Neighbor Issues! Daughters Don't Get Along!

Don't think you're alone handling this issue with girls.... it's happening with boys too. What I told my son is that it is HIS choice to play with him... if he starts acting ugly toward him to be direct and say "that's not how a good friend acts" and to turn and leave immediately...walk away and do NOT look back... I remember going through this as a kid too... I really do think it's just a way for children to learn conflict resolution... don't turn the children's issue into your own... as you will NEVER find someone with a parenting style like yours... I, too, feel like the parents of this other boy that was just being a poop to my kid didn't handle him appropriately either... but it just wasn't worth the fight to me... my son, actually on his own, has completely stopped playing with the boy at all...and unfortunately, the friendship with the parents has waivered a little... but we just choose to put people in our lives that compliment everyone... it's hard but you gotta do what you gotta do -- that is best for YOUR family

We have a similar issue with our neighbors, but I tell the boys that our girls "will be happy to play when they are being nice." and leave it at that. I am even teaching my young girls that already because I want them to be empowered to set boundaries with people on their own.

I had a similar situation as your daughter when I was in the 5th grade... My best friend and I spent SO MUCH time together, that we ended up fighting almost daily by the end of the year. We were in the same classroom all day long 5 days a week, did CampFire (similar to Girl Scouts) together, and we went to the same church, along with being at a lot of other events together.

We simply needed a BREAK from each other. Whenever we got one, we did great! (Until we were spending too much time together again.)

Your daughter and her friend are very young, so they will not be able to resolve this "on their own" without some guidance from you (and the other mom, if she will help).

Email me and let me know how it works out!
~J.~
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No one wants to be the mother of the bully, so your friend might be in a little bit of denial about her daughter's actions. I would invite her over, when the kids aren't there, and talk with her. Just explain what you've seen going on, without placing any blame because that will put her on the defensive. Maybe her daughter has a new friend at school that is teaching her this behavior? Maybe she is experiencing frustration about something and isn't sure how to handle it? If she was a sweet girl before, make sure you mention that to your friend. If you approach her right, you might be able to come up with a solution that works for both of you. Good luck. I know this is a delicate situation for you.

My daughter is age 9 & we live next door to a similar situation ! But, we do not like the mom/dad, they are very ugly, rotten people who think they are better then everybody else ! Back in august they had a birthday party & mind you we have been living next door to them now for 9 yrs. & they told my daughter they had no room in there car for her to go ! (how ugly) & so being the nice christian people we are we invited her daughter to my daughter's pizza birthday party 2 weeks ago & they had not courtesy to rsvp & let us know her daughter could not attend, not only that my daughter question the mother & she lied to my daughter saying they forgot about her party !! (how ugly) & there daughter was going to school saying ugly things to my daughter & how her mom didn't like my daughter etc., the mom always stays locked in the house so she can't face us, she knows she is ugly & guilty ! ~ it is ashame that people act like this, what happen to all the good get-together fun neighbors !!!!!! ~ the world is really change-ing ! ~