My daughter has been potty trained since age 3 and now that she's in Kindergarten, she is coming home with poop in her panties. We moved this summer (June 2011) to a temporary rent house, then we moved again when our house was finished building in October 2011.
Could these changes be the root cause to her reverting? Her Dad also left 9 months ago, and I think all these changes have caused her to stress tremendously. Any advice will be much appreciated.
Is it poop or skid marks?
If skid marks, it can be:
1) she is not wiping well
2) "Encopresis." Which is an involuntary leaking of poop. The person CANNOT control this. You need to see a Doctor. It is sometimes, caused by Constipation.
Also, stress. Can sometimes cause accidents.
And if it is, do not punish/scold for it. Because, it is emotion based.
Google "encopresis".
Good luck!
I think its because of the drastic changes she's been through. I think you just need to tell her that you love her and everything will be fine every day before she goes to school. Then she will feel more confident and feel as she has power.
Is she willing to go to the potty at school? I know some children are embarrassed to raise their hands to go to the potty. They do not want everyone to know they "need to go".
Some children do not going to the potty alone. They may not like going on a potty everybody uses. Or if it is close to the classroom, they are worried others will hear her.
Some wait to long to go. They are having too much fun, they are distracted.
Speak with her and figure out what is going on. Also speak with the teacher and see what she is observing.. If none of this helps with info..
Try not to over think it instead just ask her.
Then take her to the doctor..
Interesting that this does not happen at home when she is there all day.
My son went through this EXACT same thing his Kindergarten year. We moved that year and were living in a rent house as well. And he had a brand new baby sister. Lots of change. He would wear his snow pants all day and some days he would go to the bathroom in them and not tell anyone. At first I was super sensitive about it bc I felt SO bad about all the changes he was having to go through in life and I was cutting him a lot of slack. Then we had a big sit down talk and he told me he just didn't want to take the time to go down the hall to the bathroom bc he was too busy playing or doing something. He was choosing to do this. So...then I cracked down and told him there was going to be consequences for this. I told him he was making a poor choice and we talked about what the consequences would be when he did this. (I forget what it was now). I also talked to his teacher and she started reminding him to go use the bathroom multiple times a day. He stopped doing it really quickly once he realized he was going to get in trouble with mom!
i would just call or send a quick note to the teacher explaining that there is an issue and could the teacher please allow DD to use the restroom as often as necessary and immediately, no waiting, If DD is playing around in the bathroom, ask the teacher to set up a time to have DD use the bathroom like instead right before lunch with everyone else she gets a reminder 20 mins before hand.
Good Luck
It's a phase. They start using their brain more for something when they start a new school year. That just happens to be the one that happens during kindergarten or pre-K.
I'm soo sorry for what u are going though. It maybe stress, but my son also 5 is having the same issues. I took him to the Dr Monday and he said if the child holds it too long they get to the point where they can't feel it coming. She may be holding it cause she doesn't want to go at school. I would go talk to her Dr. Our Dr said to give him a small amount of Miralax with Apple juice every night for two weeks and sit on potty every 3 hours for 3 mins.
I was wondering if it's just stains as well. When my daughter started at a new day care she would come home with stains because the new teachers weren't allowed to wipe her, and at 3, she hadn't mastered that yet.
