It is perfectly OK to only want one child. I've gone that route myself. We had one daughter in Sep 2006 and the birth was absolutely traumatic for me. I was rushed to the hospital with preeclampsia and HELLP syndrome. My liver and kidneys were shutting down. I was dying. The only way to stop the degeneration of my health was to deliver the child via emergency C-section. She was eight weeks away from term.
I'm so happy to be alive and have my daughter. Our family dynamic feels just right. My husband is happy with just her as am I. However, my mother is sad and pushes at me to try for another. I told her what the doctor told me. I have a 40% chance to go preeclamptic again but the next time might not have such a happy ending. I'm not willing to play those odds.
Every couple of months she'll send me another email with a news article or a story she heard from some lady at the place she gets her hair done about how so n so's first baby was premature due to preeclampsia but their second was a normal full term baby!
If my little family feels perfect now... why would I shake it up and possibly destroy it, and my life, to have another baby?
My mother had an answer to that question. She replied, "You don't want your daughter to be alone do you?!?"
And I asked her, "So, you had my sister solely for my benefit? I was the wanted child and my little sister was brought into this world just for me? My little confidant? A living doll, just for me? She wasn't wanted for her own sake but only to guarantee that I wouldn't suffer alone in this world after you shuffled off this mortal coil?"
She fumbled around for an answer to this and I said, "There are no guarantees in life and you have no idea how things will turn out. The best laid plans and all that..."
You see, my sister and I are like night and day. We fought like junkyard dogs growing up and hardly speak as adults. I'm fairly introverted, I like to read and play video games. My sister was a socialite and is into fashion and boys... and mostly herself.
I met my soul mate in high school and we've been together all this time. I've created my own little family and am not alone.
My sister on the other hand has gone through more boyfriends than I can count and is on the path to being alone herself because of her self-centered nature. So the child my mother had to keep me company may one day be a burden to me.
Things don't always go as you plan them so do what feels right. What if your second pregnancy results in a child that requires full time care for its whole life? Would that shut your parents up? So you see, don't do anything because someone else tells you it's the right thing to do. You must decide for yourself what is right for you.
If one day your son says he wishes he had a brother... buy him a puppy.