Need Advice Husband Issue! What Would U Do? and Think?

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With a Husband like that, no matter how old your child is, she WILL get hurt... BECAUSE:
your husband treats you like dirt.
Your daughter will grow up, seeing and hearing that. Thus, your Husband's behavior toward YOU... will hurt her... cumulatively, over time.
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WHAT A JERK!

Let him read ALL of the responses you get.

DO NOT PUT UP WITH HIS Bull....
and tell him to GROW UP!

Tell him to get OUT of the house!
He is not suffering... he is still IN the house... what kind of separation is that?

He is taking you for a Fool.

i just posted a question similar to this monday morning... My husband is like yours. Except I didn't find any photos and he is the one who asked if we could go to counseling. Also, he cried when I confronted him. We too are being civil and he is staying in the home still until we decide for sure what we want to do. We have 3 kids and I don't want to stress them out and hurt them by him leaving if we end up working things out. I hope you can figure out what you need to do for you and your daughter. I'm afraid I can't really give advise when I'm in the same boat and not sure what I am going to do. If you ever want someone to talk to that won't judge or tell you what to do just email me and I will give you my number. We can txt or talk. I know it would be nice to have someone to talk to about it that won't judge me or tell me what to do... Good luck

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Chatting with previous boy/girl friends is okay in my book. Talking sex with them - nope - not unless we've okay'ed from the beginning.

Having a phone that is NOT in your plan, a pre-paid, throw away? NOT ONLY NO BUT HECK NO!!!

Communication is key. Yelling and screaming at him won't change it or his behavior. You BOTH need to go to counseling to learn how to communicate with each other and work through this together. It could be that this girl actually tripped his "go" switch and brought on some serious sexual side affects - it's been known to happen.

DO NOT be condescending, you are NOT his mother - you are his wife - HIS PARTNER - while I agree that you should NOT be intimate with him - you MUST communicate with him...do NOT withhold communication as it will NOT help the situation.

If you are going to do anything - DO IT - don't do it half-way. He made his bed, now let him sleep in it. Your daughter doesn't understand what's going on - you just need to let her know that daddy loves her and that you guys are having adult problems....use the KISS method (Keep It Simple Silly) and don't over do it with her.

I wish you Godspeed and the best of luck!

So you said he broke the phone, There was more reason to that then you know. You need to get a new phone with he same number and you need to go threw it and see what all you need to know.. Im sure theres more. Make sure you grapb hes sd card from hes old ohone.(if he already didnt do that). Untill I seen exactly what all there was I wouldnt do anything. Because finding thigs out peice by peice will make you react differenty.. just hold off and find all you can, IM sure it will all be in that SD card in hes phone. THem stand up like a lady AND TAKE ACTION! -good luck!

You did the right thing! Nothing but bad bad signs. I'm glad you are being smart!

You are doing the right thing. I think you need to tell him that it is time for him to move out and let him figure out how to get access to a car. You are the mother of his child, and he has been the one who has been acting like a dog, so I think you are the one that should keep the house and the car until he either straightens up his act and is ready to move back in or the court can decide on the issue.

In the meantime, start keeping an eye on where your assets are and possibly start a bank account that is in your name only, and start squirling away money into there. You may also want to consult with a divorce attorney (consultations are usually free) to see what you should do to protect yourself and your assets. Even though people start out the separation with the intent of being friendly and nice, most of the time it gets ugly real quick. Take the steps that you need to protect you and your daughter. He's clearly not acting in your best interest right now and he's a grown man, so you don't need to be as worried about his wellbeing as you do your own.

Sorry that you are having to go through this. Sending prayers your way.

Sweetie, These are HUGE signs of cheating. I've been "one of the guys" and have had it happen to me and this always happens. The hell no and then breaking his phone, the pics, the chat.... red flags. Unless he seriously does a 180, start protecting you and yours.