Need Facts About Getting Tubes Tied

Hello, I was 28 when I got mine done...1 day after giving birth to my daughter (now 5mos old). Needless to say, I was sore, but it was worth it.

I would get a Copper IUD (Paraguard) it lasts for 10 years. That is what I have & I love it! No side effects & no thinking about it!
Brekka

I too have a husband who refuses to do his part on birth control. Were expecting our third child and i want to be done after this. We have talked about my options and his and it looks like its going to be me. I also talked with a Dr., and there is a newer procedure that they do in the office visits that is permanent. Check out this web site and it gives you the information needed. Also ask your Dr. and they can give you some more information also.

http://www.essure.com/

i'm considering this since the recovery period isn't as bad as getting the tubes tied.

hope this helps!

I didn't think it was any big deal. The one piece of advice I would give though is to make sure you move after it. The gas they use to blow up your stomach works itself out afterwards. My friend came home and just laid in bed because she was sore and by morning she couldn't get out of bed because of the pain from the gas. I learned from that and every time I felt gasy I got up and walked. I was fine by morning, just a little tender.

I had my tubes tied about a year and a half ago. It was the best thing I have done, no more tedious birth control. It was same day surgery, I went in early in the morning and was home by early to mid afternoon. The first day or two I was really sore and tender but after that it wasn't bad. I'm a SAHM too, and the only thing was that I couldn't do alot of lifting for a week. That meant some of the normal household things I did had to wait. As the week went on the discomfort went away and things went back to for the most part normal (a few things I still had issue with). So pretty much for the first week I needed help with some things around the house just because I didn't want to tear my stitches and it was uncomfortable, but other than that it was not a problem. But one week of discomfort and not being able to do as much was worth not having to risk getting pregnant or having to mess with birth control.

hey i just got my tubes cut and tied in april 2nd wha was it that you wanted to know...???

K.,

I would get more info about getting your tubes tied. I was going to get it done then did more research on it, check this out. http://www.tubal-reversal.net/post_tubal_ligation_syndrom...

Not to scare you, just be aware. I'm sure there's many ladies that have had it done and are just fine. My hubby just got a vasectomy on friday. He's doing fine. They give him valium before the procedure and it's not that bad! It's so much less evasive for the man to get it done! I hope you get some good info from ladies on here to help you make a decision.
Also, IUD can be good, but you can still have a tubal pregnancy with IUD's. I had one put in then removed because she "forgot" to tell me I could still have a tubal with an IUD and I already had two of them!
Some things that are good for some people are not so good for others. RESEARCH everything before you do anything. Having something foreign in your body is not always a good thing either. LIke the new procedure they have for women. Check things out and be informed. Hubby going is the best bet!

Have you considered a Mirena IUD. I know it's not considered permenant, but pretty close. Each IUD lasts 5 years and is the most effective form of birth control. Once it's in you can completely forget about it. To insert it, all you need is a Drs visit. No hospitalization, no sugery, no recovery time. I am getting the IUD b/c i don't want to worry about birth control. When I spoke w/ my Dr. about it she said that alot of women are doing it in lieu of sterilization because it's easier to do. These women are just coming in every 5 years until menopause, which you would need the appt anyways to check for cervical cancer.

There is a simpler procedure that some physicians offer, it is done in the office and it involves inserting a coil in the fallopian tube. The procedure is called Essure, check with your OB to see if they do it or know a doc in your network that does.

I just had my tubes tied on April 23rd! Wow! You have absolutly no reason to worry! I was in recovery for 2 hours, and my Dad drove me home! I had about a days worth of pain pills, and it actually was uncomfortable to roll around on my bellie for about a week, but not in any real PAIN!I just had my 4 week check-up this past Thursday, and everything is healing just fine!I have a slit at about my pubic line, and they went through the belly button! I highly recommend it! My sister got the assure done on April 27th, and she's still bleeding heavily, and is miserable! Plus I saw a pic of it and it just don't seem right!Good Luck! Angela Behrends

hi K.
I had this done in December. I am not sure what you would like to know. If you want you can ask me questions and i will answer them the best i can.

