Need Mommies to Identify With...

I remember that feeling all too well. I was in my early thirties when I had my first. None of my friends had kids. It's tough. A hard transition to make. Definitely make the effort to make some mom friends, because that will make all the difference. I'm sure there's a mom group that meets in your area, but if you don't easily find one, you can always start your own. Put up signs at the local park and/or library and see if anyone else is interested.

Mostly, just remember, you're not alone. There are a lot of other moms out there who always looking for friends.

You've received some good advice for what to do now. Looking ahead, though, I predict this won't be a problem once your daughter starts kindergarten. That's when my group of adult friends segued from those with no kids to those whose kids were my kids' classmates. With PTA, room parents, classroom volunteer opportunities, etc., it's much different from day care and a much better chance to get to know parents in your neighborhood, families you didn't even know existed until your kids got to elementary together. My oldest is in high school now; one of my social groups is still the moms of four boys he met the first day of kindergarten and has gone all the way through elementary, middle school and the first two years of hig school.

There are a lot of local moms groups on meetup.com. Also try yahoo groups like austinmamas and, if you're into it, the yogamamas google group.

Take the initiative to plan an activity and remind people about and they'll come.

Also you can go to ruta Maya on Sunday mornings to meet other parents.

People that work and do not have children are just in another place in their lives right now. They are not being rude, they just do not have any idea what your life is like.. They are working hard on their careers and enjoying doing things for themselves. (My husband and I were like this before our child). If you want to be included make an announcement.. "I would love a night out, when is the next time you all are going for a happy hour."..

Is your child in daycare? When I was working full time, our daughter was in daycare and sometimes we parents would get together at a park and let our kids play on a Sunday afternoon or Saturday morning. . We would all take our own lunches and after a set time, we would go home so the kids could get their naps or go home and start the bedtime routine.. .

Or after school we would meet at a place with a playscape and let the kids play while we had a margarita..

Also in our neighborhood, we had lots of neighbors with young children and we would meet in one yard and each take our own beverages and just let the kids play.. Sometimes, the children would beg US to go go inside.. Hee, hee.. Good times..

Try sending out a invitation to the families you notice with children to come over for a "meet and greet." Try to do this on a Sunday afternoon like at 4:00.. Serve watermelon, chips and dips.. If you drink you could have beer and wine available, but also tea and lemonade.. Maybe a little splash pool for the kids..

It is just different, but can still be fun when you find those other parents out there.. We always thought we were so different than everyone else and then one night we looked around and laughed with 12 parents and 8 little kids running around, we all looked different, had all types of different jobs but realized we all had the same joys and worries.. "how would our kids turn out and were we being good parents".

Hang in there.. You may have to step out of your comfort zone to start meeting others.. It will be worth it..

Well if you're interested, I'd love to chat and see if we hit it off! I moved here 8 years ago after college and have since met my husband, with whom I have a 4 year old girl and 9 month old girl. I'm also turning 30 this year. We are in the Oak Hill area right now but moving to Lake Pointe in Bee Cave probably within the next month. We have both had problems meeting people in Texas, and it seems lots of people here are flaky. Though we wondered if it's just us?!? :) Anyway email me if you'd like, it's ____@____.com.
Otherwise, you could try doing a Craig's List ad in the personals. I met a girlfriend here who had posted an ad, and we are like 2 peas in a pod. I know that's pretty rare, especially at our age! But I browse those ads pretty regularly, too, just in case! I also am in a Bunko group with my MIL and they happen to be a wonderful group of girls. I'm the baby of the group, but they are lots of fun and I've known them for years. I also invited a girl who works at the bank I went to to go to Bunko with me, and she has a girl a little older than my oldest, so we've hung out several times since.
Anyway sorry I'm rambling, but my point is that you should try several avenues and keep trying! I know it sucks sometimes, but there are other genuine people out there who are also looking for friends later in life. Stay confident and have a wonderful birthday!

Yes, meetup.com. I am a member of South Austin Fun Moms through meetup.com. We "meetup" with our children at least 2-3 times a week. And, we have a mom's night out around twice a month. I don't know what part of town you live in, but SAFMs is a blast and we can whine to each other about how "hard" our lives are that day. Good luck.