Pain - Fresno,CA

That sounds like too much pain to be normal. Please don't take "I don't know" for an answer. GET ANOTHER DOCTOR. Sounds like he isn't taking you seriously and that can be a huge mistake. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE see another doctor!

hi trish,
my cousin went thru the same thing,christina is 9 months old as well..her periods never regulated after her birth and she wouldnt stop bleeding like you..she was bleeding for like 2 months straight..she went to the doctor and was examed and she was told every thing looked ok and it was probably hormonal..she was also put on the pill to control it..shes not happy with it and wants to get taken off of it.its not a bad idea to get a 2nd opinion on the situation..just wanted you to know you arnt alone..it does happen.it could just be hormonal.

Hi,
Find another doctor, and preferrably a female. They are much more sympathetic, understanding, and knowledgable about female problems.

D.

Hi Trish.
First off, don'y walk, but run to another doctor! Your doctor is not helping you and you need to find one that can help you find out what is going on. I too live in the Fresno area and I have a wonderful doctor. His name is Dr. Denard Fobbs. His phone number is ###-###-####. He has his own practice, not part of a huge clinic. His staff is wonderful and his nurse Linda is the absolute BEST! I went through six doctors before I found one that was able to diagnose my Endometriosis and I have never looked back. I promise you he will take great care of you! You deserve to get this taken care of and to be healthy and happy for your beautiful daughter! If you want to talk more feel free to email me at ____@____.com
Good luck, K.

Hi Trish,
You need a second opinion. Santa Rosa OB GYN ###-###-#### has really great Gynecologyst that are diligent in finding out whats going on. Dr. Baran is who I have seen. Dr. Keller is also great I'm not sure about the man Dr. You shouldn't be in this much pain. Good luck

I would find a different doctor. You need a second opinion! You really need to find the cause especially because of the pain combined with the bleeding! I don't have any idea what could cause it but I do know that you need to trust your instincts and if this is not normal to you then it is not o.k. for you to let a doctor dismiss you because he doesn't know what the cause is! You are a brave young woman to be a single mom and starting college! You are wise to get your education and you are doing an amazing service for your baby girl to stretch and grow so you can be successful in life. You should be proud of yourself! As for your health take care of yourself - a sick mommy is not good for any baby!

i was 19 when i had my daughter, and the bleeding wasn't all that bad afterword. but i also was put on the mini pill, and had to stop because of the mood affects, and the fact that it made me bleed more severly. since i had my daughter (she's 4) i have had very irregular periods. some months i just won't have one, some months it will only last 3 days, sometimes 2 weeks, and sometimes the bleeding is so heavy i think i'm dieing. and the cramping is almost non stop. i cramp after sex, i cramp during my period, after, and even between. sometimes to the point that i have to miss work because of the pain. the docs have sent me to the uriologist, and found nothing, they have done ultrasounds, and found nothing, and i have been getting pap smears every 6 months to check for any kind of change. one thing i was told was that my uterus is slightly tilted, and after the birth, my cervex was damaged slightly. but the docs all agree that it should not be causing me all the pain and bleeding and irregularity. they have tried me on different pills, but nothing seems to work. this has been going on for 4 years, and they keep telling me that they can't find anything. i have seen at least 3 docs... plus i have been seen by 4 E.R. docs (the pain was so bad i had to go to the E.R.) nobody can figure anything out. i'm starting to wonder if it's all in my head...lol. i don't have any answers for you, but i do share your pain. if you happen to come across any kind of fix, please share!! i'll do the same k!

Do you need to be on birth control? Hormonal birth control has a lot of bad side effects that you may not think of in the short term, but if you can, try to stay away from it. It's better for your health in the long run. If you need a form of birth control, try sticking with condoms for awhile and find someone (or resources) to learn about charting your fertility naturally.

In the meantime though I agree with the other posters about getting back to the doctor or finding a new one...

Have you been ruled out for Endometriosis? I’ve heard it can cause both missing periods and excessive menstruation. It may be worth asking about.

