Need Help--potty Training and Stuck

I wouldn't train her for now. When she is ready and wants to potty train which may be in a couple months, it will be done in a day or two. I was stressed teaching my 1st and now with 5 kids, I just let it go until they are ready. I am happier and they are happier. No messes to clean up. good luck.

As frustrating as it is, it is really a normal response now that your daughter is around a baby. I wouldn't worry about pushing her at this point, because it will probably become a power struggle if you do. Then you will REALLY have your work cut out for you! Regression happens to lots of kids for so many different reasons. The best thing you can do for both of you is to relax about potty training, and know she will get through this and on track again when she's ready. You can check with her periodically, but don't worry! When I had my 1st child and he was approaching 3 and still not potty trained, I had a conversation about it with a friend who had 7 boys. Her attitude really helped me with the whole thing. She said her 1st happened to get trained at 18 months, the 6th at about three and half and all the rest everywhere in between. She was so absolutely relaxed about the whole thing and reassured me that they all get there eventually, and since you cannot force anyone to 'go' when they don't want to there was no point in worrying about it. She was so right, and with all 3 of my kids things went really smoothly... on THEIR timetable. And yes, we had some regression issues here and there, and I basically started from scratch when it happened. She will get there. I promise! Good luck...

I agree with all the mothers that say wait!! I am a mother of 4. 22, 20, 18 and 2 1/2. I feel like I cant speak with some experience. lol Before I had my first child, I used to teach preschool autistic children. During that time I helped potty train up to 20 of these kids. Needless to say, by the time I had my own I was sick and tired and experienced in this field. I was pretty laid back. Long story short, all three of my older kids where potty trained within a week of their third birthday. I have done some reading and researching and I have found that this is a very natural age to potty. And much easier!!!!! For everyone involved. If you force them before they are ready it will be much more difficult for all involved. I am not in any hurry to train my little girl right now. She is showing no signs of being ready but I am always watching and suggesting just in case. She needs it to be her thing not yours. Empower her by engaging in this when she wants to. Best of luck

Hi M., a lot of kids will regress when a new sibling is brought home. Maybe your daughter is doing this with her relatives child. She probably sees all the attention that the baby gets and thinks that she wants it instead. I would back off on her for a little while until she decides she wants to try again.

Hi, M.. My 2 and 1/2 year old daughter did a similar thing when my 4-month old son was born. In fact, the 2nd night we were home from the hospital, she went into his room, squtted on the floor, and peed! (LOL b/c you have to!) She also would pee while sitting on the couch next to me while I nursed her brother. I talked to my pediatrician, who did not recommend putting her back into diapers, b/c it would reinforce the regression. Instead, I made sure I was spending enough one-on-one time with my daughter so that she was getting the attention she needed. THink about it: what better way to get mom or dad's attention than to wet your pants and need help getting cleaned up? So, my husband and I implemented alone time with our daughter, which helped a lot. Along the same lines, we stopped giving her so much attention when she wet her pants. We would tell her, "Oh, too bad. We do that in the potty, not on the floor. Go get yourself cleaned up, please." She would have to get her own clothes off, wipe herself up, help clean up the urine, wash her hands, and get clean clothes on. Once she was doing more of this on her own, it became way less fun to wet her pants. We also reminded her of all the things she could do that her baby brother can't (like eat ice cream!) and how happy we were that she is who she is and not a baby. And, lastly, we reimplemented a sticker chart, which helped some, but not as much as making sure she was getting attention. Now my daughter goes on her own 100% of the time, and is even staying dry through most nights. Hope this all helps. Good luck! Your daughter will get there, too!

Don't put pressure. Check out books or buy books and dvds about kids using the potty. Let her get used to the idea on her own and decide she wants to be a big girl. Some kids take a really long time but it is so important for them to feel like it's something they're ready for.
K.

Make her totally reponsible for her potty.Don't bug her about going. Let her be in charge of her body. That means if she has an accident she has to clean herself and her clothes. (Put a bucket with water and laundry detergent in the bathroom for her to put her dirty stuff, and wipes and wash clothes where she can use them) I know it sounds a little harsh, but it was the only thing that worked for one of my kids. .... Remind her of all the cool things that she gets to do and have that babies dont.
It will probably take a week or more, but you'll probably see that it works.

J. B

Wait 6 months and try again.

my advice, let it go for awhile. Just leave it be. She'll get back on track but it's not a battle you'll win (you'll just be frustrated). She'll re-potty train when she's ready.

We had a similar problem w/ my little guy. He showed some interest when he was about 2 and then after about a week of trying then, he absolutely REFUSED to use the potty. I was so frustrated. I went ahead and put him back in diapers and we were a lot happier. His little sister was born about this time, and he told me the same thing quite often.
What finally worked for us was helping him see that being a big boy was a great thing. We gave him extra priveledges when he acted like a big boy. We started w/ things that were not related to going potty. For example, when he cleaned up his room w/out complaining, I praised him for being a big boy and we would read extra stories at nap time, I'd be sure to say things like, "Your little sister doesn't get stories at nap time, because she's a baby". Any little thing that I could find that he could do that his sister couldn't "babies can't eat pizza! Aren't you glad you're a big boy!" One of the things that really got him excited about the big boy thing was being able to "stay up" w/ us and watch a short movie. It was a special time that was just for him. He got to pick out something that was 1/2 hour or less and he really looked foward to his time w/ us. Within a couple of weeks, he decided he liked being a big boy and wanted to wear underwear and use the potty. Good luck! I know how hard it is.

i would treat her like a baby, limit the things that she likes doing, and say that babies can't do those things. maybe give her the nasty baby food, and say that's what babies eat. if she throws a fit, tell her that she must need a nap because that's usually what babies need when they get fussy.

Let it go. I know this will be hard but put her back in a diaper. tell her that when she is ready to be a big girl again, you will bring out the underpants and toss the diapers. Say: it's your choice. Lots of kids aren't trained until three or just before. You might be surprised that if you are like: I could go either way and don't care, she will just pull out underpants one day and be done with it all...less stress on you both. Let it happen on her time; she needs to regress right now for security.

here is a little trick
when she askes you for something --ie; food,drink,movie,
come back with go potty first and be consistant. if she doesn't do what you want then she doesn't get what she wants .
also you could say time for snack but first it is potty time.
i also used to take my kids with me everytime i went potty and i got a potty video.
don't give up stay consistant.
don't use pullups
make her atay in her pee pee panties and poopy pants teach her how to wash them in the toilet.
have her pick out some new panties that she wants to be a big girl.
star chart when she goes potty.