Native Spanish Speakers, Please Help with My Grammar!!

Updated on October 29, 2012
L.L. asks from Austin, MN
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I am what I guess I would consider an intermediate Spanish speaker. I can converse okay when people keep it simply and fairly slow, but I tend to get lost listening to OTHERS converse. Oh well, I'm working on it.

My grammar question for the day, because I haven't been able to figure it out, is WHEN do you add "se" to the end of a verb (in it's infinitive form)? For example: hablarse, quedarse. What does it do to these words, how does it change their meaning, etc? When do you use these forms of verbs? A few example sentences would be great, too, with translations.

Also, I am ALWAYS looking for any helpful hints or advice for learning. Muchas gracias!!

(Soy aprendiendo porque mi nueva iglesia is todo en espanol. Lo siento si me palabras no correcto...este es la meyor soy puedo.) That's about my level...I realize my grammar may be a bit off, but that's how I generally phrase my sentences without looking anything up.

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D.B.

answers from Boston on

ETA: Ooops - I corrected this because every time I wrote "yo" it autocorrected to "you" - I hate when that happens! Also I have no accents or tildes anywhere so you'll have to wing it!

It's great that you are trying so hard! I'm looking at your Spanish, and want to give you some basic rules for see vs. ester: Ser (e.g. yo soy) is for usual characteristic (Soy morena, ella es alta), origin (Soy americana) or time (Son las cinco de la tarde). Estar is for location (Estoy en mi casa) or temporary/action (Estoy aprendiendo el espanol).

You always want your articles & adjectives to agree with your noun, so "mis palabras no estan correcta" (my words are not correct) vs. "mi hermana" (my sister). I realize your post auto-correct just as mine has so it's frustrating to keep going back to fix things! I know you wrote "es" but auto-correct changed it to "is", for example! "Es la meyor soy puedo" - you're trying to say "This is the best I can do" but you have 2 conjugated verbes (soy and puedo) and you want to say "lo mejor que puedo hacer".

The other posts are correct about reflexive verbs - it's not completely intuitive. The "-se" ending is for doing something yourself or someone else doing it themselves. So quedarse is for you (or someone else) remaining where they are, vs. a bus waiting at the depot (which it doesn't do on its own) or you leaving the pencil on the table. See the difference? So "callate" (with accent on the first "a" is "shut up" or "quiet yourself" - in the command/imperative form. (And I haven't figured out how to do inverted punctuation, accents or other diacritical marks on here!)

Actually, the most sensible thing might be to ask a teacher friend for a spare textbook (sometimes from a discontinued series when they buy new texts) or to check with a textbook publisher or even a place like Amazon. See if you can buy the teacher's version that has the answers! The lessons are generally organized in a logical fashion so you learn verbs that relate to each other (and conjugate similarly), how to use direct and indirect object pronouns (as you tried to do in "la mayor...", and, yes, reflexive verbs. It's actually easier than learning English in many ways because the Spanish words vary more than the English in many cases! If you use a textbook and actually practice the exercises and THEN check the answers, you will learn a lot. And the books are designed for native English speakers.

I commend you for learning another language - it's such a gift, and it's so important that Americans see themselves as part of the world community and willing to reach out to others. So many of us have attitudes like "English is supreme" and there's a level of arrogance about "Learn English, or else I have no use for you." So keep it up! Don't be afraid to enroll in an adult ed class - you will get to practice with others, and that's invaluable!

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S.L.

answers from New York on

http://www.studyspanish.com/lessons/reflexive1.htm
this explains it well adding the -se means it's a reflexive verb, used when you do something to yourself (dress yourself)

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F.M.

answers from San Antonio on

You sound pretty good. And good for you for trying so hard. I am not a native speaker, but learned spanish as my second language and even taught elementary school in Spanish. I will assume that the link provided below will be your good teacher. I am not good at explaining reflexive verbs. But I can give you a few examples!

