J.S.
My husband is suggesting to have the house inspected by yourself (instead of relying on the buyers' inspector), and he will give you a "good faith" estimate of the costs. Then, instead of having to deal with all the upgrades and improvements yourself (you've already been through too much this year), you can give the buyers an "allowance" off the cost of the house for them to have it done themselves. He is also recommending that you have a "full" house inspection, to include foundation, plumbing, sewer, termites, etc. that you may not be aware of, and can cause the closing to fall through at the last minute. This inspection should not cost you more than about $300-500 (usually $300). If you are using a realtor for the sale of the house, ask them for a recommendation.
We are so sorry for your losses this year! Please let us know if there is anything we can do for you.
Blessings,
J. (and Chris)