Personally, i think it is nice not having to use anything anymore for birth control...i have 4 children, 13, 15, 3, and 20 mos.
but i do have a scar, and the recovery time and pain that i experienced was harder and longer than when i gave birth (naturally) to all 4 of my kids. if you've had a c-cection than i'm sure you'll be fine.
but i lost all my pregnancy wieght after each child was born. i mean even after my last child, i lost all the wieght i'd gained....i was thin- actually...was nursing so that helped alot!!
But once i stopped nursing, 9 mos...i have struggled with my weight ever since!!
i've gained approx 20 lbs...my energy level is low, i experience back aches everyday....i just feel that my body has gone down hill ever since i had my tubes tied. this all may be just from the weight gain, but why am i gaining soo much this time and not after any of my other pregnancies??????? not sure how to get a handle on this, this is the biggest i've ever been in my life.
wieght is at 170 normal for me is 130.
i'm miserable and i'm only 5'5.
i would like some advice as well??? GOOD LUCK TO YOU~

I haven't had my tubes tied, my last husband got "fixed" and we were divorced a few years later... I'm not saying that you will get a divorce, but I'm wishing I had gotten my tubes tied, because now I'm on birth control and I'm getting to the age that it's not really safe for me to be taking them any longer, I will have my tubes tied soon. I think it is entirely up to you. A lot of the ladies have giving you reasons not to have it done, what they haven't really given you is the actual percentage of problems, I bet if you went to talk to your doctor you'll find out that the percentage of women that had major problems is very low.

If you are really sure you do not want to have any more children, I say make an appointment and get it done. As for periods being better or worse, I think it depends on you. I had pretty good periods until I turned 35 and then I started to bleed heavely and I had cramps for the first time in my life.
Good luck hun

I don't for sure know that this is what caused it but I've heard this from many people. After having my 2nd child I got my tubes tied and since have had horrible periods to the point I went to the doctor and they put me on birth control to help, but they are still really really bad. I have many people say the same thing even though the doctor says theres no medical proof of it. The surgery went very well and I had no problems recovering from it. I had it done right after my son was born so I was already in the hospital but I was up and moving when we got home so other then a little discomfort 2 -3 days I was good to go. Hope this helps!

Hey K. --
The three women I know who have their tubes tied have had terrible periods since they had it done. All of them are on some time of birth control as well. I didn't realize that was happening to so many people.
A few people mentioned an IUD, and I just wanted to add that I LOVED my mirena. And contrary to popular belief, the Mirena contains hormones just like the pill, and in most women it prevents ovulation as well as implantation (just like the pill).
If you aren't completely sure, I'd definitely go with something like an IUD. I recently had my mirena taken out so we could try for bebe #2, and it was easy as could be. Since it lasts 5 years, it would give you some time to figure out exactly what you want.
Good luck with whatever you decide!

Hi - I have to concur with the suggestion that your husband really reconsider this. Having a tubal ligation requires abdominal surgery, with the longer recovery time and pain and risks associated with surgery. A vasectomy can be done on a Friday afternoon & the man is back to work by Monday morning.

Another option you might consider is an IUD. It's not a permanent solution, but there are several types available. You can get one that is good for 1 year, 5 years, or 10 years. IUDs have come a long way since the 70s, when there were issues with them. They're also one of the most reliable methods of birth control available.

Good luck!

When I had my tubes tied almost 14 years ago I was back to work in 4 days. I was sore the day of surgery and about 2-3 days after. Nothing severe. You can not lift anything over 10 lbs. for a week to 2 weeks. To me it wasn't too bad and I was a single parent at the time with a 5 year old and an 8 month old. So I literally had to do everything the whole time during my recovery. I also worked 2 jobs at the time too, including taking care of the house and yard etc. Good luck to you.

I just had mine done about 2 weeks ago. However, I had a c-cection at the same time so it's a little different for me. I feel pretty good. Just remember this is a major surgery. It is done in a hospital where your husnads procedure would be done in a Dr. office. They will most likely use a general anesthetic. I'm not sure of the normal recoperation time for it.

Hi K., I had my daughter in Oct of 2006. It was our first together but we each have our own from a previous, so we have 3 daughters. 13,12 and now 20 months. I know I do not want to have anymore. I talked with my OBGYN and he explained everything to me and I had no hesitation. I went in on a Friday afternoon at 2pm and I was out by 6. When i woke up I was just a little woosy from the drugs but not in any severe pain or anything. I went home, woke up on Saturday morning, my stomach was a littley achy but nothing major. By sunday I was feeling 85% normal. Monday I was back to work. It really has changed i think since the ways they used to do it. He made one small incision I suppose a few inches below the belly button and went through the belly button. I have no scar. Read the pamplets, talk to your doctor. I have no regrets and even my periods are lighter now. (The first few though were bad but it gets better)

Hope that helped!

