Need BTDT Moms of Teen+ Girls with Sensory Processing Disorder

That isn't a sensory processing issue. I know because Genna doesn't have any sensory processing issues. My god! getting that girl to wear a bra was 20 levels of hell!!

We started working on it when she first started developing. Like the mosquito bite stage. We tried those stretchy training bras, she hated them. That little plastic thing drove her nuts! So finally I went with white sports bras. Those seemed to work though she still forgot to wear them every day.

Since then she has developed more and now prefers regular bras over the sports bras because the straps are smaller and don't peak out. The other thing is now that she has boobs, she doesn't forget! Thank god!!

This may not seem like much but this was a two year process which included peer pressure from her big sister she adores.
_______________________
Not saying she doesn't have sensory issues, god knows Andy has them. I was actually shocked that kid wears boxers. It is just Genna doesn't have any sensory issues but still hated the bras. We started when she was ten, she just turned 12, I would say she consistently wore them this year.

Oh fudgicles!! I just realized why she probably never forgot this year, sixth grade. She has to change into her gym clothes in an open locker room.....mystery solved. :)
____________________________
Looking at SweetChaos' answer, those were the bras were the same sports bras we found.

Do you work with an OT? That might be a good question for her/him.

SPD is rough . . . I never thought about the bra issue (have boys).

My daughter does not have SPD, but I was thinking the type of bra she wears might work for your daughter. The brand is called So and I buy them at Kohls. They are soft pullover sports bras with no underwire. They have no hooks and just slip on over her head. They are very soft and comfortable. I think my daughter might be ready to move up since she's getting more developed, but she loves those bras too much.

You might be able to order them online if you don't have Kohls stores in CT.

My granddaughter doesn't have sensory processing difficulty but this might work for your daughter too. Around that age, in the summer, we gave her tank tops to wear. She's now nearly 13 and wears a bra but just before she got the bras she had tank tops with spaghetti straps with a built in liner. Her first tank tops did not have the liner. When she started getting the ones with a liner she objected saying she didn't have "boobies" and didn't want to wear them. She was embarrassed about having breasts. We just told her that this was a different style. She didn't need breasts to wear them.

Next her mom added the soft sort of bra described by Sweetchaos. They are like a very short tank top. They don't look like a bra. They are a soft single layer of knit, t-shirt like fabric and just cover the bra area. By the time she needed the bras she was used to the liner and the tank top style training bra and it seemed like a natural transition.

I assume that you work with an OT, have massages etc. for her those will desensitise the area and make them more comfortable . Have you tried Accupuntrure (it is not needles for kids, it is magnetic).

Sports bras, all cotton? Let her pick them out? Try a size too big, and a size too small? I say that because my son has SPD and it can be 100 degrees out and he wants long pants and long sleeve. and it can be 10 out and he will run around in the house in shorts. I know his flucturates for him his hearing is effected some days and not others etc..

Talk with the counselor? They might be able to work with her on it. Maybe try a spagehtti strap bra'ed shrit? that migt get her started?

Good luck. Not sure if any of this helped.

Perhaps a comfortably fitting sports bra would be better than a traditional type.