Part 2 of 2 Best and Worst

I wish I could think of the specifics. Sometimes I throw out a question and get a lot of perspectives I didn't think of. I love those responses because that is really what I am after. I sometimes get stuck on this is this and it takes someone going what are you talking about for me to see it.

The worst is when I ask a question and the thread is hijacked by haters. :( Really I already know who doesn't like me so why bother?

The best advice I give, I don't know, it is when I luck into it being exactly what the person needed, not wanted mind you, but needed. Flowers are great and all but there is nothing like a PM to tell you thanks. :)

My worst advice, when I completely miss the target. :(

See I need to work on my reading skills, you didn't ask about advice given....o well.

Cheryl, you always keep it interesting.
BEST: and I quote "J., you rock"
WORST: "you need to get a job and get off this site", I found out later this W. has a nanny, so obviously she isn't raising her kids and aware that a SAHD or SAHM is a full time job, lol

The worst was the lady that told me I was going to make my daughter Autistic by teaching her to read early. Lunatic.

The best was probably the Dawn Dish detergent to get the Vaseline out of my daughters hair. It didn't work all the way, but was probably the most effective.

The best I got was while my son was potty training. I was going batcrap crazy because he was almost 4 yo and was totally opting out. He went from in the game to out overnight and nothing we could do would change it. I was told to back off, that it was cool, not to worry so much. It was good advice and the advice I give now. Woohoo, for learning a new way of thinking when you actually listen to the advice that you freakin' asked for.

The worst was when I asked people who were homeschoolers what curriculum they liked and what advice they had and same loony came on and told me I was a co-dependent enabler who was making my son dependent on my and that I was cheating him, that I was wanting to give him the answers and on and on it went. I mentioned that he had a learning disability and wasn't getting adequate intervention in my post, but I'm also pretty sure that I mentioned that a kid in his art class said that because he had a big nose, then my son must be a jew, and that he wanted to "slit his throat, nail him to a tree and set him on fire." Oddly enough, THAT part didn't move her. Sometimes you just can't fix stupid.

The advice over my accident. you guys do not understand how you saved me.

I had no hope left...I had waited to speak up about the hell I was being tormented with...Because I was afraid you all would react the way the Parents of the little boy first reacted.

They were so angry with me...and they had no clue who I was and that I was just on my way home from running errands with my kids...I was sure that you guys would come down upon me with a heavy hammer for not being responsible...When realistically there was no way to avoid what happened.

You all saved my life and If I could throw a big party in your guy's honor for that I would!!

Worst advice...hum I have h=been bashed pretty hard here. alot of it back in the day I took personally. I have developed a thick skin for it though.

If I really could not take it I would not be here....but LIKE anyone, I can get caught up in the heat of the moment...And for this I had a smart mama offer a tip..and I will use this from here on out....when it is something that is a heated topic for me...I need to write my response or SWH out somewhere not on here...and then walk away...and then come back and do a rewrite once I have calmed down...I dont have to change anything If I feel I am speaking my honest truth...but it gives me a buffer and will ward off offending some one I really did not want to offend....I think this advice is priceless!!

Jo W. I feel the same way...I know who my friends are here and who my foes are....and those who think I am a whiny self righteous B!tch.....I am glad I have been here long enough to figure this stuff out! that is the key to sticking with it here.

Well the responses to my post about my dog were just beautiful too. So much love and support pouring out of everyone. See how much more we are all alike than different?

I have actually read a number of responses that have COMPLETELY changed my way of thinking. I OFTEN think, huh, I never thought about it THAT way before.

I like all the differences of opinion. There isn't a mom in the world I can't learn something from.

I have never gotten 'bad advice', but I don't ask especially important questions either, you know?

:)

I am happy to get different views (advise) on here so I can't really say that one was best. I try to always be open minded and respect other ways of parenting that differs from my own.
I can't say I have gotten the worst advice either, but I do get upset at some of the responses to certain questions. I have seen some that I feel the person asking was ganged up on.

Well darn...I didn't get to see your first post either. Let me know what MP says about why they pulled it. Strange.

Best Advice I received on here lately is when I was leary about a Craigslist transaction and just about all my answers came back telling me it was a red flag. Had it not been for those answers, I probably would have ended up losing my piano etc. (one great answer was yours Cheryl). :-D

Worst Advice was a while back when I was asking advice on what to do with my son having nightmares and couldn't go to sleep. I had a lot of great answers, but one threw me and I went off! I did however read too much into it, but for this answer I still believe it wasn't the best at all, but I did go off on that particular person. Sometimes when we post things here, some people assume/presume too much and the answers sometimes are not quite...well nice. I had posted another question venting about that one particular answerer, and everyone...just about, rebutted telling me off and directly telling me there was nothing wrong in that answer. The next day was a fresh new look at the answer and I come to realize that the person who wrote it, wasn't understanding, or presumed something that made her answer that way...and it wasn't as bad as I first though...So I posted another question/statement apologizing to everyone and thanking those who put me in my place and thanking those who were kind about it.

Hope things are going well for you. :-) My husband is still looking for a job. Several interviews and no bites. Had one possibility here not long ago, but it fizzled before he even got to start...so we're back to square one. oye...lol Together we will pull through. :-)

I didn't see your " 1of 2" :(.. The best advice I have recieved would have to have been the answers for my question relating to my MIL and her nonstop pushes for me to have a second child. They all were great answers, some humorous, but all well meaning and helpful. I can't thing of a worst advice answer. I hope that most of my answers would be helpful though..:)

This site is open to all so I see an array of opinions and some really crazy ones too. But I just think moms/women should support each other not bully each other. There is a difference between tough love and bullying. You are a straight shooter and you call it like it is (tough love), but with compassion.

I love your advice and you are always very helpful. Still looking forward to having a cup of coffee with you someday! :-)

best------One W. actually met up with me and gave me maternity clothes when i was in need a few years ago.

worst-------When a few people went off on me sarcastically because i was nervous i might be pregnant.

worst advice was when I was pregnant the first time and we had just found out that our son had a cleft lip and that I had a 2 vessel cord. I was scared and freaking out and had only been on here a few months. a mom told me that because of his cleft and my 2 vessel cord that he would be born with DS and I had better prepare myself. she was very blunt and rude about it. I wish I could go back and tell her she was dead wrong. I have gotten so much great advice that it is hard to pick the "best"...I generally love most everything ya'll help me with!

The best advice I've received is actually in questions I didn't even ask. Since we don't have kids yet, I don't post on questions that have to do with kids, but I read them all the time. All of the amazing advice and ideas on those threads are priceless, and I feel like I'm arming myself for future situations. :)

The worst advice? It's hard to say. If I think someone's advice is not right for me, then I generally don't take it anyway. But I really like to read everyone else's opinions, even if they're totally opposite of what I believe. Helps me keep an open mind. :)