Hi K.,
Here are a couple of online epilepsy support groups that can answer a lot of your questions.
http://boards.webmd.com/webx?14@@.5987f425
http://www.coping-with-epilepsy.com/
Also check out the epilepsy foundation at:
http://www.epilepsyfoundation.org/
What you have read is true, my daughter had absence seizures and then added on the 'grand mal' now commonly called tonic/clonic. A lot of teachers do not recognise seizures as they are only looking for the tonic/clonic. The entire school needs to be educated on seizure first aid. We had to educate my daughters school when she started going there. She is 18 now and in her 5th yr of high school because of problems with her seizures.
If an epilepsy journal hasn't been started yet, get one going. A notebook will do, nothing fancy. Write down everything in there. Her activities, how much sleep she gets, what she eats and drinks, tv/computer/video game time, if she's on meds - dose and times. If she has a seizure, log what she does prior to, during, and after. what it looks like and how long each phase lasts. All this can be a pain, but it will help you and the dr see what's going on.
Is this your grand daughter you are speaking of? If she has not been to a neurologist yet, then it's time to get her there. An EEG and MRI will be done to see what is going on. It's a merry go round on meds to see what will work to control them, so hang on for the ride. My daughter has been diagnosed for 4 yrs now and still has seizures. If the neuro y'all see isn't doing what you think he/she should be doing for the child, find another one. Second, third, even fourth opinions are quite common.
If you have any other questions, feel free to email me ____@____.com put mamasource in the subject line so I don't delete. Good luck!!
T.