My daughters both potty trained super early with little or no work on my part, I do not take any credit! But at night they still wear diapers. My little one usually wakes with a dry diaper, but my 4 year old is always wet. I decided to bite the bullet and try nothing at night. My little one has about an 80% success rate and my older one about a 25% success rate.
I started getting the older one up at 10pm to pee, which has increased the success rate to about 60%.
This is getting ridculous. I am changing bedding almost every day. Help. Any advice or things that have worked for you? I am desperate, we are considering going back to diapers, but I don't want to.
Thank you!
Thanks everyone for your constructive advice and experience. I am leaving my little one without diapers and talked with my 4 year old who does not want to wear them. So, I am getting her up at 10pm every night to take her potty. She is much happier. We do not punish or get mad at accidents, so she is okay with that. I started using puddle pads just in case on her bed and brought her little potty in her room right where she can find it. I will keep you posted, thanks again! I feel much better knowing so many of you are experiencing similar things.
Don't wake her up! My doc says it does no good - it doesn't train them. It just interrupts everyone's sleep. Try Pull-ups or Goodnights. I know it's hard, my 5 1/2 year old is still in Pull-ups, but we don't make a big deal of it. I just tell him his body is not quite ready and he accepts that.
Good luck!
Hello K.,
I don't have any person experience with potty training yet but I have done some reading. I've read that a large number of kids (I want to say in the 60-75% range) still wet the bed until age 7 or 8. My numbers are off a little, but pretty close. I wouldn't stress about it too much. I would put them in diapers until they start waking up every night dry. I think they are both still pretty young and you should be so happy the hard part is done. Until it's all over, save yourself some laundry and put the in diapers. Well see where I stand on this issue when I start potty training my daughter =O)
U need to limit the amount she drinks about two hours before her bedtime then get her up at ten still and see if that helps works for me.
It's just developmental...all fine for your youngest, but your oldest just isn't ready for night time dryness yet. So, get a plastic lined mattress pad, to protect the mattress, have extra sheets on hand, you can also put a plastic sheet or a puddle pad liner under the sheets to help. Enlist your daughter to help with the changing of the sheets in the morning, and let her know she has a choice. She can help to put on clean bedding, you can wake her at 10 to go to the bathroom, or she can wear the diapers at night til she feels she's ready not to. See what her response is, and go from there. Keep it light, don't make it a big deal. She will grow out of it at some point. Talk to your pediatrician as well.
My daughter is only 3 but we're kind of going through the same thing. I talked to her doctor just a couple of weeks ago and she said it could be genetic. (My brother had bedwetting problems into his early teens) She did say there is a pill they can prescribe but we're not at all considering that until much later. I do have more sympathy because I watched my brother go through so much humiliation from our Dad and friends. I feel that each child is different and sometimes their bodies are ready and sometimes they are not. Patience and going back to the diapers until she is waking up dry is my advice. If she is waking up wet then her body isn't ready to hold it all night OR she is just a deep sleeper and doesn't realize when she goes. Punishment is not the way to go and you'll only get more frustrated.
Good luck!
they have large bed protectors you can use then alyou do is wash it and use it again. it is easier than all the bedding.good luck S.
Hi, my now 5 year old daughter was almost the same at that age, was potty trained really early by her self but at night... One day when she was round 4 we met a friend of her and the mom told me that her same old son did not need any night diapers since a few days. And since that night my daughter do either.... Try it... and good luck.
Go to the Bedwetting Store on line. It has different alarms that are really effective and not terribly expensive.
Hello K., Thank you for posting this question, I am going through the same thing with my 5 year old. She wears pull ups to bed. I am looking forward to reading your responses. I understand the frustration but hang in there, It has to stop sooner or later ( I hope).
-R.
The combo that worked for my 5.5 y.o. was underwear, the malem alarm (it wakes children when they pee so they learn to wake themselves) the Goodnites pull up-- no need to change bedding all the time, and after three months he learned to go without diapers. Yay!