The reason I ask is because when I was 18 (and still a virgin) my cycle stopped for 4 months straight. By the end of the forth month I would get such bad pains that I would literally double over. My work almost called the paramedics twice, because I just COULDN'T move. I finally went to the doctor, whom was certain I was pregnant and lying about not having had sex yet. After the pregnancy test came back negative (duhh!), she did a pelvic exam and said that I “had an enlarged uterus” and scheduled me for an ultra sound. The Ultra Sound still showed nothing, so the scheduled some blood tests, and prescribed Ortho Tri-cyclin. My Period came back and the pains (mostly) went away after about 6 months. (However, do to depression partially brought on by the pill, I threw away my virginity shortly after I started taking the dumb stuff!) None of the tests gave any conclusive answers. It was suggested at the time that I may have a minor case of Endometriosis, which would have accounted for the pain and missing cycle. My cycle has “gone missing” 2 other times since this incident, both times for nearly 5 months, always with LOTS of pain. Every time they suggest “it may be Endometriosis.”

Now that I’ve had a baby, I have an irregular cycle again. BUT, now I get one every month, it just happens anywhere from 26-39 days apart, with no rhythm. I was having some minor ovarian pain through out the month, and was once again told “it may be Endometriosis.” Last year I was told the only real diagnosis and treatment is through endoscopic surgery. Now that we’ve been having trouble conceiving, I’ll be talking about this at my next appointment.

Any way, I’m certain you’re board unconscious. I just thought I’d throw the idea out there. Hope you get it worked out, -J

I am sorry you are in pain and not getting any relief. I just want you to know that you can get help. You may have to go to a different doctor. Do not let it rest. Try to find out who your family members go to. Maybe try going to an natural alternative doctor, accupuncture or planned parenthood.

Also, depending on when you started your period, the abnormal periods may be more normal than you realize, If you started late 14+.

Sweetie, if you're having pain when you touch your abdomen, you need to just go to the emergency room. That is NOT NORMAL. The funky periods, mood swings, bad cramps, etc. don't necessarily mean something is wrong, but combined with the abdominal pain- it may be something you need to get treatment for right away. I used to get ovarian cysts that were extremely painful when they ruptured, and there was nothing I could really do about them. BUT the ER docs all said the same thing: if it hurts when you touch the area, come straight back to the hospital. It could be a sign of infection. Let us all know how it turns out.

Hello Trish,

I went through something similar. Although, I must agree with everyone if there is that much pain when you just touch your stomach get to another Doc..

My son is now 20mns. The first year of his life I pretty much was on a period and the mood swings were killing my marriage. I was ok while on the mini pill, periods only lasted a 2 weeks and my moods were ok. Then I switched to a regular pill that is when I was lucky if I had a week off without bleeding! Mood swings were crazy, so crazy that I would stop and think why did I say that or do that.

My doc tried me on several different pills, not one worked. She gave me the option of different types of birth control or just stop birth control completely and use condoms or other methods. Between my husband and I we decided to just use condoms, considering I have had a horrible first year of my son's life.

My periods are not completely regular, but I can count out 28 days and know I should be starting within a 1 week of that date. Now as far as mood swings they are not what they use to be, but hey we are still Mom's trying to care and teach our children, while taking care of the house, husband and my business, so mood swings still are a part of my families life.

I hope this helps, but please if you are in such pain please, please, go see another doc.

Sincerely,
M.

Dear Trish,

Where is your Mama? or Grandmother? or Aunt? and go to another doctor ASAP . Good grief! Don't let the medidal profession treat you like this!

Call the local American Medical Association - look in the phone book, maybe it is called the Medical Association. Tell them that the doctor that you have isn't helping you and that you need to see another doctor. Don't tell them your long story, just what I said, if they ask you can tell them more, then quit talkig. They just need to know enough to get you a list of doctors that will help you. Otherwise, go to the ER. No kidding.

