New PT Job and Needing to Ask for Time off Already

Updated on August 30, 2011
S.H. asks from Marysville, OH
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Hi! I am not sure how to handle this problem. My family and I moved to a new state about two months ago. I became a stay at home mom, but my husband wanted me to find a part time evening job. I found one, not much money but it gets me out of the house for a few hours, at an exercise place working in the babysitting room. I start the job tonight. My problem is my husband hasa meeting one day next week that is hours away and he won't be home in time to be with the kids. We don't really know anyone well enough to have them babysit. (My kids are DD 4, and twins DS and DD 13 mo.) I hate to ask for a day off after only being there a week. I don't want her thinking I am going to be unreliable, not showing up, or asking off all the time. There is a mom down the street my kids are familiar with. Her daughter comes over to play once a week and I am thinking of asking her, but I have only known her for a little over a month, though I see her 1-2 times a week. What would you do? Ask for the time off, or ask someone to you haven't known very long to watch the kids? I also forgot to add that I did tell the owner when we were talking, that this type of situation may come up if my husband has something work related in the evenings or overnight. Thanks for your thoughts!

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Edit: The job is 2-3 hours a night. This particular night I would only be working about 2 1/2 hours.

Thanks for all your input! Got some good ideas and am feeling better about deciding what to do. I think I worry more than I need to!

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A.R.

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Ask her if she thinks someone could switch hours with you.

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B.C.

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If your job is babysitting, I'd ask to bring my kids in for this night.

You are not calling off and you aren't doing anything you wouldn't be doing anyway. You just have to be sure you are paying atention to all the kids, not just your own. This will be difficult because some kids are more clingy than others and I don't know your kids.

Good luck to you and yours.

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M.B.

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Would it be possible for you to take the kids there? Many of the places where you are working as a babysitter don't mind if occasionally you bring your own kids...

I realize it would be keeping the kids up late, but once in a while might not be that big of a problem.....

Many years ago, I started working as a Teacher Aide at a local middle school. The very first day, when I was getting my kids dressed, my older daughter mentioned... "Nick sure has a bunch of ant bites!" (Fire ants are a problem in Texas... leave a pimple type sore.)

I looked at his back, and he had Chicken Pox! I didn't even know who to call to get a sub..... fortunately, hubby could call in on short notice like that, and I stayed home the next few days.... really felt strange, calling in sick on my first day of work.

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answers from Youngstown on

Just be honest and tell your boss what you told us. Ask her if you can bring the kids with you, or you will need the night off. Your boss would probably rather have you bring the kids than call off. Me personally, I would not want to ask someone I didn't know well to watch my kids. Then I would look on Sittercity or something and try to find someone you trust in case this happens again. Good luck and congrats on the new job!

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L.P.

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My first thought, since you're working in the babysitting room, and since you already mentioned that this could happen with your husband, do you think it's an option to take your kids with you? I mean, it is a babysitting room, after all? Just a thought. (I see this was already mentioned, but it was my thought as well.)

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S.S.

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I realize money is tight for the whole world but if you can stay at home a little bit longer I urge you to do so. I might have a bunch of other moms screaming at me but I went through this way too often and I am not sure it is worth it. Plus it adds to the taxes and sometimes pushes you over to the next salary range and pretty well makes you have a part time job that is just paying the taxes. Perhaps there is something else you can do or find a daycare or other exercise place where you can work and take your children along.

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Talk to your supervisor. Offer to switch shifts, or make up the time. See if he'll let you bring your kids in. I would THINK since it's a very short shift, he'd be flexible.

I got a bad head cold during my first week, last week, at my part time job & I forced myself to suck it up because I refused to call in so early in the job. Now, if I didn't have childcare, it would be a different story. That's harder.

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J.R.

answers from Miami on

Hi. Can you bring your children adn the daughter of the mom down the street to play with them????

I would give your boss the option:
1. bring your kids and the daughter...
2. change the schedule.

that way you show you are trying to problem solve....

hope this helps.
jilly

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D.S.

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I would ask to bring your children with you or at least the two youngest. Maybe ask the women down the street if she could watch the older child since your daughters play together anyway. I don't think I would ask a new neighbor to watch my three kids, it is a lot to ask and she may fear that it may become a habit. If you tell your job your situation and are sincere, and ask to bring your children I think you are not going to appear irresponsible, instead you will seem like you are trying all you can to live up to your obligation in an situation that is out of your control. Good luck!!

L.M.

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I would talk to you supervisor and explain your situation...husband will be away for work and you don't have anyone to watch you children but do not want to call out of work. Ask if you are able to switch with someone else and if so, do you need to arrange it directly yourself. Another alternative is to ask if you could bring your children this time (stress that this will not be a regular occurrance). If that doesn't work and you are comfortable with the other mom watching your children until your hubby gets home then ask her. If not, see if someone else can cover your shift and let your supervisor know you will not be able to make it in but you either do or don't have your shift covered (that way they can plan now and not last minute).

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