Nosy Birth Control Question

Updated on November 14, 2007
A.E. asks from Mountlake Terrace, WA
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I am all done making babies! I am 3 weeks post partum and wondering what you all decided to do for birth control while you haggle with hubby over who gets "fixed".

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Whew! What a lot of good, friendly advice from you all. I have decided to put surgical means aside for now, and am taking the mini-pill, since you can take it while breastfeeding. We are still using condoms since the mini pill is more effective over time.

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K.Q.

answers from Seattle on

I have been using the depo shot for two years now and it works great. With my two kids being 2 and 4 I know what you mean.

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M.G.

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I haggled with my fiance for a bit, until I realized that our insurance only considered a tubal something non cosmetic that we wouldn't have to pay for. Though if you know YOU are finished making babies, I'd say do the tubal, just know all the pros and cons beforehand. There are things that doctors don't tell you, so be sure to do your research.

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B.S.

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I am currently using the ring and have been for the last 2 years. I just LOVE it. My periods are so light it's amazing (3 days at most...1 spotting, 1 regular, 1 spotting..done!). After 8 years of not using birth control (ex-hubby was "fixed")it was a great option for me. However, now that I am getting re-married and we are lookoing to add to our family I'm thinking about switching to the non-hormonal IUD to take some of the delay out of getting pregnant again.
I'd love to find out more about your hairstylist services too!

Good luck with your decision!

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L.R.

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I suggest the IUD.. it's easy, no pills to take no thoughts of birth control and if you get the Mirena (hormone one) no periods! ;)

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T.A.

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I had the Mirena IUD in between my first and second child. We are not sure about more so I'm going to get it again after #2 is born in December. That way we have 5 years to make up our minds permanently. I had no periods and no problems the whole two years, loved it!

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D.S.

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Well let's see...after our first child together (his 3rd child and my 5th) we used natural birth control (ie he pulled out) and that worked well until we decided to get pregnant with our 2nd child together. Then I was done but I'd been on chemical birth control for 15 years before we got together so I didn't want to go back to that. I really felt that since I had carried and birthed the babies and was now a stay at home mom so that our girls didn't have to go into daycare, the smallest thing he could and should do would be to go get fixed. Of course that didn't happen and I ended up pregnant again. And that's how we ended up with 8 children all together. During that pregnancy I decided that, as with anything, if you want it done right u just do it yourself. So after our last child was born, and I do mean right after, I had my tubes tied. And let me tell you, it was a breeze. I'd heard so many horror stories about women having problems with that, that I was very scared but I was more worried about having another child. So my best advice to you is to just give in and get it done. Some men are such big babies about this issue. I know that as wonderful as my husband is in other ways, he had a real issue about having anyone "handle is manhood". Boy it sure is a good thing I didn't have a problem with this huh. lol Good luck

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N.P.

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I have an IUD and it works great. I've only had it for a few months and I'm still breast feeding so I don't know how the periods will be. I went with the copper IUD because I didn't want the hormones in my body from the mirena IUD. I know lots of women who have the Mirena and love it too. I struggle with high blood pressure so I didn't want the hormones.
As for getting fixed, my OB suggested my husband get it done because for men the risks are extremely low and the effectiveness is very high. For women, it's still a surgery and you have to go under general anesthesia and have it done in hospital, etc. For vasectomy, it's outpatient type that takes less than 30 min and 2 little incisions, under local anesthesia.
Good luck.

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A.L.

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When my children were little, we had decided to not have anymore, and were deciding when he was going in, we used condoms and foam. I didn't want to go back on pill again. By using this method it helped my husband make his appointment sooner. He went in because it was his turn to do something in regards to children. It was his idea and I was grateful since I had difficult pregancies.
I hope this helps.
-A

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J.C.

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I know the feeling. When I knew I was pregnant with twins, which would bring us to 4 children, my husband and I had an agreement. If I had a C-section then I was the one to get "fixed", if not then he did. I had them naturally. Well he had two "snips" just to be sure. :) Also, my husband is very logical and agreed that the procedure was much less invasive for a man and way cheaper. Oh, and the interim time is not so nice. We had to opt with the male contraceptive.

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A.F.

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I had an IUD put in at my 6 weeks post partum visit. There are two kinds - the copper version can be in for 10 years, but can make periods heavier. The Mirena (which I chose) is good for 5 years, but makes periods lighter. We are done with two kids, but my husband is nervous about the snip snip a the age of 33 and I'm not going to push, so I like this for giving me hassle free birth control for 5 years. Ask your doctor for his/her advice as well.

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N.L.

answers from Seattle on

Hi A.,

I know this is a hard decision. I hope you do some research about the hormone disruptor's in the birth control products on the market, they all have Nasty side effects.

Personally, I had a tubal; even though there is a risk there too, but I am not setting myself up for Breast Cancer, Uterine Cancer, or Osteoporosis. Play it smart and educate yourself first.

I also, have high quality and safe from harmful ingredient products, that would be an awesome benefit to your beauty salon.

Let me know if I can assist you in your journey.
Have a greet day,
N.

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J.

answers from Anchorage on

I chose the IUD without hormones (the ten year IUD). I highly recommend it. I had it inserted eight weeks post partum, and haven't really thought of it since. I've now had it for two years. I plan on having at least one more child, but I also plan on getting another IUD after that and probably just sticking with it. I've heard the five year IUD (the one with hormones) can make your period vanish, might be worth a look.

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M.S.

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Talk to your Dr. or Midwife about getting a diaphram. That's what we used until the vasectomy was complete ;)

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S.M.

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have you looked in to IUD's? They have one that stays in for up to 10 years... That makes it a long term solution that can be turned in to a permanent one when it is time to take it out.

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J.G.

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You don't say how old you are. Are you nursing your baby? You should discuss with your doctor all your options. And I would wait until a bit longer.. when the baby is a bit older to really make that decision if you decide on something like getting "fixed!" - which is more difficult to reverse than simply stop taking a pill or having an IUD removed etc. YOU have lots of options too.. your husband is more limited....so talk with your doctor and your husband - and give yourself some time to consider what you'll do. Your age should make a difference, too.

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M.R.

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i have the mirena iud. i love it..my periods are much much lighter and shorter (usually just a day or two long). i love not having to worry about it for 5 years.

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T.B.

answers from Spokane on

I had my six week postpartum check up and my PAP came back ok so my midwife gave me the go ahead for the Mirena IUD. I love it and I won't have to worry about birth control for 5 years!

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J.T.

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I made the same decision, although mine was much easier, my third was C-section so the doc fixed everything right then! I would like to discuss your hairstyling business, I have Arbonne products that have been shown to bring in retail and residual income. We have a spa and salon package avail. Not only that, I'm looking for someone here for myself and my children's hair! I'm from Texas, and have had some odd experiences. Where is your salon? By the way congratulations on your baby!

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J.T.

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Hi A... I have two children, ages 2 and 4. After we had our son, we knew we wouldn't be wanting another baby anytime soon, but, didn't like the possibility of never having another child. We were only 22 and 23 after the second, so I talked to my doctor and we decided on the IUD. There are a couple different ones to choose from. These are suggested to women in monogomous relationships, I'm sure you are in one. It gives you 5-7 years of protection, and then if you want to have a baby again, that is a definate possibilty. There are alot of side affects for some people, I adapted to mine just fine. Hope you find what your looking for.

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