i know the feeling-- this is so scary. my daughter came home from school with labored breathing two years ago and had to go to the ER that night and hospitalized with albuterol and steroids... at first the doctor told us it could or couldn't be asthma that after i think the 3rd episode it would be considered asthma. so this was 2 years ago, she's had to go the the ER two more times, but now we have the nebulizer at home and an inhaler so we know how to treat it before it gets bad. I will take her in to see a doctor if i think she needs steroids. on the average she has had maybe 4 episodes a year. some as close as a month apart, others as far as 7 mos. we've seen an allergist, which in my opinion is pointless...and most doctors we see want her on a daily steroid, which we won't do.
i've also seen a homeopath, and we finally found some success with a chiropractor who practices natural/alternative methods. he gave us a natural supplement w/o side effects that is an alternative to the steroids called Drenamin, and recommended kids' calm, which is a powder magnesium supplement you can add to water, that helps the bronchials. so when she has started to have an episode, i will treat her with both those supplements and then her inhaler or nebulizer as needed and it's worked. it was a relief to know there are other ways besides regular medicine to calm things down. one thing too, is she does not eat or drink any dairy to minimize mucous production and also, sometimes depending on her cough, we will use Boiron's homeopathic remedies, i think the last time we used antimonium tantarticum and that helped with her usual treatment. these supplements/remedies are all natural (except the albuterol) and we just take things as they come. one good thing that has come of this is that we don't have all the answers, but know how to treat it and get it under control and know what to expect instead of worrying about another overnighter in the ER.
it can be nervewracking to try to get to the bottom of the cause, so it's been nice to be able to know we can handle it without overmedicating her. hope this helps and good luck!