HELP,
Our 6 year old son still wakes up at night like clock work to come in our room. We've bought him a new mattress that feels like ours, new down comfetor that feels like ours. Everything he says he likes about our bed I got it for his.. It's clear now he just likes sleeping next to someone. He goes to sleep in his own bed but at 2-3am every night he is calling our name to come in his room or we hear him running to our bed. "he even told be one night when I ask why is he gettin in the bed, "shh mom just go back to sleep, you wont know im here" lol what do I do. I have to admit when you are dead tired from working late its easier to just let him stay. Other nights we say, " go back to your room and he will go.
Help, am I the only one with an attached son whe it comes to bd time.
Thank you for all the comments its made me feel better that I'm not alone and if my husband and I really want it we hv to be consistent. My husband is the only child like my son and he said he did the same thing.
There are nights when all THREE of my children (7, 6 and 3) drift into my bed. Then it usually ends with me being woken up with an elbow to my face and me waking everyone up by yelling "Get out of my bed!!!" Lol. If I remind them before bed that they are not to come in my bed that night they usually don't.
Okay... when I was a child, I too would wake up nightly and creep down our LONG dark scary hallway, just to go to my parent's room and squeeze in between them.
They let me.
They knew, it was just me, just childhood and just a phase.
One day I would not even want to be near them.
It was no big deal to them.
However, the way my parents allowed that... it is one of my MOST cherished memories, about them and about my childhood. My Dad... is no longer alive. And I still remember, how my parents were, letting me crawl into bed with them.
I did it, simply because, I LOVED being near them, and I would get scared at night in my room by myself. Even if my sibling was nearby.
I simply, missed them.
I got sleep that way and they did too.
I was very special.
How a child goes to bed at night or not... will either be a cherished childhood memory... or a hated one. Of going to bed.
My kids are 5 and 9. And we make no big deal of it, if they for some reason, need to be near.
We have a futon on the floor of our room. The kids can go there.
No biggie.
In some cultures, well they all sleep in one room!
It is the perception of how you view it.
My daughter would get into my bed until she was a teen. I was a single parent and didn't mind at all. It was good bonding time for us. She came to me as a foster child.
But if you want him to stay in his bed you have to consistently tell him to go back to bed EVERY time he comes into your room. He will learn.
All my kids did it. They would sneak in during the night. Since they were
all a year apart some mornings we would wake up and there were two
sometimes three of them in bed with us! In the scheme of thiings, I knew
they would not be there forever so never fought it. I like to sleep at night
not fight with kids about where they sleep. Now they have their own kids
sleeping with them lol.
I have no advice for you T., but I'll commiserate with you... Welcome to my world. My son tells me he likes my "warmness." He's just a cuddle-bug, and as you said, it's clear that he just likes to sleep next to someone. I figure it won't last forever...
We just changed rooms for my daughter and she keeps either "hearing" or "seeing" something in her new room. I think kids are just a little scared and need the comfort of a grown-up.
My grandkids come in any time they want. I got a bigger bed just so we could sleep better. My little grandson wanders in bumping in to everything almost every night for a couple of weeks then he'll sleep in his own bed for months...then it's back with us.
I don't see any issues with it.
Maybe make a rule that he can only sleep with you all 1 night a week. Have him pick out a night..
Once he has slept with you for the week, continue to remind him to stay in his own bed.
We have queen bed and there was just not any room for one more person once our child was in kinder.. She would flip over, had her arms and legs flailing. It was just too many people in our bed.
I have an 8 yr old son that comes in about 1/2 the time. Our deal is, if he is quiet and doesn't wake us up he can stay-if he starts talking or is restless he leaves. My attitude is-I want sleep. And I decided to pick a different battle.
No you are not, I have heard of many. My son occasionally (very rare) does it at 7. We never let our two kids come into our bed because with work I would have never been able to deal with it. You can either just draw the line with him and bring him back each time and he will get the point, or, (hate to throw this at you) you can let him keep doing it till he gets over it. My cousin (whose son is not 30 something and incredibly successful, told me how when he was little he kept coming into her bed and her mom said to her when she complained about it "one day he will find another woman and he's never coming back" So she lived with it. LOL good luck.
I'm in the same situation. My son is 9 now and he still comes in around 3 AM - he has his own bigger bed, pillow top mattress, new comforter - He just likes being with mommy. However, he is staying in his bed more now than before because he's getting so big that he's not that comfortable squished between me and my husband. I actually like having him there too. I know this won't last much longer so I just let him do it. My brothers kids are 9 and 12 and they do the same thing.
