Passive Aggressive Cleaning

I clean EVERYTHING when I'm nervous or angry. It's not a passive aggressive thing for me...it's a coping skill.

Guilty….(raises hand) I would say I do it most when there is a reason, or even like you mentioned that the house needs to be cleaned for and everyone in the house is oblivious to it (even though they actually know about it).

Even worse, to me, is when I want to take it easy and hubs breaks out the vacuum. And God forbid he decides to "do" the first floor powder room. It's a production beyond what O. could imagine in their wildest dreams!

its really the only time things get mirco cleaned. I clean all the time but when I am really angry at the hubs, I break out the brushes, and start moving furniture and appliances, and then I stomp around and clean.I think he knows I do that so he likes to really tick me off often.

Yes, I do it with lots of loud sighing.

SIGH!! ;)

No but my ex-husband did it and I hate it!!! When he visits, he still angrily cleans stuff (which is a laugh riot since I am a single parent who does ALL the cleaning ALL the time). When I hear the "angry vacuum" I just leave to go run errands and shoot him a dirty look on the way out.

Passive aggressive something, I'm sure, but not housecleaning!! LOL!

Sounds like you and hubby had fun!
:)

Right now, J. - I'm not even passive-aggressive about it!!

I'm ready to THROW EVERYTHING out. I'm just so done with the stuff!! I thought we got rid of stuff...but it appears we didn't get rid of enough!!!

Bob is usually pretty good about helping out around the house...although I will admit he's left his tool boxes out for the last two weekends and I'm ready to shove them somewhere!! :)

We have a good system in our house that works pretty well. Jeff will sometimes sweep while mutering under his breath, but he knows that is the one chore I HATE to do, but I hate a dirty floor even more.

My house is most clean when I am mad - go figure!

Does it help that my kids get excited over cleaning bathrooms and baseboards? Score!

Since no one was helping me with the housework, I went on strike. It took a month before Aaron did anything. He spent yesterday cleaning :-)

lol this is too funny.

Yes, I admit to PAC. But I do want a good relationship with both my husband and son too. That is why I try to do my housework early in the morning when people are sleeping or during the day when people are out of the house!

My husband does this when he thinks I haven't kept the house clean enough. He will start cleaning and make a big production about having to clean the house when he works full time...

I tell any of them. My husband and my son's you want someone to come over you will be the one doing most the cleaning and they will not walk into my house until it's close to perfect. And I am the judge of if it is or not.

Oh, I've 'harumphed' my way through a few clean-ups, usually when I find that my work is being undone when my back is turned.

Nothing icks me out more than water left all over the counter. My husband is awesome about being the guy to feed the piteously-meowing cat (who then doesn't actually eat it... he just wants to know you are his servant), but he leaves a counter full of water spots and then I'm the grump who wipes them up.

I'm not a morning person. And if you come walk on the floor with dirty shoes after I've just swept, you don't get passive-aggressive cleaning. Instead, you get the pointless, angry rhetorical questions... "You must think I LOVE to clean up after you, huh? Must be my purpose in life after all-- I just must have missed that memo! WHO KNEW!?" or "Wow. Another chance to clean up after one of you guys. My life is so fulfilled right now! I'm overwhelmed with the sense of abundance of DIRT I must clean. Lucky me!" Sarcasm is sometimes better than screaming "WHY CAN'T YOU TAKE OFF YOUR FREAKING SHOES? THIS IS NOT A NEW IDEA!"

I don't know if it's passive aggressive, but sometimes I clean when I'm angry (with a lot of unnecessary noise, banging pots and pans or dragging the vacuum around....). Not often. But I do. But at least the house is cleaner afterword and I feel less angry. :)

Oh yeah!
Oh yeah!
It's usually how my house gets clean. This month I've been super angry and upset at my Dad, so my house is looking nice.

I don't passive-aggressive clean with my husband though. Hmmmm...will have to think about that. I'm passive-aggressive slob with him.

Great question..hadn't connect the two until now.

Absolutely! When my husband is pushing my buttons, I will walk away from him and start dusting or cleaning. It really ticks him off b/c he knows EXACTLY why I am doing it.

I'm also a great procrastination cleaner... it's amazing how clean my baseboards were while I was in graduate school!

I am not beyond telling him to get off his a$$ and help ;-)

My husband is the passive aggressive cleaner. I'm the passive aggressive child care one :)

I almost wish someone would call to say that they are coming over--that way I have to break down and clean. So, yes. I am passive aggressive cleaner.

My husbands aunt was in town to stay at my FIL's while he was out of town. She was my MIL's sister. I really have missed my MIL so much since she passed away. We moved a while back and are still putting boxes of stuff up all the while the kids are breaking the new house in with dirt, mud, jelly, and eggs....yes, eggs.

When I went out, cleared my head, walked back in like I was a stranger to see what a stranger would see when walking in my house....OMG I was shocked at how messy everything looked.

I wanted her to come see our house and I wanted her to see a clean orderly house.

So our closets were filled to the brim with boxes and bags of clothes I haven't had time to sort out, the cabinets that had nothing in them yet got filled with anything that would fit. I cleaned the carpets and washed the walls where the eggs had been. I scrubbed each and every surface I had cleaned off.

When she came my house was spotless and orderly, if she only looked at the surface because if she had opened even one closet door she might have been hurt in the avalanche.

I see it as division of labor. My dh works full time, I don't, so I take care of the house. I even mow the lawn...just because I want to.

I don't like getting forced into cleaning, but I'm always happy when it looks nice. Everyone seems to be more calm when the house is in order.

yup. only when there are people coming over or when i am frustrated because weve gotten behind

he does it ALOT. he will constantly say "you could help instead of sitting there" and i will simply smile and say no thanks. diference is he doesnt get annoyed like a woman and need to talk about his feelings and why he was annoyed after. he'll J. simply keep going and making comments occassionally