K., is your main issue that they still pee at night, or that the 4-year old will not wake up and go in the middle of the night?
it's pretty normal for kids to be completely potty trained at night around 5 or 6 years old. at 2 or 4, it's not necessarily about whether they can hold the pee. the bladder is still small and their systems are not mature enough to tell the body to keep holding.
there are some products out there that will wake up a child and train them to go to the bathroom in the middle of the night. if this is that frustrating to you, maybe you should ask your pediatrician about those things. my son is a little over 2 and he begs to used underwear at night. we keep gently reminding him that bedtime is different. his diaper is completely soaked in the morning, so we know he is in no way ready for undies at night. one teacher at my son's daycare said she had to set some kind of alarm that would go off to remind her daughter to get up in the middle of the night to pee.
I have 5 year old and a 2 year old. I make sure they don't have anything to drink prior to bed. make them go to the bathroom before bed. My husband when he get home from work will pee them around 12:00 am sometimes they don't have anything in them or some times they do. But both if he doesn't pee them can wait until they wake up. But I don;t like to try that. I would not give them anything to drink after dinner see if that helps. If you do just a sip of something noting more.
If your little one is dry...go ahead and put her to bed in panties....the older one leave her in diapers...this may put a little peer pressure on the older one to try and hold until morning or get up and go to the bathroom on her own.....I would leave the light on in the bathroom through the night until both of them have mastered going to the bathroom by themselves in the middle of the night..once they are good with that..you can replace with a nightlight that they can choose as thier reward for goign to the potty at night time.....also, if your youngest still cannot reach light switch, make sure she has a stool to turn on light.
Make sure you daughter is getting enough liquids in the day time. (Mine waits until after school to drink a days worth of liquids, even though I send two water bottles and a milk to school w/her.) Then cut off liquids after dinner. We give our daughter min. liquids at dinner. Otherwise, she'll fill up on liquids and not eat.
Then make sure she goes to the bathroom and really empties out before bed.
Then put her in pull-ups. It will relax everyone around this issue.
When or daughter goes 7 nights dry, no pull up. One wet night and it's back to 7 nights in pull ups.
s
The normal age for walking is 9 months to 18 months before there is reason of concern. With toilet training, the age to start being concerned is four years old. Once a child is toilet trained it is not a good idea to put diapers on them.
Pullups for nights is better. Cut down liquids after 6 p.m. and encourage moreliquids during the day. Try not to make a big deal of accidents with them. I would talk to your chld's doctor about your 4 years old. Sometimes it just the gift of time that works.
F.
I have my daughter brush teeth right after dinner and after her teeth are brushed no more eating or drinking. If she asks for water I give her a small cup 1/2 full, about 2oz. Most nights this means she has nothing from 6 until bed time at 8. During that time I ask her to "use it" about 3 times and again right before bed.
You should also get a pee pad. Then when she wets it wont go through to her sheets, the pad will absorb the pee and contain the mess.
Good luck! Potty Training is HARD...
I just need to train my son to take down his pants before going on the potty, now he climbs up, sits down and goes, but his pants and pull up are still on! lol
My 5 year old daughter is such a heavy sleeper that she won't wake up when she has to pee, so she wets. Otherwise she is completely potty trained, and has been for a few years. I tried doing no diapers and waking her up to pee, but just couldn't handle the extra 4-8 loads of laundry each week that this caused. Since we went back to "pull-ups", everyone is much happier. She also doesn't have the stress of waking up wet in the middle of the night.
Good Luck,
K.
My daughter wore Goodnights to bed until she was 14. i tried all the things you tried and a medication and more, but she did not seem bothered by it. If your child is not bothered by it, then let them wear pullups and let it go. It is not worth the fight and might be medical and not something they can control. Hope that helps.
Our daughter was still wearing pull-ups at night until she was 7yo. Then we tried one of the bedwetting alarms that train them to wake up when they have to go. The first week we had her sleep in a sleeping bag in our room. The alarm woke me up, and I escorted her to the bathroom. By the second week the alarm was waking her up and she could go by herself. After two weeks of wearing the alarm, she didn't need it anymore.
-D.
