trained 6 months earlier.
Do nothing. Just tell her you are going to give her a little more assistance, and do so. Have the talk again about feeling pressure, etc. and she will fix the problem all by herself. My daughter was back to normal within a week. Just be supportive and loving about it, and it will fix itself.
Accidents happen, sometimes they just get into playing and don;t want to stop to go. I know my girl gets distracted and I find I have to tell her to go several times in a row before she focuses and gets into the bathroom.
If it happens again try not to shame her, but perhaps you can try a little sad in your voice. "Now honey, you're such a big girl now, you don't need to be doing this. You've got this down, you're amazing, no reason for more accidents. Think you got it?" It worked for my girl.
It's tricky with having two different people watching your girl, they may not be as in tune with her potty cue as you are. I know something I'll see my girl dancing and just have to tell her to go before she even realizes it. Keep on her and help her sitters if you can to recognize her potty dance so they can get her to go.
Good luck.
