Do any of you regret having a permanent birth control method done? If so, how do you or did you overcome those feelings?
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My hubby got snipped when daughter was about 2 and I had complete hysterectomy when daughter was 7. No regrets whatsoever.... BUT... We both knew early in we were 100% complete with our family.
To this day, almost 19 yes later, still no regrets.
I've never experienced any grief or urge to control. If you don't feel 100% complete, then opt for alternate birth control.
Do I feel regret or sadness?
No
Do I sometimes feel nostalgic when I see newborn babies?
Yes
And then I think of all the sleepless nights, the exhaustion, the diaper explosions.
And I look at my kids now, and what fabulous little people they are, and how we can pick up and go places spontaneously with only my VERY SMALL purse in hand. And I'm so happy with the life I have right now that my thoughts end up along these lines - new momma, congrats on your new baby, and just wait because it gets even better!
We're 2 yrs in the life post reproduction and we both LOVE it. No more worries about a slip up followed by two pink lines, a plus sign or whatever, I haven't even given a thought to which pregnancy test is the most sensitive in over TWO yrs baby!! It's awesome. We have three beautiful boys who are everything to us and now we can just focus on enjoying our growing boys and our marriage, we're all here and it feels great. I don't think I would ever get the urge for another, we are just so complete as a family. But I was soooo done after our third and had no doubts. I just did not want to do pregnancy again, I told my doc at my first appt that if I ended up in a c-section, she could just tie those tubes right on up, that didn't happen so I actually called and made my hubby an appt. right after our little guy was born. I was DONE! :). So I say if you know, go for it, any doubts, hold off awhile, good luck!
I had my tubes tied almost 9 years ago and although I get the "oooh wish I had another baby feelings" at times, I don't have any regrets.
I know the choice we made for our family was good.
Many blessings
Nope.
I still love holding newborns and get nostalgic around floppy babies, but I'm so glad that my husband had a vasectomy and I don't have to worry about an unplanned pregnancy. Yay, sex!
I think if you have any doubts you should just get an IUD. No hormones, nothing to think about, remember or anything. And if you change your mind you just get it removed.
I've had mine for over five years and my only regret is that I didn't get it sooner!
I wanted to have myself sterilized after my daughter's birth. I knew that I NEVER wanted another baby. I couldn't find a doctor who would do it because I was under 30, not married, and only had one child.
When my doctor recommended an endometrial ablation to stop my periods from hell, and warned me that it would mean that I couldn't get pregnant again, I did a happy dance in her office.
I had a tubal ligation 2.5 years ago and have loved it! I can't tell you how liberating it is to never worry about pregnancy again.
ETA: My OB once told me that the women she sees most often that have regrets are the ones who got it done young and then when they were on their second marriage-wanted to have another.
My husband had a vasectomy, since that was the less invasive option. We have no regrets and I haven't even had the faintest longing when holding someone else's baby. There is no room for uncertainty in decisions like this. If you're not 100% sure without any hesitation, then don't do it.
No regrets - my husband had a vasectomy after our youngest child was born. I can't imagine fussing with birth control ever again. What a pain! I love that it's done and not an issue anymore.
Yes- my husband got a vasectomy. :)
I haven't, but I know that my mom did when she was 21 and she regretted it until she had a hysterectomy at 36. If you are looking into getting your tubes tied, there can be a lot of issues that go with it, physical ones, that are not just emotionally related, so I would recommend doing some research about it before you do. From what I have read, a vasectomy is a much better option because it doesn't come with those same problems.
