Not Sure When to Potty Train!

yep, she is not ready. You will know when to potty train when she shows interest and there is no reward system that can bring that about. Don't push and just wait until she shows true interest in it. There is no age to start by.

I'm glad to hear that you are a stay at home mom. What I'm about to suggest is hardly practical for working moms. ( I don't say this to be offensive to working moms, but in order for this type of training to work, the child must be naked all day).

First thing in the morning, remove your daughters pull ups and on the toilet she goes. Make her sit there until she does something. Tell her that she's a big girl now, big girls use the toilet and that this is going to be a fun thing to learn. Be excited for her...it will make things easier. Next, providing she did something (or not) on the toilet (depends on how long you are willing to wait with her until she does something on the toilet), let her run around the house with NO PULL-UPS, NO UNDERWEAR, Nothing...below the waist. Trust me, at 2 1/2, she would rather pee in her underpants than pee on the floor. That's not to say that an occasional accident won't occur, because it might happen, but not as often as you think. I am suggesting that you put her on the toilet every 30 minutes or every hour. Reward her EACH and every time she does something on the toilet and make it a joyous event. Clap, praise, act real excited for her. She will thrive on your enthusiasm. Be aware that once you potty train her this way and you transition to the pull ups or underwear again, she may very well go back to peeing in her pants. This happened with my third child. So, I went back to letting him run around naked all day. Reward, REWARD, reward. I cannot say that enough. Good luck! Oh, if she does have an accident on the floor, make sure to make it a clear learning experience for her. Let her know how disappointed you are that she dirtied the floor. Don't yell at her, but DO let her know that she must never do it again and show her, point to her tummy and say, "When you have the pee-pee feeling in your tummy, let mommy know so we can go to the toilet together." Watch for the pee-pee dance. She may not dance, though and want to sit down when she has to go (it's quite comical that they think sitting down makes the feeling go away). Watch for the poopy dance too. It should be obvious, as with my son, when he had to go number 2 and he didn't have pants on, he began running around the house, grabbing his butt cheeks. Quite funny, but do watch for those types of signs. : ))

Mine were both potty trained at before 2 years of age. My Mom said that it is easier to do it before the terrible two's. But your first mistake was to let her wear the big girl panties. You should have put them up where she could see them and tell her she could not wear them until she quit wetting her panties. Put her back in pull ups or buy regular training panties. The regualar training panties are more uncomfortable when wet. She won't like them as much. I put the training panties on then plastic pants over them. That way you don't have a mess and they do not want to leave them on when wet. I never trained my first daughter. She trained herself. The second one was a little harder to train but still didn't take long. You don't say if your using the toilet or potty chair. You need to be using a potty chair to start with. She will let you know when she is ready for the big potty.

She probably thinks you won't let her use them again. Anyway, don't go back to pullups. Try sitting her on the toilet when she wakes up in the morning. This is the easiest one because her bladder is full. Then sit her after breakfast and maybe every hour after that. You can encourage the flow by opening the faucet. You'll soon notice a pattern. It's mostly trial and error at first. Just don't punish or scold. Do celebrate when she goes. Good luck

I think you answered your own question! You said:
"i thought they shouldnt like to be wet in order to start potty training that was the whole thing"
Right... so it looks like she isn't ready. Unfortunately, being ready is NOT up to us as parents- it's up to the child. If she isn't ready, you will be spinning your wheels and wondering what you are doing wrong, when the only thing you did wrong was decide she is ready when she isn't. I know it's probably frustrating since she is 2.5 and it seems like it should be time. But I would keep her in diapers and let her know when she is ready to go potty and wear big girl panties to let you know. I have potty trained my own 3 kids and dozens of preschoolers when I was a preschool teacher years ago and I urge you NOT to use Pull Ups!!!! They are a HORRIBLE trick on parents and those poor kids trying to get potty trained!!! It's diapers or panties, no Pull Ups! All PullUps are is expensive diapers that are easier to get on and off. Totally pointless. I don't get it. If she's not ready, she wears diapers. When she is ready, she wears panties. You can use diapers (or the more expensive Pull Ups if you have money to burn) when she sleeps until she stays dry at night and during naps, but otherwise once she is ready for panties there should be no turnning back! What I did is talk about and encourage the potty while they are still in diapers. If they want to sit on the toilet (I use the soft seat that sits on the toilet, not the disgusting plastic potty chair that you have to dump, clean, and sanitize), I'd take off the diaper, let them go potty, then put the diaper back on. Once they are doing this consistantly, switch to panties

I think your on the right track, but you should not let her wear her big girl panties until she is at the end of her training. It is a reward for learning. It is something special for her-that's why she doesn't want to give them up. You can let her go around the house with nothing on her bottom, but personally I would not do that until she is actually going on the potty. Otherwise-follow all the other guideline such as sit her on it each morning and before bath and bed. Take her on a regular basis so she has the chance to go and earn her rewards. Truthfully, praise worked better than anything, but sticker and pennies were a big help. Good Luck.
In reference to pullups-they are great for when you are training and you need to be out in public. they are not bad if you are not where you can handle an accident but have moved on from diapers.

Hello . My name is N. and you know we start potty training earlier in Russia.My daughter (16 month old now)got to be potty trained when she was 9 months old.She can do it herself now sometimes without telling me , sometimes with her underware on ,but anyway we are doing quite well that is why I wanted to answer you.I believe that all you have to do is the following:
1- to be consistent. Once you have decided to get your child potty trained , do not make a step back , even when you are tired do not have time , etc
2- to be patient .Explain 1000 times again and again what you would like your child to do.Show her potty again and again.Try not to lose your temper , do not show your negative emotions , try to be even in it.

3- Do not shout at her for that.It is no use scolding the child since she has got used not to use a potty.And very often when moms start to show their annoyance kids think they do something wrong, I mean the action itself seems to be wrong for them and not the fact that they do it in the wrong place andin their underware.And that's where problems might appear kide might refuse to go poopy for example since they might think it is wrong and mummy does not like it.

4- to make sure she likes the potty itself.And when you offer her the potty use books and toys first. Make it comfortable for her. My kid took a teddy bear with her first. I believe it is because she was a little bored and scared first.We do nit need any toys now for that.

5- Suggest she use the potty again and again but never make her do it if she she does not want it .

She probably doesn't get it yet. We just recently did almost 3 full days in t-shirt and underwear. He only peed 2x on the potty (m&m rewards) - and that was after sitting him on the potty ourselves. Took him to the bathroom every 30min. We think he was holding it on the potty, cause half the time he'd pee soon after.
Anyway, he peed and pooped in the underwear and never once told us he was wet or poopy. We figure something is just not clicking in his brain yet.
So I say do what we are doing now. Giving him a break from the potty (I don't know how long yet) and trying at a later time. My son is only 2yr old, so I'm just hoping he's trained by 3yr.

Good luck!

here are a coulpe of tips that i picked up along the way
one, let her see you pee. make a game out of going potty before you leave the house or when you have to go, like see who is going to go first or beat you to the bathroom
the second i haven't tried but is interesting. if you don't have carpet flooring, and are home alone for a few days, let her go w/o any diaper or underwear so she gets used to the sensation of going, have the little potty readily accessable.
good luck