Are you willing to try something radically different? Something no conventional doctor would recommend? Functional medicine looks at what is happening in our bodies and works naturally through feeding our bodies and brains the chemicals it needs through food and suppliments rather than manufactured chemicals.
I had chronic fatigue, depression, and anxiety but none of the conventional doctors could help me, and believe me I went to many. I was on Lexapro for a while and it relieved some of the anxiety and depression. But the most amazing thing happened when I went to my new doctor - a clinical nutritionist and chiropractic neurologist. He tested blood, spit and urine to find the exact deficiencies and then corrected them through supplementation of vitamines and amino acids, natural supplements. Also, he tested my blood to see what food I was sensitive to. Turned out that when I eliminated them (gluten, dairy, and eggs) my fatigue completely went away.
In 6 months I was healthy and able to work all day happily.
I recommend this approach for anyone who is finding that drugs have not worked for them. For those hoping to get off drugs, don't quit cold turkey, but there is hope that you may be able to reduce your drugs over time.
Your reaction to those meds sound like what my daughter went through when she tried medication for her anxiety. She is very very chemically sensitive, and cannot take The Pill or any anxiety medication.
Also, I am an educational specialist, author and speaker. There are many causes for ADHD, including hypersensitivity which at the root is caused by a retained moro reflex. This is a reflex that we are born with but which should be "integrated" by 4 months. In many people instead it becomes a startle reflex by adulthood. I have found that by doing a simple exercise called Starfish plus some other reflex exercises, I have calmed my nervous system and have very little hypersensitivity to sound. I used to jump at loud noises and be able to hear whispers in the next room, but not anymore! You can Google "primitive reflexes and ADHD" for more information.
Good luck and I hope you find health and happiness!