Please let us know what you do, and how you get help, because you do definitely need help and a good doctor that will tell you what the heck is going on. Sincerely, C. N.

My mom had this same problem after having my youngest sister. She would bleed all the time and barely had a day where she didn't bleed. Her gyno did a lot of tests and couldn't figure out what was wrong. They eventually did a hysterectomy and it turns out she had endometreosis. Ask your gyno about that. It helped my mom a lot and it's something to think about.

Oh my gosh...please see someone who actually cares! this sounds quite serious, especially if youre in pain!!! pain is the body's way of saying something is not right! do you have medical insurance? if not don't fret, just get yourself to someone who will run some test, and possibly take x-rays, see another doctor right away and tell him you want some tests done immediatly! please if not for yourself do it for your little one!

Hi Trish,

I know what it's like to have a doctor keep saying "I don't know". The worst is when they say "it must be in your head cuz I see nothing physicaly wrong". When my last baby was about 7 months old, I started getting a really bad pain in my lower abdomen on my right side only along with urinary tract infection-like pain. All the doctors I went to said I didn't have a urinarly tract infection and that they didn't know what it was. One suggested it might even be a pinched nerve in my back. Finally I went to a doctor who suggested that it might be endometriosis and the reason I have UTI-like pain is because some endometrial tissue might have attached to my bladder. It was like a light bulb went on! It finally all made sense why I was in such pain.

Please go to a different doctor and keep going to different doctors until you find one who will go to the ends of the earth to figure out what is going on in your body!! I know they seem rare these days, but I know they are out there! You just have to put in the effort to find them.

Good Luck!

I am sorry that at 17 your going through this kind of pain. I suggest you find another doctor, or go to a emergency room. The pain your experencing is not right. I have had problems getting my period after my kids but never the pain you address. My thought is that you might have a severe bladder infection and if they are not looking for it they wont find it. Good luck and I hope things get better for you. Good luck with school, and if I can tell you to never give it up. I had a baby young too and I quit school to work to support my baby. I totally regret my decision now. If you would like to contact me please do. ____@____.com take care

Yes please get a new doctor!

Now it's possible that your period has just changed since the birth...and not for the better. However the issue of bleeding for a long time could be fibroid tumours or possibly caused by endometriosis.

The pain near your ovary very well could be an ovarian cyst. When you ovulate, an egg is pushed out and a little sac can be formed around that egg but it can sometimes continue to fill with fluids until it can cause the pain you are feeling (you can touch your stomach near your ovary) or it can burst. Some don't feel it. And some like me do feel it. For me, they have been extremely painful when they burst. It's like a spazzing cramping stabbing pain that buckles you over. That is when it's time to go to call your doctor and go to the emergency room. I have them so often that my doctor has given me pain medication to manage the pain and I just wait it out at home.

I see that you are in Fresno. I have a doctor in Fountain Valley, CA and I know it's a trip but if you'd like to call his office, message me back and I'll give you the number. He is the number 1 fertility OB/GYN in Southern California. He performed my surgery, he is gentle, caring, knowledgable and without even examining me the first time we met, just from my syptoms, he know what was causing my pain. The surgery proved him right.

Also, the fact that you are 17...most "textbook" cases suggest that these problems are happening to higher in age women so when you say you are 17, they assume you can't be having these problems. I can think back now to when I started having my pain at age 16...they said the same thing. Quote, "It's just cramps honey, we all get them." They are quick to dismiss you because of your age. And the things I've mentioned are very common too so you're not alone in them. Just seek out a new doctor right away. Don't be afraid to ask for pain medication so you can manage your pain. No one should be expected to be in pain and pain is an indicator that something is not right.

Good luck

GET A NEW DOCTOR! If the your doctor finds something that is wrong, look into suing the other doctor for malpractice. Your symptoms sound pretty severe, and even more so being you are 17!

Also, bare in mind, that some doctors treat teenagers as if they know nothing! So make yourself known to your doctor that you are very serious!!! I was in the same boat, and ended up losing a baby because of it!

