Well I read the other advice first and I agree boys can be challenging. I raised 4 boys and 1 girl. The boys are now ages 22-16 and my youngest , the girl is 15. First of all, don't forget to laugh with them. Second, make rules and stick to them.
Here are my rules:
DO not let them play video games and do not watch too much TV. I raised mine in a no video game household - it seemed as if TV and video games made their behavior worse so I limited it and it helped.
Make them help you. If you are cooking let them stir or pour or something - it makes them feel "bigger".
Make them pick up after themselves - have a place for everything and give them very specific tasks. Do not say "pick up your toys" say "Lets pick up the blocks", or Lego or whatever.You have to be there and show them, work together and eventually they will do it on their own.
ALWAYS make them feel like you need their help. Tell them you are a team and that you all must work together. Say things like "Would you please help mommy do..."
Make sure they have time outside, running, jumping, whatever. Boys need to use a lot of energy every day.
When it comes to getting dressed have a race. You dress the little one and have the bigger one dress himself and make it fun!
Make sure you take them somewhere once a week. Just you and them. Go to a park, or buy family passes to the Maryland Zoo, the B & O Railroad Museum, the Science center, etc. Then you can go for a few hours and go home, without feeling like you have to be there all day. There are different kinds of playgrounds all over.
When it comes to dinner, make it an event. Get them to help set the table, make sure there are rules like: No toys at the table, Ask to be excused, Use a knife and fork, Take their plate into the kitchen when they are done.
Make sure that there is an area in the kitchen where there are cups they can reach, so they can help put things away when they are clean. When my were too short to reach, I had them stack it neatly on the counter below where it went.
Kids, especially boys need responsibility. When you give them responsibility they naturally become more disciplined.
They also need definite structure - structure also creates discipline.
Give them a bedtime and stick to it. (mainly) If they go to bed a 8 make it a routine, wash, dress, bed, stories, sleep. If they do not want to stay in bed sit there until they fall asleep, putting them back every time.
Remember boys are exhausting, but oh so worth it. I constantly get compliments from people about how well-mannered my boys are. I was so structured my brother-in-law said I needed a small South American country that I could be the dictator of..LOL
When they were a little older I taught them to do their own laundry, and posted directions by the washer. Now that they are grown they are so grateful I did that.
I also created a chore chart. Instead of having one person clean the bathroom, the youngest cleaned the sink, another the toilet, one the floor, and one the tub. I broke the tasks down so nothing took long or seemed overwhelming.
So I think that covers it for me... please enjoy them now they grow up soooo fast.
About me: SAHM mom of 5, all homeschooled, 3 finished, 2 to go. Was a single mom for nine years, have been happily married for almost 6 years.