My Son's Father and I...

Updated on January 07, 2013
J.V. asks from Las Vegas, NV
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I have to say after all the advice that you ladies gave me and after a couple of months of trying to figure out what I wanted, I want to say thank you. Thank you for the encouragement and the push to help me get on the right track with myself. My son's father and I realize that it will never be the same and that we won't ever get back together. I can honestly say that I'm the happiest that I have been in a very long time. Once when I started working, I started to like I was worth something and that is when I finally saw myself in a different light. I was able to tell him how I felt, how he made me feel and how I gave him the power to do so. Well no more. Yes he is my best friend but nothing more. I finally feel free. I did try to see if it would work out but about 2 months ago I snapped. That was after my counselor told me to write about what I want from my relationship. The 3 major ones were trust, communication and to be loved. Once when I was expanding each area on paper I stopped and realize that I was never going to get that from him again. It all came together on paper for me to be able to take off my ring for once and for all. For me to realize that yes I am important and that it was time that I put myself first. I do still have my job that I got hired on for the holiday season. I'm so happy that now it's offical and not temporary. I'm going out more and having fun for once. My son see's that I am happier and not sad like I was for months. I know my son still hurts cause his dad isn't around anymore. That is something that I help him with day by day. I'm hoping to surprise him with a trip out to see his dad for spring break but that is still to be talked about with his father.
All in all thank you. Thank you so very much.

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So What Happened?

Recently I took off the relationship status on facebook that said I was married. It was hidden from everyone else but myself. I took if completely cause I couldn't lie to myself when I know for a fact that I will never get back together with him. Once when I did that my son's father asked why I did so and he did have hope for the past. He quit texting me as often and the only time he does is when I send a picture of his son to him. I'm happy that he now understands when I meant that I'm done and it's never going to happen again. I don't think I can say he is my best friend anymore. I have no feeling towards him. I do respect him cause he is my son's father.

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J., it warms my heart to read this entry from you. I've written on your other threads and have followed what you've been going through. I'm so happy that you are feeling better and have come through this with clarity in your mind and peace in your heart.

I do hope that at some point, your ex will not be your "best friend". He should be your son's father, but not your best friend. Finding another view of him will take time.

Hugs, and enjoy your job!
Dawn

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M.P.

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I, too, am very glad to hear of the great strides you've taken to make your life better for you and your son. Congratulations!

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I.W.

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Congrats!

It's very liberating to take your life back. I've been there myself. Good luck with your new life. I'm sure it will be amazing :)

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C.O.

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YAHOO!!! CONGRATULATIONS!!! For taking your life back!!! YOU GO GIRL!!!

Your son can still have his relationship with his father. Your relationship with your soon-to-be-ex-husband will change. But you will still be his parents!!

I'm VERY VERY HAPPY FOR YOU!!!!

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