Best of luck to you!

The pain when you're unrinating sounds like a bladder infection. My mom got when after she had me...the heavy bleeding and cramping I had too. I just had my 3rd child 6 months ago. With my 2nd child I got put on the mini pill and my bleeding didn't stop. I'd get a day of non bleeding, but that was about it. The cramps were bad and I had other problems so I pulled myself off the pill and everything regulated and got better. With this last baby my new doctor put me on a different pill, since the hormones make me sick...It mad me crazy. I had the same thing with the mood swings and bad cramping. I decided the pill wasnt' for me and stopped it all together a few weeks ago. I feel great now. If you are in a lot of pain, you really need to see another doctor. If your OB can't help you, try a general practice or go to the urologist. After 9 months you shouldn't be in a lot of pain anymore. I hope this helps. Let me know if you need anything else. M.

Hi Sweetie,
I agree, get a new dr. You definitely need to be checked out! A female dr. is more sympathetic and understanding, and willing to do what it takes to find the problem. I know it seems like a bother to change your dr. but your health is definitely more important.
Take care,
R.

Hi Trish,

I am sorry about the pain you are having and I hated too. It seems like a life time ago now but my daughter is 4 and going to turn 5 year old July 3rd. I went through so many changes I just wanted to cry. I had hot flashes too. I called my Mother who has always been into health foods because the Doctors had me try this and that and nothing seemed to work, so my Mother told me to go to a Health Food Store and find Nature Sunshine Products they have stuff in any line but she told me to get a creme but they have changed what I took to Menstrual Reg. It is 16.45 here in Tracy. I drank a lot more teas. Red Raspberry tea I really loved. I not big on drinking tea but I forced myself into doing it. You can put anything you'd like into it. I love my tea without sugar or honey unless I have a cold. Honey and lemon soothe the throat if you do have a cold. I don't have that problem anymore and love being pain free and problem free. If cremes are easier for you to take or do then any brand will work. The cremes were more expensive. Dong Qai has been a big name for female problem way back when I had my son. It is good and work for me as well. My son is turning 24 this year so whatever you do I hope you have the same luck I did. It will settle down but it takes time.
Good luck to you my dear.
Have a great day.
R. H.

Trish:

First, you need to get a new doctor! You obviously aren't satisfied with the responses and results you're getting from your current doc, and you shouldn't be. Having abnormal periods after giving birth isn't necessarily a sign that something's wrong, but the pain you're describing is. There are so many things it could be, but you won't be sure unless your doctor investigates further. And if the one you have isn't doing enough, you need to find a doctor that will.

Find a different doctor and insist they do an ultrasound and pelvic exam. The pain is not normal. Neither is the bleeding.

If the ultrasound comes back clear, try looking into using Depo Provera for birth control. It's a shot you get in your butt every 3 months. I've been using it since I had my son 10 years ago, and haven't had a period since.

As a teenager I had lots of pain and heavy bleeding too, and the pill helped a bit, but the shot has been MUCH better.

If the doctor doesn't find anything, and the pain and bleeding don't stop on the Depo, go to yet another doctor... preferably a specialist. Sometimes one or even two doctors may miss something that a third can find.

Good luck!

Kat

Hi Trish. My name is C.. I'm really concerned about what you've written. I'd like you to ask your doctor if there might be a possiblity that you have endometriosis. It's not sexually transmitted. It effects many women all over the world. You can have alot of bleeding, pain, pain during sex and many other symtoms. I've dealt with my endometriosis for a few years now. Let me know if you need anymore information. Take care of yourself.

Trish,

I'd recommend getting a new doctor. While it isn't unusual to have really bad periods after you have a baby, I'd think at some point all that would start to regulate itself. The pain and trouble urinating is NOT normal. The fact that you think there is something wrong is a real red flag. I'd get a second opinion. If your doctor won't take you seriously, find a different doctor.

T.