I am up front from the beginning of the year, the kids have things they do outside of school and we will not do more than a minimal amount of work a couple of times per week. IF they get behind on work they are to stay in at recess and do it during school hours.
I will not waver on this. My oldest grandson went from one school to another in the same school district when he went back to live with his mom for a short time. He would come home every day with hours and hours and hours of work. He would work steady from the time he got home, eat at the desk, and still be working at bed time. I decided right then that I would not let these kids ever be subjected to that.
I honestly feel if the teacher cannot teach them the concepts they need to in the 8+ hours a day they have the kids then perhaps they need to refine their teaching skills and work out a better way of getting the kids to understand the material/
If the schools were held accountable like directors and producers do for the amount of hours per day that child actors can be at work then the kids at school would NEVER be legally allowed to have any homework. They would be over their allowed hours of work for a child who has a job. It's nuts if a teacher thinks they can do something else all day then send home the work they should have done during the day....well, it just sets me off.
I refuse to allow the kids to do more than an hour or so a week and will not do it ever. My friends who home school never assign homework unless it's a paper writing assignment that they need to go to the library to do. All other work is done while they are "in" class which is never more than a couple of hours per day. Why can they do it all and their kids are further ahead with better grades than the ones sitting in a classroom at least 8 hours per day and having hours of homework each day. That tells me they are just not getting taught the material.
So I tell the teacher in front of everyone in the beginning meeting where the teacher lays out the semester and her plans for the year. I tell them I don't allow homework for more than a few minutes each evening and then the kids are done. That we just don't have time outside of the 8+ hours per day they have set aside for doing their work.
So far the teachers have been sort of flabbergasted but not one has even lowered a grade because the homework wasn't done.
Our kids test in the 90+ percentile in reading, comprehension, and math. So if they want to try and flunk them for not sitting hours and hours doing useless work then they can try. The kids test scores show that not doing all that homework is not bad for them.