B.A.
Hello
Since this is my specialty I thought I would chime in. I am a personal trainer and am the only person in the state that is "Tupler Technique" and "Diastasis Rehab" certified.
It sounds to me like you may have what is called "The mummy tummy" or a split in your stomach muscles from pregnancy.
There are definitely some things you can do!
Postpartum women be aware that crunches where your shoulders come off the ground can make a diastisis worse (split in your rectus abdominus you get from being pregnant - also called "mummy tummy" - the vertical muscle on either side of your belly button that stretch from the top of the pelvis to the bottom six ribs)
"Crunches" were not designed for pp women - at all! This is why you have struggled with them. They actually make the split in your stomach muscles WORSE!! Also a split in the rectus abdominus can CAUSE or WORSEN a sensative back. The main function of the rectus abdominus is BACK SUPPORT. So if that muscle has a wide split (which happens in 98% of PP women and does not come back together on its own) you will have pain or sensitivity in your lumbar (back) muscles.
Having said that you can adapt many exercises to be suitable for pp and help tone the muscles, and close the diastisis.
There are many specific exercises you can do. "Lose your Mummy Tummy" is a great book you can get from Amazon.com. If you prefer a group or personal instruction, I am a certified PErsonal Trainer and Tupler Technique/Diastasis Rehab specialist. www.diastasisrehab.com
I teach classes in 3 locations and can do personal or group sessions in the home.
One last thing I tell my clients for great abs - AVOID THE FIVE WHITES!!!
White Flour
White Sugar
White Potatoes
White Pasta
White Rice
Feel free to call me with any questions. My cell is ###-###-####
B. Wayne