Try to talk your husband into getting it done. It really is much easier on him than it will be for you. They use a small laser now instead of actually cutting and the recovery time is shorter with little pain. Research the facts on the web and see if he'll come around.

You don't need to have your tubes tied--you can have a minimally invasive procedure done in the gynecologist's office called the Essure (sp?). If your doctor isn't talking to you about this option, you might want to check into another. I can give you recommendations in the mpls/stp area.

Let me know if you have questions.

G.

I would go with the "Essure" if you are very sure you do not want anymore kids. This is 100% nonreversable. Its just a 10 to 15 minute presedure and does not take long to recover. The doctors would just like you to take that day off and then depending what your job is, you can go back the next day as long as you take it easy.

Dear K.,
After our last child was born, I knew that I wanted something permanent. My MIL was not happy, but I just knew that even if my husband thought he wanted another... he wouldn't if it actually happened.(Which he says on a regular basis, he is glad we aren't doing THAT again!) So, two days after Nathaniel was born, I had my tubes tied. ( I also had to have additional surgery, but I am sure that things would have been the same if I didn't) I was nervous, but my doctor was great. I was put to sleep and when I woke up, I just felt like I was having a hard time breathing.. but a nurse was there to talk to me, and told me to slow down and that I was just waking up. I heard one women crying who I am sure was there for the same reason and another man across from me was trying to get up... this was in the recovery room, so we were all curtained off, but I could still hear them. I guess we all come out of it our own way. (I cried waking up after getting my wisdom teeth pulled) Afterwards my husband took me and the baby home and I felt some like cramping... but nothing unbearable. My dr said he took out a section and sauntered the ends... and having been known as the most fertile person ever by many people.. I have remained pregnant free and have no regrets. I will be 30 this year and I just know that it was for the best. I figure if I ever did want children in the future, there are many that are looking for homes already. He just did the surgery through my belly button, which I think is the norm now, and I just had a few stitches there, otherwise nothing else.
Good luck.
J.

I had an IUD for about 2 years after my daughter's birth, and then had a tubal done. I didn't notice anything unusual, nor did I have any specific pain (however, I did have a hemmrhoid taken care of at the same time, so it could be that the pain from that overmasked any from the tubal).

Anyway, I didn't notice any difference in my periods==they were as long and bothersome as they'd always been, with PMS about the same. So having an IUD or a tubal didn't change them at all.

For me, I liked both of them equally well, but the tubal helped put my mind at ease concerning unwanted pregnancy (the less than 1% chance of still getting pregnant even with a tubal...my husband and I decided that, if God's Will was for us to have another child, then we would. Otherwise, we don't even think about it.).

It's a big decision. Talk to a lot of women on their choices and experiences (like you're doing here), and also your OB/GYN. Like I said, I'm glad I tried both of them, and am glad I had the tubal done.

It's one less stress/worry taken care of.

A. C

I have had a tubal. I had mine right after the birth of me son. The procedure was over quickly...They put me under & when I woke the pain was a lil harsh for the first day... But part of that was my body going back to normal from the birth..But the result is worth the pain.Takes a lil while to feel normal about a week or two.For that time you are not allowed to do any lifting or Vacuuming. That some times is hard to do. Once I got back to normal I loved the fact that birth control is no longer an issue.. I am glad I had the procedure.

My periods actually got lighter after having tubal ligation. Go figure!

Couple thoughts.
1) Some have suggested IUD. My understanding is that an IUD effectively prevents a fertilized egg from implanting in the uterine wall. I don't know what your comfort level is with that, but wanted to make sure you're aware it can interupt things at that point (rather than pure prevention of fertilization).
2) Noticing your age and 2 little ones, I'd echo the suggestion to avoid hurrying into making a permament decision like a tubal ligation. It very well may be the right thing for you. However, if situations changed you might regret it (heaven forbid your good husband were killed in an accident and you remarried 6 years down the road, you might be in a different position then and like having the option of having another child.) Food for thought. Good luck.

