A.B.
Hi, I have experience almost the same thing with my 4 month old daughter. She has really bad acid reflux and up until we found the right medicine and thickened formula, she would'nt sleep during the day but she sleep well at night, swaddled. At around 2 1/2 months, she started feeling better so she would nap during the day in her swing only but she would nap for up to 4 hours(probably catching up on lost sleep!!) unswaddled but i would still swaddle her at night. I used the kiddopatumus as well. At around 3 months, she established a 6-6:30 bedtime so I decided it was timet o try and unswaddle her. I would have to reswaddle her at least 2 times a night and I thought she was old enouhg and that her arm reflexes we almost gone that she would be okay but i was scared to do it b/c she slept so good at night. I went online and read tons of other mothers opinions and I decided to try cold turkey first and it worked. I did the same bedtime routine I always do, bath, quick massage with johnson's bedtime lotion and a bottle, but instead of swaddling, I put her in a warm sleep bag and the firts night, it took her alittle while to fall asleep because she wasn't used to her arms, so i would just give her the binky(which is the next thing i am going to try to wean her off of) the next night was better and the next night even better. Maybe i was lucky, or maybe she was ready to unswaddled, but babies will eventually learn and i believe it is better to do it sooner than later, before they get too "smart". some mothers said they would leave one arm out of the swaddle at a time to slowly transition the baby, but you should be able to read how your babies react. I thought mine would put up a HUGE fight and she surprised me!!
As for napping, I have the same problem. Last week I decided it was time to not sleep in the swing anymore adn I started putting her down in her crib. She would evnetually, after crying and me standing there holding the binky in her mouth ,fall asleep for 5-30 minutes and than she would lose the binky and scream without going back to sleep. I did this for 5 days and everyday she slept less(day and night) and got more cranky and tired looking. So i put her back in her swing and she is as happy as can be. I wish I could give some suggestions, though so far, I haven't had any luck getting her to nap in her crib, I guess she still needs the motion to sleep, thouhg at night she sleeps for 8-10 hours straight unswaddled in her crib. I am told by my doctor that habits form at 4 months and by others that when she is ready to sleep in her crib she will.....all i know is that she smiles all the time and I get more done and more rest, so we are both happier!!
Some people will say if they are sleeping that well at night, than continue to do what you are doing and they will let you know when they don't want to be swaddled anymore...maybe that is what they are telling you by breaking out at 3 or 4. I think the sleep bags are the best transition and one mother suggested sewing the arms shut at first to get them used to moving there arms around a bit more.
I wish you the best of luck and hope that you have just as much success with unswaddling and more success at napping. Do your twins need to be moving to nap and how do u feel about letting them cry? I feel bad after 5 minutes!!! keep me posted and if you have any tips on napping in crib, that would be GREAT!!!
I hope that helped a bit and if you have any question, don't hesitate!!
A. (Phoenix, 4 months)