C.O.
O.:
You need to obtain a lawyer IMMEDIATELY. As it sounds like the lawyer you have isn't doing much for you.
Go to the DA's office and file a suit against the judge for misconduct or degradation of duty - I know - extreme - but it will get their attention. YOU NEED PROTECTION and a restraining order MUST be obtained not only against him but his girlfriend. STAY IN THE COURTS FACE!!! Do NOT become a number.
If you can move without him knowing about it - MOVE IMMEDIATELY. Do not give a forwarding address, phone number, etc. Move to a gated community that actually uses the gate. I know there are many who leave the gates open - but ensure it is closed and monitored - video/live person.
If you can trade your car in and get a new one - one that he doesn't know about - then do it - change as much as you can in your life. I know you have a child - but this is for her protection as well.
DO NOT unlock your door to ANYONE. And I mean ANYONE. Have an alarm system installed in your home - one that is audited 24 hrs a day.
Keep a log of each and every detail as to the incidents - even in court. If you have the eye witnesses information - KEEP IT - do NOT lose it. You should be able to get it from the police report.
DO NOT do the same thing every day - change your routine, driving habits, etc. shopping, etc.
If you can change jobs - do. Change her daycare so that he cannot get to her. Ensure your daycare provider knows that NO ONE else is allowed to pick her up!
Change the custody order as well - ensure that he gives up parental rights - this will take him out of her and your life forever. If he is smacking you around - and his girlfriend is smacking you around then what's to stop her from beating your child?
go to a self-defense class so you can learn to defend yourself. DO NOT hesitate to do this. It doesn't matter how tall or how much you weigh - you can learn to use your body to defend yourself. DO NOT ALLOW YOURSELF TO BE A VICTIM!!! Keep yourself aware of your surroundings. Don't jump at the slightest noise - be PROACTIVE. If he's parked out front of your home - call the police for stalking. If she comes to your home - call the police - stay on their radar - don't call for trash cans making noise - call for real threats - either one of them sitting in front of your place of work, day care or home - this is considered stalking.
I will keep you in my prayers.