Nighttime Potty traIning Advice

it's perfectly understandable that despite her independence and big-girl-ness her body isn't QUITE ready to go all night.
it's not so understandable that a 2 year old is calling the shots here.
i'd be very understanding and supportive of her, and give her plenty of positive feedback for what she's accomplished. i'd also be quite firm and no-nonsense about the need to keep wearing pull-ups until she can stay dry all night reliably.
kids should always be heard and allowed input. they should also know that when mommy lays down the law, that's that.
khairete
S.

This has very little to do with potty training and everything to do with you letting her know that you are in charge. It's unsanitary to be sleeping in soiled pjs and sheets each night. Give her a choice between maybe two dif types or pull ups or something that contains the mess if you feel better that way, but this is one of those times you don't let a 2yo make the rules. Good luck!

K.,

For my "other" son (I've known him since he was 1 year old and have taken care of him when his mom (whom is a great friend) is working), we used the Good Nights. He didn't stop until he was 13 (just this year). Once he was over 13 - his body just started working on its own.

As he grew bigger, we tried the Depends for men and used the XS size. However, since your daughter is so young, that won't work for her.

Give her underwear with the Depends pads?? She might not like it - but it's NOT a diaper.

You need to tell her it's NOT her fault. Her body needs time to adjust. It will get there and there's nothing you or she can do to force it.

Good luck!

Ummmm. Your the Mom. Your house, your rules.

"You are doing a great job during the day going potty on the potty. You just aren't ready to go all night yet and that's OK. You are getting bigger every day. You need to wear a pull-up at night until you have gone 7 nights 1,2,3,4,5,6,7 without pottying in the pull-up, then we'll try going without it. I'm so proud of you for doing such a great job during the day!!"

This is one of those things that is not up for debate. Her body isn't ready to stop producing urine at night and no tricks of waking them in the middle of the night, limiting water or anything else will change the fact that biologically her body is not ready to stay dry at night.
Tell her she is a big girl but her body needs more time to grow. She needs to wear a diaper/pull-up until her body is grown big enough to stay dry. Tell her there is no reason to be cleaning up a yucky mess in the morning. Tell her you are not mad, sad or disappointed that she's not staying dry at night. Tell her how proud of her you are for being able to use the toilet during the day and how proud you are of her for wearing a diaper/pull-up until her body is ready. Tell her there is nothing she can do to make her body grow faster. My 5.5 year old still needs diapers/pull-ups at night. We told her that until she went a full month without a single accident she needed to wear them in case she has an accident. She was concerned that we were going to be upset with her that she wasn't staying dry at night. She was concerned that she wasn't doing something right. We made it clear that her "Midnight Diaper" is completely OK and necessary until her body grows more.
Of course your little one wants to be a "big kid", you've undoubtedly made such a huge deal of it while potty training and most likely other things in life as well. She doesn't want to disappoint you, she doesn't want to get into trouble and she wants to be independent as she's being encouraged all day to be. She needs to understand that she just can't while she is sound asleep and there is no shame and no debate on the matter.

Make sure you have a waterproof pad on the bed so she is not soaking the mattress.
Also being that she is only two, you are the parent. You should be able to tell her whether she needs to wear a pull up at night or not. If it is that much of a struggle, reward her the next day for wearing a pull up. Also reward her when she wakes up dry.

Night time training isn't really 'training'.
Her bladder and brain need to mature to slow down urine production at night and send a 'wake up' call when she needs to go.
Young children often sleep right through the wake up call (they need the sleep more than they need to wake up to pee).
Waking them up for a trip to the potty during the night just makes everyone tired and grumpy and it doesn't age their bladder any faster.
Many will still wake up wet even if you try this.
While some kids can stay dry through the night at 2 1/2 yrs old, many of them can not manage it until they are much older - like 11 or 12 yrs old.
Our son was day trained at 3 1/2 but he was 7 yrs old before he could consistently stay dry through the night.
When he woke up dry for 2 whole weeks in a row we finally said goodbye to over night pullups.
I just didn't want to deal with wet sheets/pillows/blankets/pajamas/stuffed animals, etc.
Pullups were WONDERFUL until he was finished with them.
Maybe you can have her wear pullups over underpants just at night.
When she wakes up dry 2 weeks in a row, then try going without the pullups.

