Wow.....asking this question in this way when the economy is in such poor shape is, imho, just begging for some of the more angry responses you may get.
I realize anxiety and depression are no laughing matter, and I don't mean to trivialize the way you're feeling, but please consider what the moms have been telling you.
What they've said is true: It usually takes 2-3 YEARS (read: 2 - 3 denials/appeals) to be approved for SSD/SSI, even with an attorney working for you. There are exceptions, but if you don't believe me, watch some re-runs of news magazine shows (20/20 or the like) in which they clearly delineate that truly sick people *DIE* waiting for disability benefits - no joke.
During those 2-3 yrs you're waiting, you normally cannot be employed (because if you were, then you can work and don't need Disability). If you're independently wealthy and can deal with that, then you don't need Disability in the first place, either.
Most of those who apply have had years of multiple medical problems, (and the medical history/records to back that up), have spent their entire life savings (often, bankrupting them) on medical care, have repeated hospitalizations, have no health insurance.......in other words, they simply cannot work.
I have a feeling that if all Americans who had an "anal" boss and job stress that caused them anxiety quit (or forced their employers to fire them), the Disability System would be more immediately bankrupt, because no one would be paying in.
Think of this, too.......most people on SSI (vs. SSD) average $600/mo. I've heard of people on straight SSD receiving around $1000/mo. Try raising kids on that! Try living on that for years on end, and maybe you'll see why your attitude is offending to some of the other moms. I don't mean to sound snotty....... I just have a feeling that you may not realize how you're coming across.
Being permanently Disabled (or even, deemed "Disabled" for at least a year, which is the SS's definition; you have to re-qualify ea yr in that case) is no frivolous matter. When you treat it as such, you're bound to anger people.
My advice, like others before me, is, keep taking your meds (psych meds often take many weeks to work, and often, it takes many trials of different meds to find some that work), and keep looking for a new job rather than spending your energy fantasizing about Unemployment and Disability. As I'm sure others have mentioned, it sounds like there are many options you've not tried yet. Lots of info out there on managing depression and anxiety. I wish you luck, and peace, and I hope you never become truly "disabled".
Sorry to go on so long......you must have really hit a nerve in me (that's my problem, not yours!) because I keep coming back. I felt bad that I didn't even mention my appreciation for all of the people who've served in the military. Those that are lucky enough to have survived often come back with serious combat disabilities. The VA, although it appears to be *trying* now, often doesn't help, which leaves the Social Security system for these brave and unfortunate souls.
I just happened to notice this CNN article: "Staying sane in a negative work environment"
http://www.cnn.com/2010/LIVING/worklife/05/24/cb.sane.in....
If it's in the mainstream media, you know you're not alone!
Here's another recent article: "Disability Claims Spike, Mire Backlogged System" Looks like # of appeals is down for 1st time in a decade: "only" 723,000 waiting in appeals; 2 million waiting overall, though obviously, it's about to spike again. This article spells out the application process.
http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2010/05/11/national/main##...