T.
N.,
You may try to find some information at the La Leche League website www.llli.org. They are a breastfeeding support organization but they have a whole lot of good information on healthy nutrition for toddlers. And a strong emphasis on cooking whole foods without added sugar, etc. I don't have a specific answer to your question about how much is okay. I did the breastfeeding on demand routine and still nurse my 2 year old.... we never did baby food and I have been comfortable allowing him to set the pace with foods. I try to offer a variety of healthy foods and snacks throughout the day and allow him to decide how much (or if) he eats it. That has worked well for us. Because we continued nursing we didn't have the formula/milk issue... I am pretty sure after one year you would be fine with whole milk (although anyone selling you formula might tell you differently). Water and 100 percent juice are also healthy options. If you are going for the natural healthy options you might like the cookbooks from LLL, they have several available for reasonable prices. Or you could find a local chapter and they usually have a free lending library (or try your local public library). A few titles I remember are Whole Foods for the Whole Family and Sugar Free Toddlers. This is a link to one article I found, it lists a few books as well.
Good luck,
T.
http://www.lalecheleague.org/NB/NBMayJun99p86.html