My son has partial complex epilepsy (staring seizures) and I had childhood petite mal seizures, which I grew out of in my 20's. I also didn't get my diagnosis of the epilepsy until I was 13 because I began having grand mal seizure during puberty.
The best place that I have found, and worth the drive, is The Michigan Institute for Neurological Disorders (M.I.N.D) in Farmington Hills on Orchard Lake rd about a 1/2 mile north of 696 and just a couple of blocks or so from 12 Mile Rd on the left (coming from 696) next to the Weight Watchers building. They also have a Madison Heights and Garden City office, but I prefer the Main Office in Farmington Hills and highly recommend it. They are a "State of the Art" Institute with incredible Doctors and services and they take practically every insurance available, including MI Medicade, which my son is on.
We have been going there for about 12 years now with my son (since he was 3 years old) and I have been going there on and off for over 20 years.
Here is the website:
http://www.mindonline.com/home.html
Its really hard to recommend meds because everyone reacts so differently and everyones epilepsy and seizure type can vary.
I was on Phenobarbital from 13-15 yrs, then I was put on Dilantin.
Pheno is very sedating and the don't use it as often any more, unless nothing else works, at least to my knowledge. My mother said that my feet never "touched the ground" when I was on it, so basically, she said I was constantly "high" on the Phenobarbital lol
My daughter had infantile seizures and was put on Pheno starting at 3 months old and was weaned from it at a year old and had been seizure free ever since.
My son has been on Dilantin, Tegratol, Trileptol and he is now currently on Depakote, which seems to be helping for now, but we have to get his blood drawn every few months to check for constant medication levels in his blood and for liver function.
ETA: I just saw that your in Novi, so the M.I.N.D main office wouldn't be a very far drive for you.