Needing Some Advice from Any Mom!

Sounds like separation anxiety to me-thankfully none of my children went through that. But I have one little daycare child who is going through it now, though. And one thing I find is the hardest is for the parents to just leave their child and walk away. SOME parents have the tendency to feed into the child and their crying fits by lingering. I find that it's best to reassure your child that they will be okay, that you will be back, give them a big hug/kiss and go on about your way. Start developing a routine and the child will begin to see that "mommy/daddy is coming right back to get me and I'll be okay" and the crying and screaming won't even be an issue.

You have to get him comfortable around other ppl. Start taking him out more so that he gets used to different ppl. Start going to some mommy and me classes, or take him to the Gymboree, Stay and Play, etc so that he can get used to being around other ppl. And if he's crying the entire time with the babysitter imagine how tough that can be for her-to watch a baby that cries all the time. It's quite nervewrecking especially when it's a situation that can easily be turned around. Good luck!~

I laughed at this post b/c it sounds very similar to what the issue is in our family. I don't have to leave my son with a babsitter since I am here all the time with my 2 boys but my almost 9 month old baby won't let any family members hold him...he sometimes won't even allow them to interact with him without crying until I hold him. My mother in law says it's b/c we live to far and that we don't bring him over enough but we believe the trips work both ways. My husbands brother, mother and uncle all live within 1 house of each other so anytime we visit 1, were expected to visit them all. Me and my husband like to get out,get what we need and get back home as swiftly as possbile. My oldest was a bit shy but as a baby never rejected everyone like my baby does. My neice who is 8 always wants to hold him and we were over my husbands brothers house and since my neice is with my mother in law she comes over if she see's us there to hold the baby...well she wanted to hold him so I told her she could hold him for a second while I put the things in the car, before I could get the stuff in and turn around the baby pinched her and started to cry. He will probably do this for a while like ur child will but believe me they do get over it. Don't force them into feeling confortable around someone if they truly feel uncomfortable.Kids go with their own instinct so just let him grow a little more and get a feel for people in his own way.

He will eventually get over it. My best freinds son was this way and to be honest it was her fault. She was so over protective and made her son clingy. It was not a matter of her holding him all the time, it was simply that if he could not see her he flipped out. He is going to be 2 in July and he is still a shy child but he has grown out of the fits he used to throw. When you do have to leave him with a sitter try to make it the same person each time if possible so he will get used to the routine. I have read and heard that setting the child up with something to do or watch while you do something in another room of your house and then talking to your child from the other room once he realizes that your gone helps. Once the child has heard your voice he should quiet down. If he is really frantic the parent should go into the room where the child is and talk to him in a soothing voice just to reassure the child and let him know that mommy is just in the other room. Do not pick the child up when you go back into the room just talk to him. Once he has calmed down go back to doing whatever it was that you were doing in the other room. This is supposed to let your child trust that you will be back and that it's OK for mommy to be out of sight. Hope this helps. It's not something that will happen overnight, be patient.

I think its normal for a 9 month old. He will grow out of it once it becomes ruetine. I was a full time mom for 2 1/2 years for my daugher.. she was that way until her personality started coming out. (18-24months) She started to become curious of strangers and she actually liked the attention she got from them. Just give him time...
maybe ask the babysitter to come a little early (5-10 min) and the three of you could play a game or sit and do something fun together. this will make him more comfortable when you leave.
Just keep in mind he is just a baby...everything is new to him.

CHERISH THIS TIME YOU HAVE WITH YOUR BABY...YOU ARE DOING NOTHING WRONG BY GIVING HIM ATTENTION. IF YOU DON'T DO IT NOW...YOU WILL REGRET IT LATER.