You need to just tell her she has to wake 5 days in a row and then she can wear undies. Be positive, encouraging, but make it clear, diapers until you wake dry.

You could buy a cloth diaper to out her in at night. This is what I do with my kids.

You're right, she's not ready to go through the night.

Diapers aren't her choice -- it's your decision. She's probably heard people talking about "big girl" underwear and she wants to be like them - but 2.5 is way too young for the vast majority of kids.

You could try a very small size of something like "good nights" and show her the picture of the big kids on the package. You could try a pull up with those extra pads/liners that go inside. Again, show her the big kids on the package. Tell her this is what kids wear to bed. I'm concerned though, because she is SO young, that everything will be too big for her.

This is not something in her control at all. A lot of kids are 5 or 6 before they are reliably dry at night.

You're going to have to be the parent here no matter how hard she fights you. It stinks, I know. But her sleep is more important, and she's getting interrupted by lying in a bed of pee and having all the commotion of changing pajamas instead of just falling back to sleep. Her brain really really needs this time - so please don't give in to her no matter how much she screams.

She has to get away from the idea of "training" - this is nothing you can train kids to do. They grow into that developmental stage naturally - just as they start to walk or talk at different ages.

Be the mom. Tell her you are the boss and she's wearing a pull up at night.

She's 2 1/2. If you allow her to be the boss of you now how do you think it's going to go when she's 5, 10, 13, or even at age 17?

She's 2 not old enough to decide anything like this. Be the mom.

Wake her. If she goes to bed at 9pm and you go to bed at midnight, wake her before you go to bed. Take her potty and then tuck her back in. Maybe that will help her. Good luck!!

I know that you want to forgo the diapers, but a 2 year old who is peeing the bed most nights and waking you up because of it wouldn't have the choice of not wearing a diaper in my house.
Since you want something that she would associate with underwear, have you thought about cloth diapering her at night? Cloth would feel more like underwear than a disposable diaper or a pullup type item(which really isn't meant to contain a full night's worth of urine)
Good luck. Being dry through the night may not happen soon even though she is dry during the day consistently.

Nighttime is a whole other ballgame. My DD is dry daytime, but such a heavy sleeper that at 6 she is not always dry. We just get goodnights or similar, encourage her to use the restroom, and praise her when she's had a good night. I know she really doesn't want to wet the bed and it embarrasses her but our pediatrician says it just takes time. I would get more than one waterproof pad, and layer it with clean sheets so at 2AM you just strip off the wet one. If it happens often, you might also try the good nights that are more like underwear that they just came out with. I explained to my DD that I know she'd rather not wear the underjams, etc. but her body just isn't ready yet. She's not in any trouble. It just is what it is. We try straight up underpants on weekends or school breaks, when a wet morning is no delay. It's hard when they want something their bodies aren't ready for.

My daughter was potty trained right at her second birthday. Potty training through the night did not happen until she was 4 and a half. We bought pull ups for night time and she just hardly ever woke up with a dry diaper. At 4 we decided to do a little boot camp and cut off liquids for 2 hours before bedtime-which helped a lot-and had many night time accidents for about a month. She finally learned to wake up or hold it but I encourage you to do the nighttime part of potty training separately and it may just happen. Does she have a dry diaper after napping? My daughter outgrew her nap and potty trained early so we did not have the chance to experience dry nap diapers but that also may be a way to begin. They sleep so soundly its sometimes hard for them to wake up. Its definitely a journey (or was for us!) so good luck and trust your instincts.

We just went through this and are now on the other side, fully potty trained, day and night. We insisted she wear pull ups until very recently (she's exactly 3.5 years now). She was fully day trained about 6 months earlier. After a few dry nights, and her waking to use the potty first thing in the morning, she wanted to try without the pull ups. We have never looked back and she is doing great.

I will say that we worked hard on going potty right before bed, and first thing in the morning. We kept explaining over and over that if she could do these two things, we would try no pull ups again. Something clicked for her and she started recognizing her body signs in the am and started going without being prompted. It's still tricky to get her go one more time before bed, as we don't want her waking at the crack of dawn to go to the bathroom (though prefer that to a wet bed).

Usually at 2.5 nighttime dryness is a developmental thing, so I wouldn't use a sticker chart or other motivator at this stage, since it will likely not lead to success. Just keep encouraging, and let her know that her body will let her know when it's ready.

Good Nights
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