I'm not much help in telling you what to expect, as I had mine at the same time as my c-section when the triplets were born. My recovery was unusually slow, I think, but I had been on 7 months of bedrest prior. All is well now!

SAHM of 6 (12g,10g, 9b, 4g, 4b, 4b..yes, triplets..then the tubal ligation!)

Hi K.. I haven't had my tubes tied. And everybody here has given you great advice, facts and their experiences with this. I just wanted to say that right after I read your request my first reaction was, "She's thinking of having the surgery already?" Your children are 2 years and 9 months. You are 28 years old. There's no rush in doing this. If you are on birth control just take that for another year or two and then do the surgery. And I agree with some of the other ladies when they said you should get husband to reconsider getting a vasectomy. What possibly could be the reason that he is "unable" to get one? That doesn't make sense to me.

I would just like to point out in defense of K.'s husband that it is his right to not have a vasectomy. We women often make a big stink about being able to control OUR bodies. Why do we forget that men have the same right? My hubby does not feel comfortable having a vasectomy, I respect that. I do not want my tubes tied, he respects me and we find other means of birth control.

K., my sister and one of my best friends both had their tubes tied in the last year or two and they have horrible periods to the point that they have to go on birth control anyway.
Like one poster said, what is not good for some is good for others and you may not have ANY difficulties. Good luck in your decsion making!

K., I think you need to talk honestly with your husband. A woman getting a tubal ligation is a far more complicated surgical procedure than a man getting a vasectomy. How is it that he is "unable" to get a vasectomy? For god's sake K., you are a SAHM with two very young children. You are already doing an enormous amount of work. Perhaps with some education on this subject do you think your husband might reconsider? If he ever wants to get his vasectomy reversed, it is far simpler as well to do this than a woman choosing to undo hers. A man with a vasectomy is no less of a man without one.

I have read online that "A majority of tubal ligations are laparoscopic (intra-abdominal) procedures that require several hours of hospital recovery time and days of recuperation. The potential serious risks with this type of surgery include perforation of the intestine, infection, complications from anesthesia and even pulmonary embolism. Less serious but more frequent are the long-term side effects of tubal ligation. These include painful menstrual cycles, pelvic pain and a controversial complication that is still under study, called "post tubal ligation syndrome."
You can read further about this at http://www.vascenters.com/tubal.htm
Birth control isn't just the woman's job. A tubal ligation is also much more expensive than a vasectomy.

I don't know why your hubby is "unable" to have his done...except that you said he's a little wussy. I would tell him to "suck it up and get over it." A vasectomy is an out- patient procedure and a couple of days on the couch with an ice pack. My husband had his done on a Thursday and was up and about (slowly) by Saturday and went back to work in a sawmill on Monday. You have 2 little ones to take care of...and having major surgery is not going to make taking care of them any easier. The choice is obviously yours, but I would definitely try to talk him into it. Or have your doctor talk to him. It's much easier on the man than it is on the woman.

Good Morning
I have had my tubes tied for 6yrs now, for me the recovery time was relatively short.
I had my tubes tied during my c-section, so I really didnt notice a difference in recovery since I was at the same time recovering from the c-section.
The only thing that I have noticed since having my tubes tied is that my periods have gotten heavier, and I tend to experience more cramping (not every month)
But I would say that if you could get this done on a friday and take the weekend to recover and then take the following week to slowly get back to your normal routine it shouldn't take long to recover (if there are no difficulties of coarse)
My husband was a BIG huge wussy too :)
Good Luck to you

I had my tubes tied this year after my son was born by c-section. DH was going to take care of it, but as I had to have major surgery anyway it made more sense for me to just "take care of it".

I've also had the procedures used to tie your tubes for other reasons over the years (primarily to get rid of endometriosis) and the recovery period for a lap is pretty short compared to a c-section. The last time I had it done was 2006 and it took me about 2 days to feel ready to go again and didn't need pain meds after the 1st day. And I have an awesome looking scar on my belly button! :-)

I read that tubal ligation can cause heavier periods, and I have noticed that this is true for me - though I can't be sure if that's because of the changes from giving birth again or the tubal ligation. But it's a lot heavier now than it ever has been, which is somewhat annoying.

It was way different from my c-sections, from which it took weeks to recover.

L.