Oh Kids Say the Darndest Things....(jff/vent)

My sis had on a face mask for wrinkles. Her son asked what it was and she told him. He them told her maybe she should try putting it on her stomach. He wasn't trying to be rude, just helpful, but still...

While traveling on vacation this summer with our 11 year old, I was putting makeup on in the car while DH was driving. I remarked "I need to get some makeup on before we stop anywhere, so I look decent". Dear, sweet, ever loving son pipes up from the back seat "Well, when you are done with that, you should probably fix your hair, it's frizzy".

I know! they are too honest for their own good, eh. I love it when they watch me work out and home and quip, "Daddy can do that, why can't you" or "gee, your butt looks big from down here" (im doing pull ups on the door bars and they look up at me - LOL)

Now that my older one should know better, I have started to coach him on things that can hurt feelings.
I also like to remind them the reason my body looks the way it does is because I carried them in it:)
"mommy your tummy is fat" me "Yep, it grew two amazing kids in it, so I don't care because if It ididn't look like this, it would mean I wouldn't have you" etc.

Not sure if that helps at all, but I do hear ya!

It's perfectly FINE that you said you were trying to be healthy now, mama! He won't take what you think he'll take away from hearing that. He'll think about healthy food making you feel good, and it would make him feel good too!!

I understand how you feel. One of the nicest things my son said to me as a middle schooler (8th grade) was during a rant he had about a substitute teacher. I asked him what she did differently than me in his class, (I taught the choir class, by the way) and as he was going on and on about it, he said "You're the best substitute I ever had." I told my husband that I'd go to my grave remembering that he told me that...

Fast forward to a year later when I was doing some practicing conducting, and he made fun of my arms because they jiggle some. Oh great. I guess I'll take that to my grave, too!

Dawn

Aah.... You said the right thing. Try not to be hurt by a six year olds honesty. Much better than the venom that can escape a 15 year old!

Just this week we went to the grocery store... a man walked up to me while I was waiting with the baby (10 mo) for the rest of the family to come in. Hubby had dropped off me & the baby cause it was raining & kinda chilly out. The gentalman told me he would be 96 yr old in a few weeks & at one time he was as cute as my little one, and to look at him now. When the rest of the "clan" came in - he started to talk to the 7 & 8 yr old... he asked their age, asked them if the were married & if they had any kids. He got a kick out of them giggling at his questions. Then he asked them if he could come to their weddings when they got married - my 8 yr old girl just giggled... my 7 yr old son said "your'll be dead." The old man did smile & keep talking to us, but we told our son he needed to be nice.

Kids can be so honest... something what they say does shock me & I really don't know how to respond... I think this was one of those times!

Kids have no filter, on the other hand, he is not applying judgement when he said that. Even without the tone of your text, the way you described it his love for you is still unconditional. Nobody except for a very small percentage of people in the world have bodies that DON'T have jiggle somewhere and honestly fixating on having no jiggle is far more destructive example to set for your son than the one you are currently setting. What you are saying to him is, I am trying to keep my body strong and fit by making wise, healthy choices. You SHOULD have an off week here and there without beating yourself up for it.
Here is my funny story: I signed up for Weight Watchers right after Christmas last year. My 4 year old son asked where I was going. I said, "to weight watchers to get rid of my big ol' bum!" Upon returning, he lifted up the back of my coat and yelled, "IT'S STILL THERE!!!!!
I wasn't offended. I just laughed and laughed! Have a great day!
HTH,
A.

Yup, now all my weight goes to my belly. When I'm being really good with gym and food: No belly. When I slack for even a couple of days....here comes the belly.... On a bad WEEK...I look pregnant all over again. And don't my kids let me know exactly how big my belly is all the time! I usually take the, "Yeah, I need to get to the gym" approach trying not to sound sad or anything so they see it's a matter of fact thing that I can and do control......sigh. But sometimes I just want to yell, "I KNOW, OK???!!! JEEZ!" Sometimes I can't wait until they're teenagers and I can be a little less "careful" all the time. :)

I asked my daughter if she wanted me or her dad to take her trick or treating this Halloween (really just to tease her dad.... I always am the one who takes her... he gets to stay home and be the boss of the remote control for the night). She told me "Mommy, you should really do it, you need the exercise." Thanks, kid. Thanks a lot!

Kids.. We can't control what comes out of their mouths, can we? Sorry it deflated your spirits. One day, my middle child saw me in just my bra. She walked up, stared straight at my tummy, and inquisitively said, "Mom, why do you have weird lines on your tummy?" I was taken aback, to say the least. I said to her without missing a beat, "That's my baby art. When you and your sister were in my tummy, you drew in my tummy and that's what it looks like from the outside". She seemed to be satisfied with that explanation. THEN, we were at a dinner party, and she said, loudly, "Hey, my mom has baby art on her tummy! Mommy, show them!" haha uh.. can you say, awkward?!

She still refers to my stretch marks as baby art and she's 9 now.

Rejoice in your little one and don't let it get you down! Best of luck on the weight and your lunch menu has inspired me to try to eat better (at least for today! lol)

to lighten the mood... I had an almost finished lip gloss I let my 4 year old have but said if her 7 year old sister wanted some she should let her put some on. The 7 year old did and boy was she taking her time applying. My 4 year old said "hurry up sister you're taking too long!" to which my 7 year old calmly said "relax honey, some people just want to look their best."

At least your son can tell your body is changing. And while it may feel like a backhanded comment of course he didnt mean anything mean by it. But he can tell you are making progress. So keep up the good work!

I was at the ped's office proudly going on and on about how my kids eat spinach and broccoli and not too much juice and I cook wholesome homemade meals and blah blah blah...

When my then 4 yr old son, nervous and bored fidgeting around with my purse and my hands and my rings says, "Mom, your fingernails are ORANGE. Did you eat my CHEEZ DOODLES?"

So busted.

;)

lol!!! but not cool. stinkers! keep your chin up, and keep pushing through. My kids are too small for comments like that yet, I am bracing myself for it though *cringe*

You can't take things kids say too seriously. They just blurt things out.

I have a friend whose 5 year old had apparently heard discussions about "muffin top" and announced in the grocery store that mommy needed to stay away from the muffin section.

When my daughter was really young and learning about adjectives at school, the teacher asked her to describe something ugly and she said, "My mom's hair in the morning". (It's true, but still).

I don't think your kid said anything deliberately hurtful. He just said something pertaining to a subject you are particularly sensitive about right now.

It's best to try to have a sense of humor about things.

Just my opinion.

Best wishes.

I took my 6 year old on a walk with me and she said "Mom, your butt cheeks go up and down when you walk".