"Me ducha" - I shower (I showered myself)
"Se desperto" (accent on the o) - He/She woke up (She woke herself up)
"Me cepille" (accent on the last e) - I brushed (I brushed myself)
"Me quedo en casa" - I stay home (I keep myself at home)

As far as your Spanish above - ".... si MIS palabras no ESTAN correctos..."
Since you said "palabras/words" and those are plural, the rest of your modifiers (?is that the right word?) need to also be plural "mis/my" "estan/are" "correctos/correct"

and "This is the best I can do" would be "Este es la mejor que puedo" or "Este es la mejor que puedo hacer." You will never have a "soy puedo" - two verbs in the same form - first person.

Feel free to PM me in the future. I think sometimes it takes a non-native speaker to explain things. When I taught native speakers, they knew how to say things (the difference between llevar and traer) but couldn't really explain to me WHY one was used in one situation and not in the other. And most native-speakers I know have no CLUE where to put an accent mark. (No offense to those of you who read this that DO know accent marks!)

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K.H.

answers from Detroit on

And I say English IS the official language of this country but let's be welcoming and understand that it's difficult to learn a new language as an adult. Remember that we are a country of immigrants - not all of them are from English-speaking countries!

ETA: I guess I could try to answer the actual question. From what I remember, those are reflexive verbs. Lavar is to wash, lavarse is to wash oneself. Do a search for 'reflexive Spanish verbs' and you should find a good explanation. This was the first one google listed for me: http://www.studyspanish.com/lessons/reflexive1.htm.

ETA2: I haven't used this in about 20 years so it keeps coming back in pieces. It also depends on the tense. So me lavo is I wash myself and te lavas is you wash yourself. Make sense? (Someone please correct me if I'm wrong.)

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D..

answers from Charlotte on

I can't believe you were told to make newcomers fret over proper English grammar. There is nothing wrong with you learning Spanish, for crying out loud. You go girl! You are exercising your brain in a great way. Kudos to you!

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A.R.

answers from St. Louis on

Congratulations mom!
Do not let anyone H. or anywhere else to tell you wrong things about learning Spanish or another language. Languages are part of general culture, education and wisdom. I am not bragging about it , but I feel glad and proud that I am fluent in 4 languages (Spanish, English, French and German, a little bit of Portuguese..learning..), and it has opened a wonderful door to me....My kids are bilingual and fluent on both languages (written and spoken)....the World IS many beautiful countries, fine and interesting people....!
Now to the point......"SE" refers to INFINITIVE verbs in Spanish, not all of them, but many, let's see a few examples:
PararSE = To stand up
QuedarSE= to Stay
PonerSE = To put on

Something I notice a LOT in people learning Spanish is the struggle with the Verb To Be. In Spanish means ser o estar:
I am = Yo soy/ estoy
you are= Tu eres/estas
he/she/it is = El/Ella/este es/esta
we are= nosotros somos/estamos
they are= ellos son/estan
The pronoun YOU , in Spanish is for singular or plural, you=usted or tu, you=ustedes.
usted= for elderly or authority person and tu= for friends or younger people.
you should say: "Estoy aprendiendo" It is not correct "soy aprendiendo",
you should say:"...si MIS palabras (plural) no SON correctas"
Spanish grammar is not easy at all. In my opinion is easier English grammar.
I am sorry but there are some incorrect examples/translations H., some of them:
You should say: "ME ducho" ("I shower myself")
"This is the best I can do" is translated correctly to "Esto es lo mejor que puedo hacer",
The correct word is conjugation not conjucation.
If you know your English grammar well, any other language will be easier; however, this doesn't keep you away from learning others at all. Keep trying and keep learning at any age, any language ,anything....This is one of the best legacies we can give to our children: teaching them we are able to learn anything at any time". Look for Rosetta Stone textbooks if you are serious about this, I have found very good material in the bookstore Barnes & Nobles, try there.
Keep doing it..you CAN do it!!!
If you need more help..H. I am....

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S.B.

answers from Redding on

Hablarse is a conjucation of the verb "hablar"

Feel free to ask those at your iglesia to help you understand this.

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