Night Time Potty Training for Almost 4 Year

stop ruining everyone's sleep and keep her in a pull up till she is dry for a week

Nighttime dryness is NOT the same as daytime dryness. It is a hormone/chemical controlled thing. Until they develop that chemical it is useless to try to train her honestly.

so just accept it as part of the life of kids and wear those pull ups with pride and ease

OK, with my two, this is how I did it and it has worked very well for three other epople I know... i had both my two go to the potty right before bedtime roughly 8-8:30pm then I would get the house shut down for the night at around 10-11pm for my bedtime and I would go in and wake each one and take them to the potty...mine did not fully wake and went right back down afterwards. I then set my watch alarm for 1:30am and would get them up again and have them go. and then they both would make it till about 6-6:30 am, which is the time we get up. So it was just one waking at night for me. After bottle feeding, this was really nothing. After a few months, my daughter told me I didn't have to wake her anymore, that she would take care of it and my son agreed. i told them we would give it a try, but I really liked not having pee to clean up so if they did have an accident we would go right back to this schedule. That was about 2 years ago. My daughter was 3 and my son 2!! my son has never had a bedtime accident!! I had a friend whose son was 7 and she started this with him and about 2 months later he is good to go and had his first sleep over!! I think it helps train their sleep cycles and helps them to know when to get up. anyway, it has worked around here and best part is no extra laundry, no ego problems, & no more pull ups!!! Best of luck.

Hi L.

I say go for it! My daughter day and night trained all at once two months before she turned 3. What we do for her is limit fluids after 6:00 pm ( her bedtime is 8:00pm), basically a couple sips of water when she brushes her teeth and about 2 oz of milk with stories before that. My husband takes her down to bed and has her go potty. Before we go to bed (10 or 11) he takes her to the potty again. She barely wakes up and goes right back to sleep. She then makes it all the way until she wakes up (7:30 am). We had a few accidents in the beginning, but I honestly don't remember the last time she had an accident. It has been about a year now for her and she is doing great. In the beginning we also put a plastic cover on her mattress so at least the mattress wouldn't get wet and if it was a small accident just covered it with a big towel until morning. In my opinion, a child's body is not just going to stay dry without practice. Hope this helps!

C.

Don't push too hard, every child is different. Two of mine were dry at night from the time they were daytime trained. One wore pull up til 5 years, and the other til 7 years. It just depends on the child. Don't stress too much, it just makes life miserable for everyone.

She obviously does not have nightime control. She is probably a deep
sleeper also. All you can do it the usual, no liquids before bed, remind
her to go before bed, etc. Let her wear the pull ups. Eventually, and it
may be quite a while, she will be able to give them up. This one you
really cannot push.

IMO, don't push her until she is ready. If she can't keep the pull up dry each night, now, she won't keep panties dry either. If you do decide to forgo the pull ups, I suggest that you double make her bed. Waterproof mattress pad, fitted sheet, waterproof pad (I used an old crib mattress pad that had the skirt cut off so I didn't have to buy a new one), then another fitted sheet. This way, if she does have an accident in the middle of the night, you don't have to completely strip and remake the bed.

Good luck with whatever you decide.

That's not really fair mom. She has to be physically and neurologically ready to stay dry at night. Nighttime dryness has absolutely *nothing* to do with daytime dryness. It takes some kids up to age 6 to stay dry at night. And that is within normal limits! The body also has to secrete a hormone that aides in nighttime dryness. No way to speed that up and nothing she can do anything about. She's not even 4 yet. Sure making sure she's not chugging a glass of water before bed helps but don't wake her at all hours and such to go. It probably won't help and you could wind up with a very upset kiddo that is now awake and her sleep cycle has been broken up.

Save yourself a lot of laundry, her a lot of frustration that will turn into embarrassment and keep her in pull-ups at night. Tell her when her body is ready and she stays dry at night then you'll be able to go without them but for right now they are for her protection so she wakes up with a dry bed.

Some kids just can't physically hold it all night, limiting liquids or not. I'd wait til she has a dry pullup for a week in a row then you're probably safe to go to undies. Good luck!

My 6 yr old is still in pull ups at night. Night " training" isn't really training. It has to do with their bladders being mature enough to either hold it all night or wake them up. She'll get it, and don't punish her or make a big deal out of wetting the bed.

TOTALLY agree with Dori W!!! Kids will stay dry at night when their bodies are ready. My 4 year old is still in pull-ups at night and she's been fully potty trained during the day since she was 2.

You cannot influence when your daughter’s body will be ready, as it has to do with her physiological development. When an adult's bladder is full at night, a signal goes from the bladder to the brain and we are awakened with the need to go. For children, this signaling mechanism comes with age. They simply cannot be "trained" until their body develops this mechanism.

I would worry that, if you attempt to go cold turkey with her before her body is developed and ready, she will only fail night after night -- and start feeling really bad about the whole thing. She won't be able to help it. Please give her more time.

I agree with the moms who say, keep the pull ups and let her body decide when it is time to give them up. My son is three and has been potty trained during the day for almost eight months. Night time is totally different.
But if you are dead set that she has to be night trained then, you could keep a chart and let her put a star on the nights she is accident free, leave the night that she does blank. Then when she has x amount of stars(no matter if there are accidents in between), she gets a reward, new undies, a movie night whatever will work for her and then when she keep dry for good, tell her you will buy her new sheets.
however I do feel that you should let her body decide, I understand parents want their kids to be the examples, and push them to do better be better, but kids work well under grow and love better.
That's just my 2 cents.

There are alarms that go off when a child pees on the bed. It trys to alert them when it is happening so they can "hopefully" feel the sensation you get when you need to go...it is supposed to wake you up.

The reality is that there is a hormone that needs to be developed before holding it all night happens. Cut back on the drinks before bed time. It might make the potty less but until she is able to do it on her own, you will be cleaning up potty...from a bed or a pull up.

Does she ever go through the night dry? Does she wake up at all during the night? My son was routinely dry, until we went to underwear, and then he started having accidents. While he might wake up a couple times at night and call out, and then roll over and go back to sleep, we realized that it was usually his 4-5:00 call out that he peed during. By getting up during that one and having him use the potty, that has helped. We still have a few accidents, but I am hoping that it is like night feedings, that they extend and extend till they aren't needed.
Waking up and taking him potty is much easier than waking up to a child crying because he is wet, and changing bedding.

My daughter potty trained at 3 but wore pull ups at night until she was 5. I was concerned like you, and I researched online and talked it over with the pediatrician. Really it comes down to when their body is ready, and the doc said she wouldn't be concerned unless it went past 6. So I don't know if cold turkey would be the best approach...we cut drinks back and when she was ready, she started not drinking the whole thing, just having sips. Never woke her up in the middle of the night.